The Power Of Meaning

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Introduction

The search for meaning is a universal human quest that transcends culture, geography, and time. While happiness has been extensively studied and marketed in recent decades, it fails to capture the depth and richness of a life well-lived. What elevates our existence beyond mere pleasure to something truly significant? This question sits at the heart of human experience, yet modern society often lacks clear guidance on how to answer it. Through extensive research and compelling stories of ordinary people leading extraordinary lives, we discover that meaning emerges from four distinct sources: belonging, purpose, storytelling, and transcendence. These pillars form the foundation upon which we can build lives of depth and significance. By understanding how these elements interact and support each other, we gain insight into why some lives feel hollow despite material success, while others flourish amid hardship. The journey toward meaning requires us to move beyond self-focus toward connection with something larger—whether through deep relationships, serving others, crafting coherent narratives of our experiences, or moments that lift us beyond our everyday concerns.

Chapter 1: The Crisis of Meaning in Modern Society

Despite unprecedented prosperity and technological advancement, modern society faces a growing epidemic of emptiness and despair. Depression rates have risen dramatically since 1960, with antidepressant use increasing by 400% between 1988 and 2008. Global suicide rates have spiked 60% since World War II, with recent years showing alarming increases among various demographic groups. These statistics reflect a profound crisis of meaning that afflicts even materially comfortable lives. Research conducted by Shigehiro Oishi and Ed Diener across 132 countries revealed a counterintuitive pattern: people in wealthy nations like those in Scandinavia reported higher happiness levels than those in poorer countries like Togo and Niger, yet residents of poorer nations often rated their lives as more meaningful. Even more striking, wealthier nations showed significantly higher suicide rates. Japan, with a per-capita GDP of $34,000, had more than twice the suicide rate of Sierra Leone, where per-capita GDP was only $400. This suggests that material prosperity alone cannot fill the existential vacuum many experience. The Russian novelist Leo Tolstoy exemplified this crisis despite his extraordinary success. At the height of his fame, having published masterpieces like War and Peace and Anna Karenina, Tolstoy fell into severe depression. Though wealthy, famous, and surrounded by family, he found himself constantly wondering: "What will come of what I do today and tomorrow? What will come of my entire life?" Unable to answer these questions, he concluded his life was meaningless and contemplated suicide. Philosopher Albert Camus addressed this existential dilemma in his essay "The Myth of Sisyphus," declaring that judging whether life is worth living amounts to answering "the fundamental question of philosophy." For Camus, life's apparent absurdity—our search for meaning in an indifferent universe—need not lead to despair. Instead, it offers an opportunity to create meaning for ourselves. He illustrates this through the mythological figure Sisyphus, condemned to eternally push a boulder up a mountain only to watch it roll down again. Camus suggests we must imagine Sisyphus happy, finding dignity in his struggle despite its futility. While religious traditions historically provided frameworks for meaning through connection to something eternal, many modern individuals lack these anchors. Yet research indicates that anywhere from half to two-thirds of trauma survivors report post-traumatic growth—finding deeper meaning through adversity. This hints at our remarkable capacity to forge meaning even in challenging circumstances, particularly when we employ the four pillars: belonging, purpose, storytelling, and transcendence.

Chapter 2: Belonging: Finding Your Place in Communities That Matter

The need to belong represents perhaps the most fundamental human yearning and a cornerstone of meaningful living. When we feel we belong, two conditions have been satisfied: we experience relationships based on mutual care, and we enjoy frequent positive interactions with others. Research confirms that belonging provides the strongest driver of meaning in life, which explains why isolation and loneliness so profoundly diminish our sense of purpose and worth. The critical importance of belonging became evident through pioneering research in the mid-20th century. René Spitz's groundbreaking 1945 study compared infants in an orphanage with those in a prison nursery where mothers could interact with their children. Despite the prison nursery being more chaotic and seemingly conducive to disease transmission, none of the nursery children died during the study period, while 23 of 88 orphanage infants perished. The orphanage children, deprived of consistent human contact and affection, developed what Spitz called "hospitalism"—a failure to thrive physically and emotionally. These findings challenged prevailing medical wisdom that discouraged parental affection as sentimental and potentially disease-spreading. French sociologist Émile Durkheim further illuminated the connection between belonging and meaning through his landmark study of suicide. He discovered that suicide rates were lower among married people than single individuals, and among those with religious affiliations that fostered tight community bonds. Integrating into communities imposed duties and responsibilities that gave life structure and purpose. Durkheim concluded that excessive individualism and freedom from social constraints—qualities highly valued in Western societies—correlate with higher rates of suicide and diminished meaning. Contemporary research validates these historical insights. A 2014 study by Oishi and Diener found that residents of poorer countries reported higher levels of meaning partly because they maintained stronger religious affiliations, had more children, and participated in more cohesive communities. Meanwhile, studies show that social rejection—even brief experiences in laboratory settings—significantly decreases participants' sense that life is meaningful. Conversely, high-quality connections with others, even fleeting ones like a thoughtful interaction with a store clerk, can enhance our sense of significance. The Society for Creative Anachronism (SCA), an international organization of medieval enthusiasts, demonstrates how intentional communities create belonging in modern life. Members gather regularly to recreate medieval culture through tournaments, feasts, and crafts. Through shared values of courtesy, service, and honor, they form deep bonds that transcend their ordinary lives. One member who struggles with depression described how SCA friends supported him during a suicidal period, reminding him that his absence "would make all of us here very unhappy." This simple statement of care carried him through dark times—illustrating how belonging provides an essential pillar for meaningful existence.

Chapter 3: Purpose: Using Your Gifts to Serve Something Greater

Purpose represents a stable, far-reaching goal that motivates behavior and organizes life's activities. Unlike fleeting objectives like getting to work on time or cleaning the house, purpose provides an ongoing direction that transcends immediate concerns. Crucially, purpose involves contribution—using one's strengths and abilities to serve something beyond oneself. This might manifest as raising children, improving community health, creating art that moves others, or countless other endeavors that benefit the world. William Damon, a developmental psychologist at Stanford, has found that only about 20 percent of young adults have developed a clear, prosocial purpose they actively pursue. These purposeful individuals demonstrate greater resilience, motivation, academic achievement, and life satisfaction than their peers. The remaining 80 percent either have vague aspirations without concrete plans, dabble in various activities without deep commitment, or express virtually no purpose at all. This purpose gap helps explain why many people drift through life feeling disconnected from meaningful engagement. The transformation of Coss Marte illustrates how discovering purpose can redirect even the most wayward life. Growing up poor on New York's Lower East Side, Coss channeled his intelligence and ambition into building a multimillion-dollar drug empire by age nineteen. After his arrest in 2009 and subsequent seven-year prison sentence, a health crisis forced him to reconsider his path. Learning he might die before release due to poor health, Coss developed a prison workout regimen that helped him lose 70 pounds and improve his condition. He began teaching other inmates, helping over twenty overcome obesity. This experience awakened him to a new possibility—using his entrepreneurial talents to help others transform their health rather than selling drugs that damaged lives. Upon release, Coss founded ConBody, a fitness studio specializing in prison-style workouts using body weight exercises designed for small spaces. His business now serves thousands of clients—"the same people I sold drugs to," he notes, but now positively impacting their lives. Coss's story demonstrates how purpose often emerges from self-knowledge combined with identifying how one's unique gifts can benefit others. Purpose provides direction and motivation, particularly during challenging times when immediate rewards are scarce. Research confirms that purpose enhances life across various domains. Adam Grant's studies reveal that employees who see their work as benefiting others report greater meaning and demonstrate higher productivity and persistence. Even in monotonous jobs like processing coupons in a factory, workers who view their labor as supporting their families show comparable energy and engagement to those who find the work inherently rewarding. This "service mindset" transforms seemingly insignificant tasks into meaningful contributions—whether one is raising children, teaching students, or sweeping streets.

Chapter 4: Storytelling: Crafting a Coherent Narrative of Your Life

Human beings are natural storytellers. We constantly construct narratives to make sense of our experiences, relationships, and identity. As anthropologist Mary Catherine Bateson observes, each of us engages in "an act of creation" through "the composition of our lives." Unlike fictional stories with predetermined arcs, however, our lives unfold through improvisation. Storytelling allows us to impose coherence on disparate experiences—and coherence, psychologists say, is a key source of meaning. Our storytelling impulse emerges from a deep-seated need to make sense of the world and our place in it. We struggle to tolerate randomness or chaos; instead, we seek patterns and connections that explain why things happen as they do. Psychologist Dan McAdams calls this process creating a "narrative identity"—an internalized story about who we are, how we became this way, and what it all means. Importantly, these narratives are selective interpretations rather than comprehensive accounts. We emphasize certain experiences while downplaying others, creating a storyline that helps us understand ourselves and communicate our identity to others. McAdams has discovered that people who lead meaningful lives often tell redemptive stories—narratives that transition from suffering to growth or salvation. In these accounts, negative experiences ultimately yield positive outcomes that give meaning to hardship. One person might describe how childhood poverty brought their family closer together; another might relate how caring for a dying friend renewed their commitment to nursing. By contrast, those who tell "contamination stories," where good experiences are spoiled by subsequent tragedies, report less meaning and greater depression. The narrative pattern we adopt significantly influences our psychological well-being. Emeka Nnaka's story exemplifies this transformative power of narrative. At twenty-one, Emeka was a college student and defensive end for a semipro football team when a routine tackle left him paralyzed from the chest down. This catastrophic injury shattered his athletic identity and future plans. As he struggled to adapt, Emeka realized that his pre-injury self had been "really into who I was" but "living a purposeless life." Through reflection, he reframed his injury as falling "down that mountain" of false priorities and discovering "another mountain—the mountain I was supposed to be climbing all along." He returned to college, became a mentor to teens, and pursued counseling as a career. Though still paralyzed, Emeka constructed a narrative where tragedy led to greater wisdom and service. Research confirms we can actively edit our life stories to enhance meaning. Psychologist James Pennebaker has demonstrated that writing about traumatic experiences in ways that seek to understand their causes, consequences, and significance produces measurable improvements in physical and mental health. Those who benefit most show progress in sense-making over time, moving from emotionally raw, disjointed accounts to coherent narratives with insights about how these events shaped their development. Through storytelling, we transform random occurrences into meaningful chapters of our personal narrative.

Chapter 5: Transcendence: Moving Beyond the Self Through Awe

Transcendent experiences—those moments when we feel connected to something vast and beyond ordinary understanding—constitute a powerful source of meaning. When we look up at a star-filled sky, stand before magnificent art, participate in religious ritual, or witness the birth of a child, we often experience a profound shift in perspective. Our sense of self temporarily dissolves, and we feel linked to something larger and more enduring than our individual existence. Psychologist David Yaden notes that during transcendent states, two remarkable things happen. First, our usual self-focus dissipates along with its petty concerns and desires. Second, we feel deeply connected to other people and everything else in the world. This dissolution of boundaries alleviates anxieties about existence and death, making life momentarily comprehensible and leaving us with a sense of peace and well-being. Though these states typically last only minutes or hours, their impact can persist for years or even a lifetime. Scientists studying the emotional response to vastness and mystery—which they call awe—have documented its transformative effects. In one experiment, researchers led undergraduates to view a massive Tyrannosaurus rex skeleton, then asked them to describe themselves. Compared to control subjects, those experiencing awe were significantly more likely to define themselves in terms of universal categories ("I am part of humanity") rather than individual traits or relationships. Follow-up studies revealed that awe-inspired participants felt "small or insignificant" yet simultaneously experienced "the presence of something greater." This paradoxical combination—feeling diminished yet connected to something massive—appears central to transcendence's meaning-making power. Meditation represents one pathway to transcendent experiences. Cory Muscara, who spent six months as a Buddhist monk in Burma, described how intense meditation practice eventually dissolved his sense of separation between himself and his surroundings. "I saw clearly that the idea of the self—of distinction, of me, of an inner and outer—is just an illusion," he explained. "When you become nothing, you realize that you are one with everything." Neuroscientist Andrew Newberg has documented such experiences by scanning the brains of experienced meditators. At peak moments of transcendence, activity decreases in the brain's orientation association area—the region that locates the self in space and distinguishes self from non-self. Without these neuronal inputs, the brain cannot maintain the boundaries that ordinarily separate us from our environment. Astronauts often report similar perspective shifts after viewing Earth from space—a phenomenon called the Overview Effect. Former astronaut Jeff Ashby described seeing our planet as "a sphere suspended precariously in the black void" with an atmosphere "strikingly thin, like a piece of paper covering a basketball." This experience fundamentally transformed his values from self-focused achievement to contributing to humanity's long-term survival. Like many who experience transcendence, Ashby emerged with a deeper sense of connection to something larger than himself and a stronger commitment to serving others—illustrating how transcendent experiences can profoundly reorient our understanding of what matters.

Chapter 6: Growth: Finding Meaning Through Adversity and Suffering

Life inevitably brings suffering—whether through illness, loss, trauma, or other forms of adversity. Such experiences threaten meaning by shattering our fundamental assumptions about the world as just, predictable, and benevolent. They can breed cynicism, destroy relationships, and drive people toward despair or even suicide. Yet paradoxically, adversity can also become a powerful catalyst for growth and deeper meaning. Psychologists Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun coined the term "post-traumatic growth" to describe positive psychological change resulting from struggling with highly challenging life crises. Their research reveals that anywhere from half to two-thirds of trauma survivors report significant growth in at least one life domain. This growth manifests in five areas: stronger relationships with others, discovery of new possibilities or paths, greater sense of personal strength, spiritual development, and enhanced appreciation for life. Like a city rebuilding after an earthquake with more resilient structures, those who grow through adversity develop greater psychological resources for facing future challenges. Bob Curry exemplifies this transformative potential. As a Vietnam War veteran, Curry suffered from untreated PTSD for decades. His condition worsened after the Gulf War and 9/11, leading to increased flashbacks and alcohol abuse. In 2002, while intoxicated, he caused a fatal car accident. Though acquitted of homicide after being diagnosed with PTSD, Curry was devastated by the harm he had caused both the victim's family and his own. Contemplating suicide, he instead experienced an epiphany: "Service is the only thing that makes sense after what happened." He founded Dryhootch, a community center for veterans disguised as a coffee shop, providing peer support in an alcohol-free environment. Through helping others avoid his mistakes, Curry found purpose in his suffering and has remained sober since 2002. What distinguishes those who grow from adversity from those who remain trapped in suffering? Tedeschi and Calhoun found that "deliberate rumination"—reflective processing that searches for meaning in painful experiences—plays a crucial role. Social psychologist James Pennebaker's research supports this finding. In studies spanning thirty years, Pennebaker has asked participants to write about traumatic experiences for fifteen minutes daily over several days. Those who progressed from chaotic emotional accounts to coherent narratives with insights about causes and consequences showed significant improvements in physical and mental health. Simply venting emotions provided little benefit; it was the sense-making process that proved healing. Resilience research offers additional insights into thriving amid adversity. Steven Southwick and Dennis Charney studied individuals who endured extreme hardships like combat, imprisonment, and childhood abuse yet emerged psychologically intact. They identified several protective factors, including having a worthy purpose, maintaining social connections, practicing spirituality or religion, and reframing threats as challenges. Remarkably, these resilience factors align closely with the four pillars of meaning: purpose, belonging, transcendence, and storytelling. Perhaps most encouragingly, research by Michele Tugade, Barbara Fredrickson, and others demonstrates that resilience can be cultivated. In one study, participants naturally low in resilience showed physiological recovery patterns comparable to highly resilient individuals when instructed to view a stressful task as a challenge rather than a threat. This suggests that adopting a meaning mindset—focusing on values, purpose, and contribution rather than self-protection—helps us navigate adversity more effectively and extract valuable insights from difficult experiences.

Chapter 7: Creating Cultures of Meaning in Organizations and Society

While finding meaning ultimately requires individual effort, our social environments powerfully shape our capacity to discover and sustain it. Across society, organizations and communities are increasingly using the four pillars of meaning to create cultures that help people flourish. These efforts counter troubling cultural trends like materialism, social disconnection, and constant distraction that undermine meaningful engagement. The transformation extends across diverse sectors. In education, The Future Project places "Dream Directors" in high schools to help students discover their purpose and develop plans to achieve it. These teenagers, particularly those from disadvantaged backgrounds, report greater academic motivation, stronger empathy, and accomplishment of goals they once thought impossible. By focusing students on how they can contribute to society through their unique talents, Dream Directors inspire young people to invest in learning and personal growth. Businesses increasingly define their missions beyond profit-making to emphasize positive social impact. Life is Good, an apparel company founded by brothers Bert and John Jacobs, exemplifies this approach. The company's upbeat messaging about optimism evolved into a deeper purpose when customers began sharing how Life is Good products helped them through cancer treatments, grief, and other hardships. Today, Life is Good donates 10% of profits to its Kids Foundation, which trains childcare providers to foster resilience in children facing trauma and adversity. This purpose permeates the company culture, giving even warehouse workers and receptionists a sense that their daily tasks contribute to something meaningful. Healthcare organizations are also embracing meaning-centered approaches, particularly in end-of-life care. Psychiatrist William Breitbart developed an eight-session therapy program for terminal cancer patients that helps them reflect on their identity, accomplishments, sources of meaning, and legacy. Research shows this intervention significantly reduces depression, anxiety, and desire for hastened death while increasing spiritual well-being and sense of purpose. By addressing existential questions directly, Breitbart's approach transforms what could be a time of despair into an opportunity for growth and connection. Age-friendly community initiatives demonstrate how public policy can foster meaning. New York City's program, launched in 2007, enhances belonging among older adults through physical improvements like additional benches and bus shelters, plus social initiatives connecting seniors with at-risk schoolchildren as mentors. These interventions reduce isolation while giving older adults opportunities to contribute their wisdom and experience—addressing both belonging and purpose. Research confirms that such programs improve physical and mental health outcomes for participants. StoryCorps, founded by Dave Isay, illustrates how organizations can nurture meaning through storytelling. This oral history project records conversations between loved ones in intimate booth settings, preserving their stories in the Library of Congress. Participants report feeling deeply heard and validated through the experience, often gaining new insights about their lives. The project deliberately launched its National Day of Listening on Black Friday as a counter to consumer culture, encouraging Americans to share stories rather than shop. By creating space for authentic storytelling, StoryCorps helps people discover coherence and significance in their experiences. These diverse initiatives share a common understanding: meaningful lives require belonging, purpose, storytelling, and transcendence. By deliberately cultivating these pillars in our communities, workplaces, and public spaces, we can create environments where people thrive rather than merely survive. Such cultures of meaning offer a powerful antidote to rising rates of depression, isolation, and existential emptiness.

Summary

The quest for a meaningful life centers on four fundamental pillars that reinforce and complement each other. Belonging emerges through relationships where we feel valued and have regular positive interactions with others. Purpose arises when we use our unique strengths to contribute to something beyond ourselves. Storytelling enables us to make sense of our experiences by crafting coherent narratives that integrate even painful events into a meaningful whole. Transcendence occurs in moments when we connect to something larger than ourselves, whether through nature, art, spirituality, or service. What unites these pillars is their outward focus. Meaning emerges not through self-preoccupation but through connecting with and contributing to something beyond the self. This insight offers profound guidance for navigating modern life. When we feel adrift or empty, the solution lies not in seeking more pleasure, status, or distraction, but in strengthening our connections to others, finding ways to serve, making sense of our experiences, and opening ourselves to wonder and awe. Those who build their lives upon these foundations discover that even amid struggle and limitation, their existence can be rich with significance and purpose.

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Emily Esfahani Smith

Emily Esfahani Smith is a journalist and the author of The Power of Meaning: Finding Fulfillment in a World Obsessed With Happiness (Crown). In this book, Smith argues that the unending pursuit of happiness has distracted us from what really matters—the search for meaning in life. Smith draws on psychology, philosophy and literature—as well as her own reporting—to write about the human experience. Her writing has appeared in the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, The Atlantic, The New Criterion, and other publications. She is also an editor at the Stanford University's Hoover Institution, where she advises the Ben Franklin Circles project, a collaboration with the 92nd Street Y and Citizen University to build civic engagement in local communities. If you're interested in joining or starting one, please reach out to Smith here. http://emilyesfahanismith.com/contact/Smith was born in Zurich, Switzerland, and grew up in Montreal, Canada. She now lives in Washington DC with her husband. A graduate of Dartmouth College, she earned a master of applied positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. For speaking engagements, she is exclusively represented by The Lavin Agency. Please visit her speaking page here for bio, topics, and videos. You may contact Charles Yao, Director of Intellectual Talent at Lavin, for more information, at [email protected].

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