The Upside of Uncertainty

The Upside of Uncertainty Plot Summary

Introduction

Uncertainty is a universal human experience that often triggers our deepest fears and anxieties. We instinctively avoid the unknown, seeking comfort in the predictable and familiar. Yet what if this very uncertainty—the state we work so hard to escape—is actually the doorway to our greatest opportunities? When we face uncertain situations, whether chosen or thrust upon us, we stand at a crossroads of possibility. The fog of not knowing can obscure our vision, but it also conceals infinite potential waiting to be discovered. This journey invites you to develop a radically different relationship with uncertainty—one where you recognize it not as something to fear, but as the necessary companion to every meaningful possibility in your life. By learning to navigate the unknown with courage and skill, you can transform uncertainty from a source of anxiety into a catalyst for growth, creativity, and profound personal transformation. The path forward may not be clear, but that's precisely what makes it worth exploring.

Chapter 1: Reframe Uncertainty as a Gateway to Growth

Reframing uncertainty means shifting our perspective from seeing the unknown as a threat to recognizing it as the essential gateway to growth and possibility. When we view uncertainty as dangerous, our brains trigger stress responses that narrow our thinking and limit our creativity. But when we consciously reframe uncertainty as the space where new opportunities emerge, we open ourselves to discovery and innovation. Martin van den Brink, chief technology officer at ASML, demonstrates this mindset in action. While leading a decade-long, multibillion-dollar breakthrough in semiconductor manufacturing, he embraced uncertainty rather than fighting against it. "I am never sure of my choice," he explains. "I can make a decision today and challenge myself an hour later and feel comfortable." For van den Brink, uncertainty isn't something to eliminate but to explore with curiosity. He observes that "people who can't handle the truth can't admit a mistake, and so they go blindfolded off the cliff." Instead, he suggests looking directly at the uncertainty, acknowledging it, and finding creative approaches to navigate through it. This reframing isn't merely positive thinking—it's a practical skill that transforms how we experience uncertainty. When filmmaker Benjamin Gilmour faced extreme uncertainty while filming in Pakistan's remote tribal areas, his equipment was impounded at the Khyber Pass. Rather than giving up, he continued on foot, allowing curiosity to guide him. This openness led to an unexpected encounter with a Pashtun boy whose family had manufactured weapons for generations but who dreamed of becoming a poet. This chance meeting inspired Gilmour's acclaimed film "Son of a Lion," which premiered at the Cannes Film Festival—a possibility that would never have emerged without his willingness to embrace uncertainty. To practice reframing in your own life, start by noticing your language around uncertainty. Are you using words like "stuck," "impossible," or "overwhelming"? Try replacing these with more possibility-oriented language: "I'm exploring options," "This is challenging but interesting," or "I'm discovering new approaches." This simple shift in vocabulary begins to rewire your neural pathways, creating new associations with uncertainty. Another powerful technique is to practice what psychologist Byron Katie calls "questioning your thoughts." When facing uncertainty, ask yourself: Is this thought absolutely true? Can I absolutely know it's true? How do I react when I believe this thought? Who would I be without this thought? This process helps separate facts from interpretations and opens up new possibilities that fear might otherwise obscure. Remember that reframing uncertainty doesn't mean ignoring risks or challenges—it means approaching them with curiosity rather than fear, seeing them as information rather than obstacles. As you practice this skill, you'll find yourself more resilient, creative, and able to spot opportunities that others miss in the fog of the unknown.

Chapter 2: Build Your Uncertainty Ability Through Small Steps

Developing your ability to navigate uncertainty doesn't require grand, dramatic gestures. Instead, it begins with understanding your natural relationship with different types of risk and taking small, deliberate steps to expand your comfort zone. This incremental approach builds confidence while minimizing overwhelming anxiety. Consider Nathan's experience as a PhD student at Stanford, feeling inadequate compared to the entrepreneurial culture surrounding him. During lunch with his mentor Tina Seelig, he confessed, "Let's face it, Tina, if I really had any courage I would become an entrepreneur, but I'm just not a risk-taker." Tina challenged this assumption: "I don't agree at all. I think you are a risk-taker." She explained that risk comes in many forms—financial, intellectual, social, emotional, and others. While Nathan wasn't comfortable with financial risk (appropriate given his responsibility for four children), he readily took intellectual and social risks. This reframing helped Nathan see that different people have different risk profiles, and understanding your own profile helps you navigate uncertainty more effectively. Another mentor, Bob Sutton, further expanded Nathan's thinking about risk. When Bob revealed that as a PhD student he had taken out a loan to hire assistants for his dissertation research, Nathan was shocked. Most students were pinching pennies, yet Bob had seen that investing in his research would accelerate his career. "If that's the bottleneck, then why not spend some money on it?" Bob explained that coming from a family of entrepreneurs had taught him that "you have to take the risk to create the life you want." To build your own uncertainty ability, start by creating a "risk-o-meter" that assesses your comfort with different types of risk—financial, intellectual, social, emotional, physical, and ethical. Identify where you have natural affinities and where you have aversions. This self-awareness allows you to play to your strengths while gradually expanding your comfort zone in areas that challenge you. Next, look for ways to fortify yourself in areas of risk aversion. This might include creating financial buffers, developing backup plans, seeking additional training, or building supportive relationships. Piet Coelewij, former senior executive at Amazon, deliberately built his courage by taking up kickboxing to confront his fear of physical confrontation. This practice made him "more comfortable with higher risk decisions in other settings with less complete information." Most importantly, take small, deliberate steps to expand your comfort zone. Seelig advises taking small risks to build confidence. When a small risk pays off, your confidence grows, enabling you to take slightly larger risks in the future. For example, Seelig normally kept to herself on flights, but once decided to speak to her seatmate to build her social risk tolerance. He turned out to be a publisher who, while declining her book proposal, later connected her with someone who did publish it. This small step led to an unexpected opportunity that might never have materialized had she remained in her comfort zone. Remember that building your uncertainty ability is a lifelong practice, not a destination. Each small step you take expands your capacity to navigate the unknown with greater confidence and skill, opening doors to possibilities you might never have imagined.

Chapter 3: Create a Portfolio of Personal Options

Many of us believe we need to go "all in" on a single path to succeed. However, research suggests that maintaining a portfolio of interests and projects—rather than putting all your eggs in one basket—can both decrease anxiety and increase your chances of success when facing uncertainty. This approach provides flexibility and resilience in an unpredictable world. Nobel Prize-winner Ben Feringa, who discovered how to create molecular machines ten thousand times smaller than a human hair, advises his students to maintain multiple projects simultaneously. "If you have only one foot to stand on, you will ride it all the way to the bitter end because you don't want to fail, even if it means you will ultimately fail. Instead, you want to have multiple pathways, multiple projects, and in a way get some certainty out of the portfolio of uncertainties. I usually advise my students to have at least one risky project and one less risky project so you have the confidence that at least something will work out." This approach mirrors the concept of "real options" from finance, where paying a small amount now gives you the right, but not the obligation, to take action later. Ricardo dos Santos, former head of disruptive innovation at Qualcomm, calls this the "maybe" approach: "If I could teach people just one thing, it would be the word maybe." Rather than committing fully to an uncertain venture, he recommends going partway in, treating it as an experiment to see where it could lead. Empirical studies support this wisdom, showing that at least half of new startups are created by "hybrid entrepreneurs" who keep their day jobs while starting something on the side. These entrepreneurs are 33% less likely to fail than those who quit their jobs to go all in. When Felicia Joy quit her job to start a seminar business with a partner, she ran out of money in six months. "It shook me to my core," Joy admits, "but it also gave me strength. It was not that I could not pursue it, but I needed to be smart about it." Later, she founded Ms. CEO Media while keeping her job until the company could stand on its own. To develop your own portfolio of personal options, start by taking stock of your current projects and interests. Which ones energize you? Which feel like obligations? Look for ways to start small on the things that matter most to you, perhaps as side projects alongside your main work or responsibilities. Eric Freeze dreamed of living in Europe during summers but didn't wait for the perfect moment. He started small—first directing summer programs for high school language students, then scraping together a down payment for a modest apartment in Nice, which he slowly renovated. Today, he and his wife live with their four children part-time in Nice and part-time in the Midwest. Give your projects space in your life—a dedicated drawer, shelf, or folder where you collect inspiration and ideas. Schedule regular check-ins with yourself to keep momentum going. Remember that options can start small and still be legitimate. The key is to avoid doing nothing while waiting for perfect conditions. By maintaining multiple pathways forward, you create resilience in the face of uncertainty and increase your chances of discovering unexpected opportunities along the way.

Chapter 4: Navigate with Values Instead of Outcomes

For most of us, success is defined by external metrics like fame, money, or recognition. But when facing uncertainty, focusing on outcomes we can't control only increases anxiety. A more powerful approach is to navigate by your values—the principles and qualities that matter most to you—rather than by specific goals or outcomes. After hundreds of interviews with remarkable individuals, many of whom received little recognition, Nathan began to doubt the conventional view of success. While it would be easy to promise that embracing uncertainty guarantees outsize success, that might actually be counterproductive. By focusing on external metrics, we expose ourselves more to the downsides of uncertainty—the anxiety and pressure of trying to achieve specific outcomes over which we have limited control. In contrast, by focusing on our values, we can make ourselves failure-proof! Consider how arbitrary conventional success can be. Ada Lovelace laid the foundations of modern computing but remains relatively unknown. Vincent van Gogh sold one painting during a lifetime of constant rejection. Nikola Tesla invented wireless communications but died penniless. Meanwhile, countless teachers, mentors, and parents receive almost no recognition for the sacrifices that enable others to reach new heights. David Heinemeier Hansson, creator of Ruby on Rails and Basecamp, rejects the view that we need to sacrifice everything to achieve a goal. "I've been working on internet startups, companies, apps for the last twenty years and have done so in a way that it never consumed my life." He argues that focusing on goals only creates the illusion of control while increasing anxiety. Instead, when selecting a new project, he focuses on values like learning from the experience, writing good software, treating employees well, and acting ethically. "I would rather set my approach up so that I'm thinking about 'OK, did the market like it or not?' Do you know what? If they didn't, I will still look back on the path—the two years and millions of dollars we spent developing this thing—and feel great about it." To navigate by values instead of outcomes in your own life, start by identifying what matters most to you beyond external recognition or reward. What qualities do you want to embody? What principles guide your decisions? What impact do you hope to have on others? Write a letter to someone who has inspired you, reflecting on how their values impacted you. This exercise can help clarify your own core values. When making decisions in the face of uncertainty, distinguish between what you feel you "should" do versus what you "must" do—the things that align with your deepest values. Ask yourself: "Even if this doesn't work out as planned, would I still consider the time and effort worthwhile?" If the answer is yes, you're likely navigating by values rather than outcomes. Ironically, extraordinary outcomes often come to those who focus on values rather than outcomes. A growing body of research shows that understanding the purpose behind a task dramatically improves performance. In one study, call center employees who spent just five minutes talking to a student who had benefited from a scholarship raised almost three times as much money as those who didn't. By connecting to the values behind their work, they achieved better results without directly focusing on them.

Chapter 5: Practice Emotional Hygiene During Challenges

Navigating uncertainty requires not just courage and strategy, but also skillful care of your emotional self. Just as our physical bodies need hygiene practices to stay healthy, our emotional selves require consistent attention and care, especially when facing the unknown. Historically, our ancestors paid limited attention to physical hygiene, which shortened their lives and increased suffering. When simple practices like handwashing were finally introduced, human life expectancy doubled. Similarly, neglecting emotional hygiene prolongs our emotional suffering when facing uncertainty. Psychologist Guy Winch illustrates this with the example of a woman who, after twenty years of marriage and a messy divorce, finally goes on a first date. When her date abruptly leaves, saying "I'm not interested," she berates herself: "You have big hips, you have nothing interesting to say. Why would a handsome, successful man like that ever go out with a loser like you?" As Winch points out, "You wouldn't get a cut on your arm and decide, 'Oh! I know—I'm going to take a knife and see how much deeper I can make it.'" Yet this is precisely what most of us do with emotional wounds. One key aspect of emotional hygiene is recognizing that emotions come in cycles or waves. Entrepreneurs almost universally describe their experience as being like riding a roller coaster, with incredible highs and incredible lows, sometimes in the same day. Understanding these natural cycles can help you sustain yourself through difficult periods, knowing that the lows will eventually give way to highs again. Luca Belpietro's story illustrates the power of riding these emotional waves. From childhood, Luca dreamed of living in Africa. After working for ten years to fund his dream, he and his wife moved to Kenya's Chyulu Hills, where they lived in a tent for two years while building a sustainable ecotourism lodge with the local Maasai tribe. After years of hard work, they succeeded in creating Campi ya Kanzi—only to see it burn to the ground one night due to faulty wiring. Looking at the smoking ruins of decades of work "was absolutely heartbreaking," Luca remembers. "There was nothing left, we lost literally everything." Despite this devastating setback, Luca understood that emotions come in waves. By allowing himself to feel the grief while also recognizing it would eventually subside, he was able to rebuild. Today, Campi ya Kanzi stands again, even more beautiful than before, continuing its mission of sustainable conservation. To practice good emotional hygiene in your own life, think of yourself as your own "uncertainty doula"—someone who provides physical, emotional, and informational support during a significant experience. A doula would remind you that waves of emotion are normal, give permission to feel them fully, and suggest ways to sustain yourself through the journey. Create specific practices for emotional self-care during uncertain times. This might include seeking connection with supportive communities, using sensory comforts (like favorite foods, music, or environments) to ground yourself when distressed, and establishing a haven at home or work where you can recharge. Remember that addressing emotional obstacles is essential for transforming uncertainty into possibility—neglecting your emotional health makes it harder to see and seize opportunities that arise in the midst of the unknown.

Chapter 6: Transform Setbacks into Learning Opportunities

Setbacks are inevitable when navigating uncertainty, but they don't have to derail your journey. By developing the ability to transform setbacks into learning opportunities, you can extract value from even the most challenging experiences and use them as stepping stones toward your goals. Nobel Prize winner Ben Feringa exemplifies this transformative approach to setbacks. While developing the molecular machines that would eventually earn him the Nobel Prize in Chemistry, Feringa faced countless failures. His direct acknowledgment is refreshing: "If you deal with uncertainty, you will fail." But he immediately adds—with a wry smile revealing his extensive experience with setbacks—that you have to "get resilient at handling the frustration that comes with uncertainty." Feringa's personal formula involves allowing himself to feel the frustration for a couple of days, then asking two crucial questions: "What can I learn from it?" and "What is the next step that I can be working on?" This learning frame allows him to extract value from every setback and maintain momentum toward his goals. This approach is echoed by Sam Yagan, CEO of Match.com, who used a powerful visual to help his team embrace learning from failure. During an offsite meeting, he showed a video of SpaceX attempting to land the world's first reusable rocket on a barge in the ocean. Just as the rocket seemed about to touch down safely, it tilted too far and crashed in an explosion of fire and smoke. When Yagan asked his team what they had just witnessed, his chief marketing officer replied, "It's a failed rocket landing." Yagan then asked, "Is it at all conceivable that you could go to Mars without failing along the way?" This led to his crucial insight: "By definition, grand achievements cannot be achieved without failure. If you can do it without failing, it is not that hard. Therefore, you must fail to achieve great things." This mindset shift helped the Match.com team try and fail seventeen times before discovering Tinder, which eventually disrupted the parent company by attracting six times as many users. To transform your own setbacks into learning opportunities, start by adopting what psychologist Martin Seligman calls "learned optimism." When facing a setback, practice viewing it as temporary rather than permanent, specific to the situation rather than pervasive across your life, and not entirely your fault. This explanatory style helps prevent learned helplessness and energizes you to search for solutions. Develop specific frames for managing frustration when things don't go as planned. In addition to the learning frame used by Feringa, consider the game frame (seeing setbacks as just part of the game of life), the gratitude frame (focusing on what you still have), or the values frame (recognizing success in living your values regardless of outcomes). These mental frameworks don't deny the reality of disappointment but help you maintain perspective and continue moving forward. Practice cognitive flexibility—the ability to update your mental maps as new information emerges. When facing a setback, ask yourself: What assumptions might I need to revise? What new approaches could I consider? Who might have a different perspective on this situation? This openness to learning and adaptation is what distinguishes those who ultimately succeed from those who remain stuck after setbacks.

Chapter 7: Pivot Without Shame When Necessary

Pivoting, or changing course based on what you've learned, is an essential part of navigating uncertainty. Yet many people and organizations feel ashamed when they need to adjust their direction. Learning to pivot without shame can be the difference between ultimate success and failure. When Nathan watched a chief digital officer apologize for changing the product road map based on market tests, he stood up and declared, "This means your team is on the right track. If you are doing new things, you should expect to change course along the way." Innovation professor Clayton Christensen estimated that 93 percent of startups have to change their strategy. Consider Max Levchin's journey to co-create PayPal. He and Peter Thiel first founded Fieldlink to create software libraries for handheld devices. When that didn't work, they pivoted to creating the actual software itself. When that failed to attract customers, they pivoted again to an electronic wallet. Still struggling, they added a feature to send money via email—which unexpectedly took off, leading them to pivot completely to what became PayPal. Pivoting isn't about abandoning course but using what you've learned to adjust your direction. As entrepreneur Eric Ries put it, "pivoting redeems failure" by using lessons learned to make adjustments for greater success. Although PayPal pursued many ventures, it always evolved around security and payments. The lesson is that changing course when navigating uncertainty is normal, not shameful. The most important pivots are those that enable personal transformation. Christophe Vasseur recalls a transcendent dinner at Chez Bruno in Provence when he was sixteen. The experience changed him permanently: "More than a festive dinner, it was a lesson in life. At the time I was sixteen, and Bruno's words, his passion, and his belief opened a path." Vasseur continued his education, working for ten years in the fashion industry until he "was tired of the suits and ties that I encountered every day." He decided to explore his curiosity and registered for a course in bread making: "I remember my first contact with bread dough. I felt like I was in communion, in conversation with it." Vasseur recognized the desire to change careers but wondered how to support himself during the transition. He found an adjunct teaching position at a business school in Paris that would cover his rent while taking baking classes. After four years of experimenting with traditional techniques, he found a bankrupt bakery at an intersection with almost no foot traffic. Despite the obstacles, he renamed it Du Pain et des Idées (Bread and Ideas), preserved its historic features, and worked tirelessly to revive abandoned baking techniques. Today, it's one of the most famous bakeries in Paris. To apply pivoting in your own life, remember that it's not a wild leap into the abyss but a shift rooted in what you've already learned. Like in basketball, where a player must keep one foot planted to make a fair pass, a pivot is grounded in your experience while moving in a new direction. Consider what situations in your work or personal life might benefit from a thoughtful adjustment. Are certain problems or longings showing up repeatedly? Could a pivot with a tradition or practice give you more courage to act with integrity? When considering a pivot, ask yourself: What have I learned that suggests a change might be beneficial? What elements of my current path should I preserve? What new direction feels aligned with my values and strengths? Remember that pivoting isn't failure—it's an intelligent response to new information and changing circumstances, a sign of wisdom rather than weakness.

Summary

Throughout this journey, we've explored how uncertainty—despite its challenges—is the gateway to possibility. Every significant achievement, relationship, and transformation in your life has come only after a period of not knowing. By developing your uncertainty ability, you can navigate the unknown with greater courage, resilience, and skill. As Patrick Deedes, estate manager for one of France's most beautiful castles, reflected when asked about uncertainty: "Sometimes I wonder, are we really creating the situation or is it finding you? Often when you are in your worst element, and you have pretty much thrown in the towel... then you get that phone call, and everything changes. This has happened to me again and again." This perspective echoes Voltaire's conclusion that in an unpredictable world, the best approach is to "cultivate the garden." As Deedes explains, "It means the best we can do is take what comes... but you do have to do one thing—you have to continue on. You have to cultivate!" Today, take one small step toward embracing uncertainty in your life—perhaps reframing a challenge as an opportunity, creating a small experiment to test the waters, or simply practicing good emotional hygiene as you face your fears. Remember that uncertainty will always be part of life, but with practice, you can develop the courage to transform it into extraordinary possibilities.

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