Getting Good with Money

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Introduction

Financial stress can feel like a dark cloud following you wherever you go. Perhaps you've experienced that sinking feeling when checking your bank account balance, or the pit in your stomach when unexpected bills arrive. Maybe you're caught in a cycle of living paycheck to paycheck, wondering if you'll ever break free. You're not alone in this struggle - millions of people find themselves trapped in financial anxiety, unsure how to escape. But what if there was a path forward? Imagine waking up without money worries weighing on your mind. Picture yourself confidently handling unexpected expenses, building wealth for the future, and living with genuine financial peace. This transformation isn't reserved for the wealthy or financially gifted - it's available to anyone willing to recognize their breaking point and take meaningful action. Throughout these pages, we'll explore practical strategies to create lasting financial freedom, from budgeting effectively to building emergency funds, tackling debt, and transforming your entire relationship with money.

Chapter 1: Recognize Your Financial Breaking Point

Financial breaking points come in different forms for different people. For some, it's the moment when a credit card is declined at the grocery store. For others, it might be when an unexpected car repair causes panic because there's no money to cover it. Whatever form it takes, this "enough is enough" moment is crucial - it's when you decide that something must change, that you will no longer accept your current financial reality. The story of Jessi and Pat Fearon illustrates this perfectly. Their breaking point came on March 3, 2013. Jessi sat watching her one-year-old son play with monster trucks on their driveway while calculating what their expenses would be when their second child was born in a few months. The numbers revealed a frightening truth - they were broke. Just months earlier, her husband Pat had been in an accident requiring emergency surgery that wiped out their savings. Now, with student loan payments starting and a second baby on the way, they weren't sure how they'd afford diapers. Jessi, despite having an accounting degree, broke down in tears, wondering how they'd gotten to this point and how she would explain to her husband that she'd failed them financially. This moment of clarity became the catalyst for transformation. Rather than continuing down the same path, Jessi and Pat decided to face their financial reality head-on. They began questioning their lifestyle and priorities. Though Jessi could have returned to the corporate world, they both valued her being home with their children. The chaotic vision of rushing kids to daycare, fighting traffic, and working long hours wasn't the peaceful life they envisioned. This realization helped them identify what truly mattered - not keeping up with appearances or accumulating possessions, but creating stability and presence for their family. When faced with your own financial breaking point, the first step is acknowledging the reality of your situation without judgment. Take an honest inventory of your current financial state - how much debt you carry, what you spend monthly, and whether you're living within your means. Then, more importantly, define what financial freedom would look like for you. Perhaps it's having enough savings to handle emergencies without panic. Maybe it's the ability to make career choices based on passion rather than necessity, or simply being able to make purchases without anxiety. Everyone's vision of financial freedom differs, but clarifying yours provides motivation for the journey ahead. The most powerful way to move forward is to write down your "enough is enough" moment and the future you want to create. Be specific about what life would look like five years from now if you made positive financial changes. How old will you and your family members be? What financial milestones will you have reached? How will you feel waking up each morning? This written vision becomes your motivation when challenges arise. Remember, financial freedom isn't about becoming wealthy overnight - it's about creating a life where money serves your values rather than controlling your choices.

Chapter 2: Create a Workable Budget That Sticks

A budget isn't a punishment or restriction - it's simply a plan for your money that aligns with your priorities. Many people avoid budgeting because they've tried before and failed, or they believe budgets are only for people in financial trouble. In reality, a budget is simply a tool that gives you control over your finances rather than letting your finances control you. Jessi's first budgeting attempt came when she was twenty-one years old, facing $11,000 in credit card debt. Her initial budget wasn't fancy - just numbers scribbled on the back of a bank statement envelope. But those figures revealed something shocking: she was running a thousand-dollar deficit each month. This clarity, while frightening, was also empowering. Rather than hiding from this reality, Jessi took action. She sold belongings on eBay and Craigslist, making $150 in the first week to put toward her smallest credit card balance. That small win motivated her to continue, eventually taking on a second job as a waitress while returning to school to finish her degree. Years later, when Jessi and Pat decided to transform their family finances, they developed what Jessi calls the "quick-start budget" - a simple method that helped them break the paycheck-to-paycheck cycle. This approach doesn't require forecasting a month's expenses but focuses on the money you currently have in your account. They would take their current checking balance, subtract upcoming bills until the next paycheck, then subtract necessities like groceries and gas. The remaining amount would be allocated to categories like savings, tithing, and discretionary spending until reaching zero - creating what's called a zero-based budget where every dollar has a specific job. What makes this method effective is its practicality and simplicity. By working with money you actually have rather than projecting future income, you stay grounded in reality. The process forces you to be intentional about every dollar, asking whether each expense brings you closer to your financial goals or pushes them further away. For the Fearons, this meant evaluating whether eating out and expensive vacations aligned with their dream of Jessi being a stay-at-home mom. These weren't necessarily wrong expenses, but they didn't serve the family's highest priorities. To implement your own quick-start budget, gather three things: your current checking account balance, your calendar (to identify upcoming bills), and your preferred budgeting tool (spreadsheet, paper, or app). First, subtract all bills due before your next paycheck. Then subtract necessary expenses like groceries and gas. Finally, allocate any remaining money to categories that matter most to you - perhaps debt payment, savings, or family activities. As you get comfortable with this process, you'll naturally move from living paycheck-to-paycheck to forgetting it's even payday. Beyond basic budgeting, consider creating "sinking funds" - separate accounts where you set aside money for specific future expenses like car maintenance, Christmas gifts, or vacations. This prevents these predictable but irregular expenses from derailing your budget when they arise. The key to successful budgeting isn't perfection but consistency - expect to take about three months of practice before it becomes second nature. Give yourself grace through the process, focusing on progress rather than perfection as you develop this life-changing financial habit.

Chapter 3: Build Your Emergency Fund Safety Net

Life has a way of throwing unexpected challenges at us when we least expect them. Without a financial safety net, these surprises can quickly turn into crises that derail our progress and push us deeper into debt. This is exactly what happened to the Fearon family when Pat fell out of a two-story window while at work, shattering his elbow and wrist. The situation became even more dire when they discovered his employer didn't have workers' compensation insurance and their health insurance denied the claim because it was work-related. Facing immediate surgery costs with no insurance coverage, Jessi had to drain their entire savings account to pay the hospital. "I cried as I stood in front of the admission office," she recalls, as the woman behind the counter explained, "Honey, if you don't pay right now they will not take him into surgery." Writing that check was devastating for Jessi, who felt secure only when she had savings. Without this safety net, and with Pat unable to work during recovery, she began walking dogs in their neighborhood for extra income while caring for their one-year-old son and being pregnant with their second child. This experience taught the Fearons that having money in savings isn't enough - you need a strategic emergency fund designed specifically to weather life's storms. A proper emergency fund isn't just a random amount of money set aside; it should cover essential monthly expenses for at least six months. This provides breathing room during major life disruptions like job loss, medical emergencies, or unexpected home repairs. Without this cushion, these events often force people to rely on credit cards or loans, creating a debt cycle that's difficult to escape. Building your emergency fund requires a methodical approach. First, calculate your essential monthly expenses - necessities like housing, utilities, food, transportation, and debt payments - then multiply by six. This number becomes your ultimate emergency fund target. For many families, this might be $10,000-$20,000 or more, which can feel overwhelming. That's why Jessi recommends starting smaller - perhaps $3,000 as an initial goal that you can realistically achieve within three months. This "starter emergency fund" provides some protection while you work toward the full amount. Finding money to build your emergency fund often requires creativity. The Fearons sold belongings they no longer needed, allocated tax refunds and bonuses directly to savings, negotiated lower rates with utility and insurance providers, and developed additional income streams. Jessi emphasizes that this doesn't mean falling into "hustle culture" where work consumes your entire life. Rather, it means embracing "seasons of hustle" - periods of focused intensity followed by rest and celebration of progress. Remember that saving even small amounts consistently is more important than the amount itself. When building your emergency fund, keep it in a separate high-yield savings account that's accessible but not connected to your daily checking account. This creates psychological distance that reduces the temptation to dip into it for non-emergencies. And when genuine emergencies do arise - whether a medical crisis, job loss, or essential home repair - remember that using your emergency fund isn't a failure. It's precisely what those funds were designed for, and rebuilding afterward isn't starting over but continuing the journey with the wisdom of experience.

Chapter 4: Tackle Debt with Strategic Determination

Debt can feel like an overwhelming mountain that's impossible to climb. However, with the right strategy and consistent effort, freedom from financial burdens is achievable for anyone willing to commit to the process. This isn't about finding a magical shortcut or secret formula - it's about rolling up your sleeves and doing the necessary work. When Pat and Jessi Fearon started their debt-free journey, friends and family thought they had lost their minds. How could they possibly pay off student loans and live on one income? Later, when they succeeded, these same people asked for their "secret." Jessi realized people were hoping for an easy solution to their financial problems. "The cold, hard truth is that going into debt is just like gaining weight - it is easy and mindless. However, losing weight is incredibly hard," she explains. Similarly, eliminating debt requires discipline and determination, not a magic pill. Their approach began with choosing a debt repayment method. The two main strategies are the "snowball method" (paying debts from smallest to largest balance regardless of interest rate) and the "avalanche method" (paying highest interest rate debts first). Though mathematically the avalanche method saves more money, the Fearons chose the snowball method because it provided quick wins that fueled their motivation. By paying off two credit cards before their second child was born, they gained momentum to tackle larger debts like student loans. As Jessi notes, "Math didn't make Pat and me fall into debt. Our behavior did." Changing behavior required visible progress to stay motivated. The most critical rule for becoming debt-free is simple but challenging: stop using all forms of debt immediately. This means cutting up credit cards, taking no new loans, and borrowing no money from friends or family. For the Fearons, this meant going "cold turkey" on credit cards despite fears about emergencies and pressure from others who insisted, "You need a credit card for emergencies. Don't be fools. You're parents." Breaking the cycle of reliance on credit was essential to their success. Their debt payment strategy followed clear steps that anyone can implement. First, they made debt payment a priority in their budget, allocating any extra money toward their current target debt. Second, they continuously looked for ways to reduce expenses, making sacrifices like giving up subscriptions and restaurant meals. Third, they generated additional income through side hustles and selling unused items. Finally, they immediately applied all extra funds to debt - bonuses, tax refunds, and side income went straight to debt repayment rather than discretionary spending. Student loans presented a particular challenge for Jessi. At almost $30,000, they were the last consumer debt they tackled. She discovered that making extra payments required understanding the specific procedures of her loan servicer - including when interest accrued and how to direct payments to specific loans. By consistently paying off smaller student loans first, she gradually reduced the required minimum payment, freeing up more money to attack remaining loans - a strategy that eventually eliminated all her student debt. The journey to debt freedom isn't easy, but the rewards are life-changing. By facing their financial reality, committing to behavior change, and methodically tackling each debt, the Fearons eliminated $55,000 of consumer debt in two years while living on $47,000 per year with young children. Their story demonstrates that with determination and a strategic approach, anyone can break free from the chains of debt and experience the peace of financial freedom.

Chapter 5: Align Your Money with Family Values

Money decisions become infinitely more complex when family enters the picture. Whether you're planning for children, already raising them, or considering your legacy, financial choices must align with your family's deepest values rather than external expectations. In today's culture, the financial aspects of parenting spark heated debates. Jessi recalls a painful moment at a grocery store when, visibly pregnant with her third child while wrangling two young children, a stranger asked, "Don't you know they make a thing called birth control that would help you get on your feet?" This uninvited comment reveals a common misconception - that financial success must come before family formation. However, the Fearons chose a different perspective: designing their financial life intentionally around their family values, rather than postponing family for financial perfection. When they discovered their first pregnancy in 2011, Jessi and Pat faced a crucial decision. They had decided Jessi would be a stay-at-home mom, but this meant transitioning from two incomes to one. Rather than simply hoping it would work, they tested their plan before their baby arrived. "I called my HR department and asked them to change my direct deposit from our checking account to our savings account," Jessi explains. For seven months, they practiced living solely on Pat's income while saving hers. The transition wasn't easy - they had grown accustomed to their dual-income lifestyle and still struggled with the "your money versus my money" mindset. But this intentional preparation built a $5,000 cushion and proved they could make their dream work. The Fearons' experience illustrates what financial experts call the "two-income trap." Many families become dependent on both incomes to maintain their lifestyle, making it devastating if one income disappears due to job loss, health issues, or family needs. The solution isn't necessarily having one parent stay home, but rather living below your means. "Design your family budget around one income," Jessi advises. "The other income then becomes bonus money instead of essential money." This approach creates flexibility and security, regardless of whether both parents work outside the home. Beyond basic expenses, parents face numerous decisions about "extra" costs like extracurricular activities, college savings, and launching children into adulthood. The Fearons developed clear guidelines that reflect their values. For activities, they allow one extracurricular per season per child, with parents covering registration and basic uniforms while children pay for premium items from their own money. For education, rather than traditional college savings accounts, they created "life accounts" for each child - high-yield savings accounts that can be used for college, weddings, home down payments, or starting businesses, without penalties if college isn't the child's path. These choices reflect a fundamental principle: intentionality matters more than conformity to cultural expectations. Parents must decide what financial priorities truly serve their family's wellbeing rather than automatically following societal norms. Sometimes this means making countercultural choices, like prioritizing retirement savings over college funds (since children can borrow for education but parents can't borrow for retirement), or limiting activities to preserve family time and financial health. The most important financial gift parents can give children isn't material wealth but financial education through example. When children see parents making intentional choices, discussing money openly, and prioritizing values over appearances, they develop healthy financial attitudes that will serve them throughout life. Remember that "beyond their basic needs, your kids don't need your money. But they do need your presence, love, support, and discipline" to become financially responsible adults.

Chapter 6: Transform Financial Mindset for Success

Our beliefs about money often shape our financial reality more powerfully than our income or circumstances. The stories we tell ourselves - whether "I'm not good with money" or "I'll never get ahead" - can become self-fulfilling prophecies that limit our progress regardless of the practical steps we take. Jessi discovered this truth through her own journey. Despite having an accounting degree, she struggled with money management because of limiting beliefs lurking beneath the surface. One particularly damaging belief emerged when she and Pat finally became consumer-debt free with a fully funded emergency fund. While they had the financial capacity to invest for retirement, Jessi found herself paralyzed by the thought. "I was terrified of investing," she admits. "For months, I told myself I didn't know how to invest and that it was too overwhelming to learn." This limiting belief stalled their progress despite having already accomplished significant financial milestones. These "money lies" we tell ourselves come in many forms. Some believe "It's not enough" when considering small amounts to save or invest, missing how powerful consistent small actions become over time. Others think "Budgets are for broke people," failing to recognize that awareness of your money is essential at every income level. Perfectionists fall prey to "I made a mistake and that proves I just can't get it right," allowing temporary setbacks to derail their entire financial journey. Additional harmful beliefs include "I don't know how to do that" (ignoring our capacity to learn), "I don't deserve to have money" (avoiding responsibility for stewardship), and "Being wealthy means having lots of money" (overlooking non-financial forms of wealth like time and relationships). The power of these beliefs became evident when the Fearons cashed out Jessi's 401(k) early - a decision that financial experts universally discourage due to taxes and penalties. Rather than letting this mistake define them, they recognized it as a learning opportunity. "Mistakes, in fact, are opportunities to learn and grow," Jessi reflects. "When you begin to work on your finances, you are not going to be perfect at every aspect of it, and that is 100 percent okay." This resilient mindset allowed them to continue forward despite setbacks. Transforming these limiting beliefs requires conscious effort to replace money lies with money truths. When the thought "It's not enough" arises when considering a small savings contribution, counter it with "Starting small is better than not starting at all." When perfectionism whispers that a budget mistake means failure, respond with "The only true mistake is to quit trying." For every money lie, there's a corresponding truth that empowers rather than limits financial progress. Implementation becomes practical through simple exercises. First, listen to your own thoughts, identifying patterns that might be hindering progress. Are you beating yourself up over budget mistakes? Do you believe you're not smart enough to succeed financially? Once identified, challenge these thoughts by taking immediate action on financial tasks you've been avoiding, whether transferring money to savings or researching investment options. Regularly compare your current position to where you were months ago, celebrating progress rather than focusing on perceived inadequacies. Remember that financial growth, like all meaningful change, involves both simple principles and challenging execution. As Jessi notes, "This is simple, but it's not easy." The basic financial principles - spend less than you earn, save consistently, avoid debt - are straightforward, but implementing them amid life's complexities requires persistence. The key is recognizing that your only true competition is yourself yesterday, not others' financial journeys. By focusing on your own progress and replacing limiting beliefs with empowering truths, you create the mindset necessary for lasting financial transformation.

Summary

Throughout this journey from financial stress to freedom, we've explored practical strategies that transform not just your money situation but your entire relationship with finances. From recognizing your breaking point to creating sustainable budgets, building emergency funds, tackling debt, aligning money with family values, and transforming your financial mindset - each step builds upon the last to create lasting change. As Jessi Fearon powerfully reminds us, "You only fail when you give up. Period." This truth encapsulates the essence of financial transformation: persistence matters more than perfection. Your financial freedom journey doesn't require extraordinary income or perfect decisions - it requires consistent action aligned with your deepest values. Start today by identifying just one area where you can take immediate action: perhaps tracking your spending for a week, setting up an automatic transfer to savings (even if it's just $5), or having an honest conversation with your family about financial priorities. Remember that financial freedom isn't about accumulating wealth for its own sake, but creating space to live authentically according to your values. By taking that first step today, you begin writing a new financial story - one where money serves your dreams rather than constraining them.

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Jessi Fearon

Jessi is the founder of the popular personal finance blog jessifearon.com, where she shares her family's real life on a budget in order to help others learn to manage their money better. Jessi's work has been featured on Buzzfeed, Rockstar Finance, TIME/Motto Magazine, Money Saving Mom, Dave Ramsey, and The Penny Hoarder. Jessi resides in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Georgia with her husband Pat, their three children Conner, Collin, and Charlotte, and a crazy crew of two dogs and a feisty cat. When she's not homeschooling her kids you can find her on the back porch with her head in a book.

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