Finding Your Element

Finding Your Element Plot Summary

Introduction

Have you ever felt that nagging sensation that you're meant for something more? That somewhere inside you lies untapped potential, waiting to be discovered? Many of us go through life feeling disconnected from our true selves, working jobs that drain our energy rather than ignite our passion. We watch the clock, waiting for the weekend, while a select few seem to have found that magical intersection where their natural talents meet their deepest passions. This journey is about discovering your Element—that sweet spot where your natural aptitudes align with what you love most. When you're in your Element, time seems to flow differently; hours pass like minutes because you're fully engaged in what you're doing. The path to finding it isn't always straightforward, but it's one of the most rewarding journeys you'll ever undertake. Throughout these pages, you'll discover practical strategies to identify your unique talents, explore your passions, overcome the obstacles that hold you back, and create opportunities to live a life of genuine fulfillment and purpose.

Chapter 1: Identify Your Natural Talents and Aptitudes

Understanding your natural talents is the first crucial step toward finding your Element. Your aptitudes are the things that come naturally to you—abilities that feel instinctive rather than forced. These aren't just skills you've learned; they're capacities that seem wired into your being, activities where you demonstrate a natural flair or understanding without excessive effort. Consider the story of Derek, who showed a remarkable aptitude for mechanical work from a young age. By the time he was ten, he was stripping down motorcycles to understand how they worked. Unlike others who might dismantle an engine, Derek could reassemble them so they functioned even better than before. He just "got" engines. He could listen to them like a horse whisperer, diagnose problems, and understand solutions intuitively. He spent hours drawing accurate technical diagrams and had an encyclopedic knowledge of brands and models. While Derek struggled in traditional academic settings, his mechanical intelligence was extraordinary. This contrasts with his brother Keith, who had no rapport with tools or fixing things. Keith's attempts at putting up shelves or fixing appliances were near-death experiences. Yet Keith possessed different talents—he was wonderful with people, tremendously funny, and a natural performer. The brothers exemplify how aptitudes vary dramatically between individuals, even within the same family. To discover your own aptitudes, start by reflecting on activities that have always come easily to you. What tasks do you accomplish with minimal strain that others find challenging? What were you doing when someone first remarked on your natural ability? These might be obvious skills like mathematical reasoning, musical ability, or athletic coordination—or they might be subtler talents like mediating conflicts, organizing spaces, or connecting disparate ideas. Remember that many aptitudes remain hidden until we have the opportunity to discover them. Emily Cummins never knew she had a gift for invention until her grandfather gave her a hammer at age four. Under his guidance, she began creating and building, developing a passion that eventually led her to design a refrigerator that operates without electricity, now used across Africa. Your undiscovered talents might similarly emerge when you encounter the right circumstances or mentors. The practical path forward involves both reflection and exploration. Create a mind map of activities you excel at naturally. Ask trusted friends what they see as your innate strengths. Try new activities that intrigue you, as you may discover aptitudes you never knew existed. Most importantly, distinguish between what you're merely competent at through practice versus what feels like a natural extension of yourself. Your Element awaits in the latter.

Chapter 2: Explore Your Passions and Interests

Passion is the fuel that powers your journey toward the Element. While aptitude represents what you're naturally good at, passion speaks to what you love—those activities that energize rather than deplete you, that you would pursue even if no one paid you to do them. Understanding your passions requires deep self-reflection and a willingness to listen to your own emotional responses. Randy Parsons discovered his passion through an unexpected epiphany. Working in law enforcement after selling all his guitars and abandoning music, Randy felt incomplete. "I was kind of happy," he explained, "but like most people, deep down inside something was missing." Then one day while showering, "My entire future flashed in front of my eyes. It was such a gift because I got to see in a fraction of a second not only what I should be doing, but also how I should go about achieving it. I saw myself being a famous guitar maker and building guitars for my heroes." This vision transformed Randy's life. Despite having no formal training in instrument-making, he immediately purchased basic tools and converted his basement into a workshop. For two years, he dedicated himself to learning the craft, starting guitars but never finishing them, learning from each mistake and beginning again. His wife and family wondered why he never completed any instruments, but Randy was focused on the learning process, not the finished product. Eventually, Randy opened a guitar repair shop, cashing in his retirement fund to pursue his passion. A chance encounter led him to study with the legendary luthier Boaz, who taught him the secrets of the craft. Today, Randy Parsons is one of the world's premier guitar makers, creating instruments for musicians like Jack White and Jimmy Page. "When I was cutting pieces of wood in the basement," Randy reflects, "I really felt that there was something grabbing my hand and showing me how to do it. There was no doubt in my mind that I was going where I was supposed to be going." To discover your own passions, pay careful attention to when you experience "flow"—those moments when you're so absorbed in an activity that time seems to disappear. What activities do you find yourself thinking about when your mind wanders? What topics do you read about voluntarily? What conversations energize you? Make a list of activities that consistently lift your spirits and feed your energy. Try creating a "passion journal" where you record your emotional state during different activities. Notice which pursuits you're drawn to even when they're difficult. Unlike mere preferences or hobbies, true passions persist through challenges and setbacks. They're the activities you return to again and again, driven by an inner compulsion rather than external rewards. Remember that passion isn't always dramatic or obvious. It might manifest as a quiet, steady pull toward certain activities or subjects. The key is distinguishing between what you think you should love and what truly resonates with your authentic self.

Chapter 3: Overcome Limiting Beliefs and Attitudes

Our own attitudes and beliefs often form the most significant barriers to finding our Element. Many people remain trapped in unfulfilling lives not because of external circumstances but because of the stories they tell themselves about what they can or cannot do, what they deserve, or what's possible for someone like them. Consider Jef Lynch, whose story powerfully illustrates how attitude can overcome apparent limitations. When General Motors was looking for a training van instructor, Jef shouldn't have even applied. The job required a college degree—which he didn't have—and his hands looked like "creature hands" from years of mechanical work. Yet something inside him pushed him to try anyway. During the interview, Jef's uncompromising commitment to excellence and deep knowledge of cars came through so strongly that the GM executive overlooked his lack of formal education. But Jef's challenges weren't over. "I got the job and my whole life changed," he recalled. "Within a week, I was flying out to St. Louis to learn how to be a Chevrolet training van instructor. I'd never been in a plane before. I'd never been out of the area before. I was so intimidated that by the end of the week, I was going to drive the car over, put it in the parking lot and just walk home. But when I got home I realized, 'Wow, I did it.'" Later, when promoted to service representative, Jef faced another barrier—his age. He was much younger than other instructors in a field where management believed experience mattered most. Yet he persevered, becoming the youngest instructor in training center history and the only one without a college degree. "The key is paying attention when the opportunity is there and not just walking by it," Jef explains. What made Jef's story remarkable was his refusal to see barriers that might have stopped others. When he needed specialized equipment to teach automotive diagnostics, he walked into Tektronix, explained his vision, and walked out with free equipment and a representative willing to travel with him. "I don't see the barriers that other people see," Jef says. "Everything I do, I do like that." To overcome your own limiting beliefs, start by identifying them. What stories do you tell yourself about your capabilities? What "reasonable" excuses have you accepted for not pursuing your passions? Challenge these narratives by asking: "Is this absolutely true?" and "Where did I learn to believe this?" Carol Dweck's research on mindsets provides a powerful framework here. Those with a "fixed mindset" believe their qualities are carved in stone—either they have talent or they don't. Those with a "growth mindset" understand that abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work. Cultivating a growth mindset means seeing challenges as opportunities to grow rather than threats to your self-image. Practice reframing negative thoughts into questions that open possibilities. Instead of "I'm too old to start," ask "How might my life experience give me an advantage?" Instead of "I don't have the right background," ask "What unconventional path might work for someone with my unique history?" Remember that attitude isn't just positive thinking—it's the courage to take action despite uncertainty.

Chapter 4: Create Opportunities in Your Current Situation

Finding your Element doesn't always require dramatic life changes or leaps into the unknown. Often, the seeds of opportunity exist within your current circumstances, waiting to be recognized and cultivated. The key is developing the vision to see possibilities where others see limitations, and the creativity to transform existing situations into pathways toward your Element. Lisa and Peter Labon's story illustrates how recognizing opportunity can lead to profound transformation. Living in San Francisco with their four children, they had what many would consider an enviable life. Peter had a successful fifteen-year career in money management, and they lived in what Lisa called "our favorite city in the world." Yet something was missing. Peter was burning out from long hours, and Lisa felt exhausted managing their household and children's activities. A turning point came when Lisa attended a lecture where the speaker highlighted the disconnect between what parents say they want for their children—happiness, health, good relationships—and what children perceive their parents want for them—big houses, expensive cars, high-paying jobs. "We were at a point where we wanted integrity in every part of our life," Lisa explained, "and we realized that we needed to change everything." Rather than accepting their comfortable but unfulfilling situation, the Labons took bold action. They sold their home of fifteen years, packed up everything, and hit the road. They traveled to Sayulita, Mexico, for surfing, then to Aspen for skiing. Lisa homeschooled the children as they explored different environments and lifestyles. "Initially we thought we would travel for a few years," Lisa said. "There were so many places to visit, things to see and do, experiences to share." During their journey, they continually assessed what truly mattered to them. Lisa identified key qualities for their ideal home: a small, healthy community, excellent educational options, and abundant outdoor activities. Eventually, they settled in Park City, Utah—800 miles from San Francisco and worlds away from their former lifestyle. "One thing that stood out to me was the commitment and devotion of the people who choose to live in mountain towns," Lisa observed. "They are very clear about what they value in their lives and often make sacrifices to live there." To create opportunities in your own situation, start by conducting a thorough inventory of your current assets and resources. What skills have you developed in your present role that might transfer to other contexts? What connections have you made that could open unexpected doors? What aspects of your current work or life give you glimpses of what truly engages you? Look for ways to experiment within your existing framework. Could you volunteer for projects that align more closely with your interests? Might you negotiate changes to your current role to incorporate more of what energizes you? Consider creating a "side project" that allows you to explore your passions while maintaining stability. Remember that creating opportunity often means reframing constraints as creative challenges. Limited time might force you to focus more intentionally. Financial constraints might inspire innovative approaches. The key is maintaining what psychologists call "realistic optimism"—acknowledging current realities while actively looking for pathways forward.

Chapter 5: Connect with Your Tribe

One of the most powerful accelerators on your path to finding your Element is connecting with others who share your passions and values—your tribe. These kindred spirits can provide validation, guidance, collaboration, and inspiration that propel you forward in ways you could never achieve alone. Dale Dougherty understood this power when he launched Make magazine, aimed at inventors and tinkerers—people with a reputation for being solitary. "When we started the magazine," Dale explained, "the idea was to look at how people were taking Google and using it for their own purposes. I was fascinated with things like TiVo hacks, where people were taking apart their TiVos and upgrading them." Make found its tribe immediately. The quarterly magazine has published more than thirty editions and become the leading voice of the "maker movement." This community connection led to the creation of Maker Faire, described as "The world's largest DIY festival," which gathers inventors from around the world to showcase their creations. The 2011 faire in California drew seventy thousand people. "The idea behind Make is that people want to get control of technology and they want it to do something for them specifically," Dougherty explains. "When you do something, you can share it, and people find you and you can find them." This connection creates a powerful feedback loop of validation and inspiration. Kimberley Spire-Oh experienced this tribal power when she launched a specialized legal career. After her son's school system labeled him as having a "disability," Kimberley used her legal training to advocate for him. As she became more effective, "his doctors, other parents—saying, 'You're a lawyer, you really should do this.'" She founded her own law firm focusing on special education and disability law. What proved critical to her success was connecting with other attorneys in this specialized field. "I was surprised at how many people are willing to help you and answer questions even though I thought they'd see me as a competitor," she said. "This seems to be especially true in a field where you're trying to help people; they want more people out there helping people. The other special ed attorneys have been phenomenal." To find your own tribe, start by identifying communities centered around your interests. These might be professional associations, online forums, local clubs, or educational programs. Attend conferences, workshops, or meetups where people with similar passions gather. Don't limit yourself to formal organizations—sometimes the most valuable tribes form organically around shared enthusiasms. When you find potential tribal connections, approach them with genuine curiosity and a willingness to contribute, not just take. Ask questions, offer help, share your own experiences. Remember that tribes thrive on reciprocity—the exchange of ideas, support, and opportunities. If you can't find an existing tribe that resonates with you, consider creating one. Start a local meetup, an online discussion group, or an informal gathering of like-minded individuals. Sometimes the most powerful tribes begin with just two or three people who recognize their shared passion. Remember that your tribe doesn't have to be homogeneous. Often, the most dynamic communities include people with diverse backgrounds, experiences, and perspectives who are united by a common interest or purpose.

Chapter 6: Take Action on Your Element Journey

Knowledge without action remains merely potential. To truly find your Element, you must move beyond reflection and planning into concrete steps that bring you closer to living your passion and purpose. This final stage of the journey requires courage, persistence, and a willingness to navigate uncertainty. Chris Jordan's transformation from corporate lawyer to acclaimed photographer demonstrates the power of decisive action. For eleven years, Jordan worked as a lawyer, a profession that left him feeling "in a state of something very close to clinical depression." Meanwhile, he explored photography in his spare time, placing some of his work in his office and his law firm's conference rooms. Colleagues would ask, "Chris, why are you doing this? You could be having a kick-ass career as a photographer. Why are you a lawyer?" Jordan would laugh as though they were joking because he was afraid to take the risk. As he approached forty, Jordan's perspective shifted dramatically. "I began to fear not living my life," he explained. "I feared becoming old and being filled with regret that I didn't take the risk of living. That fear, instead of being a wall in front of me, was like a giant cowboy boot kicking my ass from behind. The thing I realized was that if I didn't take the risk of living, I was guaranteed to fail." Jordan left his firm at the end of 2002 and resigned from the Bar in January 2003, burning his bridges to ensure he couldn't retreat to law when things got difficult. Living on his son's college fund, he pursued photography full-time despite the significant expenses of professional equipment. By the summer of 2004, the college fund was gone, his 401(k) was depleted, and his wife's retirement savings were exhausted. "I was pretty much on the mat and the referee had counted to two," Jordan recalled. Then gallery owner Paul Kopeikin called, having seen Jordan's work. Though the exhibition was months away and Jordan was broke, he persisted, accumulating $80,000 in credit card debt to continue his work. The February 2005 exhibition was a breakthrough—Jordan sold enough photographs to pay off his debts and establish himself professionally. Later, when Jordan felt comfortable with his "Running the Numbers" series, he pushed himself in new creative directions despite negative feedback from trusted advisors. "I've made it my practice to notice when I'm starting to feel comfortable doing a certain kind of work. That's when all the alarm bells go off and I realize it's time to strike off into territories unknown." To take action on your own Element journey, start by creating a concrete action plan. Identify one small step you can take within the next 24 hours that moves you toward your Element. This might be researching a course, contacting someone in your field of interest, or blocking out time to practice a skill. Break larger goals into manageable chunks. If your Element requires new skills or knowledge, create a learning plan with specific milestones. If it requires a career transition, map out intermediate steps that build bridges between your current situation and your destination. Anticipate obstacles and develop contingency plans. What financial resources will you need? How will you handle resistance from others? What internal barriers might arise? Having strategies ready will help you maintain momentum when challenges emerge. Find accountability partners who support your journey. Share your goals and timeline with them, and schedule regular check-ins to review your progress. Consider working with a coach or mentor who has navigated similar transitions. Remember that action creates clarity. You don't need perfect certainty before moving forward—often, the path becomes visible only as you walk it. As Martin Luther King said, "Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step."

Summary

The journey to discovering your Element—that sweet spot where natural talent meets personal passion—is perhaps the most important voyage you'll ever undertake. Throughout these pages, we've explored how to identify your innate aptitudes, connect with your deepest passions, overcome limiting beliefs, create opportunities within constraints, find your tribe, and take decisive action. Each step brings you closer to a life of authentic fulfillment and purpose. As Joseph Campbell wisely observed, "A good life is one hero journey after another. Over and over again, you are called to the realm of adventure. You are called to new horizons. Each time, there is the same problem: do I dare? And then, if you do dare, the dangers are there, and the help also, and the fulfillment or the fiasco." Your Element awaits, not as a distant destination but as a way of being that transforms ordinary existence into extraordinary living. Begin today by taking one small, concrete step toward what truly energizes you—whether that's signing up for a class, reaching out to a potential mentor, or simply dedicating thirty minutes to an activity that makes time disappear. The path to your Element starts exactly where you are right now.

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Ken Robinson

Librarian Note: There is more than one author by this name in the Goodreads database.Sir Ken Robinson is an internationally recognized leader in the development of innovation and human resources. He has worked with national governments in Europe and Asia, with international agencies, Fortune 500 companies, national and state education systems, non-profit corporations and some of the world’s leading cultural organizations. They include the Royal Shakespeare Company, Sir Paul McCartney’s Liverpool Institute for Performing Arts, the Royal Ballet, the Hong Kong Academy for Performing Arts, the European Commission, UNESCO, the Council of Europe, the J Paul Getty Trust and the Education Commission of the States. From 1989 - 2001, he was Professor of Arts Education at the University of Warwick.

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