Meetings Suck

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Introduction

Have you ever walked out of a meeting feeling like you just wasted an hour of your life? You're not alone. The average professional spends nearly 20% of their workweek in meetings, yet studies show that almost half of that time feels unproductive. This epidemic of ineffective meetings costs businesses billions each year—not just in wasted salaries, but in lost momentum, diminished creativity, and team disengagement. But what if meetings could become engines of productivity rather than drains on it? What if your team could leave every gathering feeling energized, aligned, and ready to take action? The good news is that transforming your meeting culture doesn't require complex systems or personality transplants. By understanding your unique meeting personality, creating purpose-driven agendas, mastering key meeting styles, and establishing clear rhythms, you can turn one of business's most maligned activities into your competitive advantage.

Chapter 1: Identify Your Meeting Personality Type

Understanding your own meeting personality type is the first crucial step to transforming how you contribute to and lead gatherings. Each of us falls primarily into one of four distinct types: Dominants, Expressives, Analyticals, or Amiables. Dominants are assertive, forceful, and type-A personalities who push their opinions strongly. Expressives think out loud, talk with their hands, and get animated during discussions. Analyticals process internally before speaking, thinking through multiple scenarios carefully. Amiables avoid conflict and often agree passively, sometimes leaving meetings feeling unheard. Cameron Herold, during his time as COO, discovered the dangers of personality imbalance firsthand. Both he and his CEO were strongly Dominant and Expressive types, which created a blind spot. Their vice president of finance, who was primarily Amiable and secondarily Analytical, repeatedly warned them about concerning financial patterns. "I'm worried about the spending," he'd say, highlighting potential fatal flaws. "Yeah, yeah. But here's why it works," Cameron and the CEO would reply, plowing over his objections with their dominant personalities. When a new CFO eventually announced, "We're running out of money," they were shocked—until they realized they had ignored consistent warnings because they couldn't hear past their own voices. This experience taught Cameron to develop tactics to balance his natural tendencies. As someone whose primary trait is Expressive and secondary is Dominant, he learned to sit on his hands during meetings to prevent himself from jumping in too quickly. He counts his ideas on his fingers, reminding himself that he can wait instead of immediately speaking. He also makes a conscious effort to ask the youngest or newest team member to speak first before sharing his own thoughts. For those with Dominant or Expressive tendencies, similar self-awareness tactics can help create space for others. If you identify as Analytical or Amiable, remember that your presence in the meeting means people value your perspective. Make a conscious effort to speak at least once during each meeting, perhaps by writing down your ideas beforehand to overcome hesitation. The key insight is that effective meetings require all personality types, but we must understand our natural tendencies to avoid creating environments where only certain voices dominate. When you recognize your meeting personality type, you can develop specific strategies to enhance your contributions while minimizing potential downsides. This self-awareness transforms not just how you experience meetings, but how the entire group benefits from diverse perspectives and communication styles. The most productive teams aren't those with similar personalities, but those who understand their differences and adapt to create space for all voices.

Chapter 2: Create Agendas That Drive Results

An effective agenda is the foundation of any successful meeting, yet it's astonishing how many gatherings occur without this essential tool. When meetings lack a clear agenda distributed in advance, they quickly devolve into rambling conversations, random tangents, or worse—the dreaded meeting that could have been an email. But a well-crafted agenda delivers profound benefits that transform the entire meeting experience. At a rapidly growing tech company, the leadership team was struggling with inefficient weekly meetings that routinely ran over by 30 minutes. Their vice president of operations implemented a strict agenda policy that required time allocations for each topic and distribution 24 hours before every meeting. Within three weeks, their meetings not only ended on time but often concluded early. Team engagement increased dramatically as people came prepared, and those who realized they weren't needed for certain agenda items gained valuable time back in their day. The transformation stemmed from five key benefits that properly distributed agendas provide. First, they engage introverts by giving Analytical and Amiable personality types time to process information and prepare their thoughts. Second, they maximize time by allowing the group to dive immediately into substantive discussion rather than wasting precious minutes on introductions. Third, they ensure only essential employees participate by forcing the organizer to think critically about who truly needs to attend each portion of the meeting. Fourth, agendas empower people to opt out when appropriate. When someone receives an agenda and realizes they can't add or extract value from certain discussions, they can make the professional choice to attend only relevant portions. This practice should be celebrated, not criticized, as it demonstrates people's commitment to maximizing company resources. As one CEO put it, "I'd rather have someone missing from a meeting than missing their performance targets because they sat in unnecessary discussions." Finally, detailed agendas signal to participants exactly how to prepare. By including the meeting style—information sharing, creative discussion, or consensus decision—for each agenda item, you clarify expectations. This simple addition eliminates the frustration people feel when they prepare for a brainstorming session only to discover decisions have already been made, or vice versa. To create an effective agenda, keep it simple enough to fit on a Post-it note. Include bulleted action items in order of discussion, the time allotted for each topic, and the chosen meeting style. Add a one-sentence purpose statement and up to three possible outcomes. This format focuses the meeting on essential priorities while providing clarity that allows everyone to contribute meaningfully. Remember, as one successful leader puts it: "No agenda, no attenda" should be your mantra for meeting excellence.

Chapter 3: Master the Three Essential Meeting Styles

Understanding and clearly communicating the appropriate meeting style for each agenda item is perhaps the most overlooked yet critical element of productive gatherings. There are three fundamental meeting styles—information sharing, creative discussion, and consensus decision—each serving a distinct purpose and requiring different preparation from participants. Confusion about which style is being used for a particular topic is one of the most common reasons meetings derail and leave people frustrated. James, a marketing director at a mid-sized healthcare company, learned this lesson when a scheduled product launch meeting ended in visible tension. Half the team arrived expecting to brainstorm campaign ideas (creative discussion), while the other half, including the CEO, came prepared to make final decisions (consensus decision). The result was a painful 90 minutes where creative team members felt shut down while decision-makers grew impatient with what they perceived as unnecessary ideation. After this experience, James implemented a system where every agenda item clearly labeled which meeting style would be used. In the information sharing style, communication flows in one direction—upward from employees to leadership, downward from management to employees, or laterally among team members. This style works beautifully for updates and announcements but becomes problematic when participants expect discussion or debate. When your CEO announces, "We're relocating to the downtown office in March," this isn't an invitation for debate but simply information being shared. Questions for clarification are appropriate, but not extended discussion. Creative discussion style revolves around brainstorming and placing ideas on the table without judgment or immediate decision-making. This format allows everyone, especially Analyticals and Amiables who might otherwise remain quiet, to contribute freely. The key is understanding that while all ideas are welcome, no decisions will be reached during this phase. A marketing team using this style might explore dozens of campaign concepts knowing the final decision will come later through a different process. The consensus decision style is designed for the group to reach alignment on a specific choice. When executed properly, everyone leaves feeling heard, even if they disagree with the final decision. The power of this approach is that it unifies the team through shared ownership of the outcome. However, the facilitator must establish that once consensus is reached, the decision is final and not subject to hallway second-guessing that undermines team unity. By clearly labeling each agenda item with its appropriate style, you set correct expectations and eliminate the friction that occurs when people prepare for one type of interaction but experience another. This clarity allows participants to prepare properly—coming with ideas for creative discussions, decision criteria for consensus items, and simply an attentive mind for information sharing. While a single meeting can include multiple styles across different agenda items, the key is explicit communication about which style applies to each topic, transforming how people engage and dramatically improving meeting outcomes.

Chapter 4: Compress Time for Maximum Efficiency

Time compression represents one of the most powerful yet underutilized strategies for transforming meeting effectiveness. The concept builds on Parkinson's Law, which states that "work expands to fill the time available for its completion." By deliberately allocating less time than seems necessary, you create positive pressure that drives focus and eliminates waste. A striking example comes from a regional sales team that traditionally held monthly three-hour planning sessions. Their new director experimented by cutting meeting length to 90 minutes while maintaining the same agenda. Rather than resulting in incomplete discussions, the compressed schedule eliminated tangential conversations and forced the team to prioritize critical issues. Not only did they cover all essential topics, but team members reported feeling more energized afterward. Sales numbers increased by 12% in the following quarter as the team reclaimed those monthly hours for customer engagement. Time compression starts with challenging your assumptions about meeting duration. Instead of asking, "How long will this meeting take?" reframe the question as "How quickly can we accomplish this objective?" This mindset shift creates immediate results. For a typical hour-long meeting with ten employees each earning $70,000 annually (roughly $35 per hour), you're investing $350 of company resources. Cutting that meeting to 30 minutes immediately returns $175 in productive capacity to your organization. Practical time compression techniques include starting precisely on time. Olympic swimmers don't arrive at the starting block when the gun fires—they're prepared and positioned well before. Similarly, meeting punctuality doesn't mean arriving as the meeting begins, but being seated and mentally prepared five minutes early. As legendary coach Vince Lombardi famously said, "If you're not fifteen minutes early, you're late." This philosophy demonstrates respect for others and maximizes collective productivity. Another effective approach is ending meetings five minutes early by default. This small buffer allows participants time to transition to their next commitment without running late, creating a positive ripple effect throughout the organization's schedule. During meetings, establish time limits for specific activities like brainstorming or problem-solving. Instead of saying, "Everyone, write down your ideas," say, "Everyone, you have two minutes to write down your ideas. Go." This creates focused engagement rather than open-ended meandering. For off-site meetings or retreats, consider whether a full day is truly necessary or if a half-day with compressed focus might achieve the same objectives. When eight people attend a half-day meeting instead of a full day, you've immediately saved 32 person-hours of time that can be redirected to other priorities. The key insight is that meetings almost always expand to fill their allotted time regardless of content. By deliberately compressing that time, you create a culture of efficiency that respects everyone's contribution while maximizing organizational productivity.

Chapter 5: Establish Clear Roles for Every Participant

Defining specific roles for meeting participants creates structure that dramatically improves meeting effectiveness. Every productive meeting requires five key roles: the Moderator, the Parking Lot, the Timekeeper, the Participants, and the Closer. When these responsibilities are clearly assigned at the start of each meeting, the impact on efficiency and outcomes is remarkable. Sarah, a product development manager at a software company, implemented this role system after noticing their weekly team meetings frequently went off-track and ended without clear action items. The transformation was immediate. Their first structured meeting finished on time with unanimous agreement on next steps. Team members reported feeling more engaged because they understood exactly how they were expected to contribute. Within a month, their meeting time decreased by 20% while project milestone completion increased. The Moderator serves as the chairperson who ensures discussions stay focused, covers agenda items in the allotted time, and facilitates quality conversation. This person observes which team members need encouragement to engage more and which need to create space for others. Importantly, the Moderator doesn't have to be the meeting organizer or the most senior person—assigning this role to different team members provides valuable leadership development opportunities. The Parking Lot person maintains a running list of valuable ideas that arise but aren't directly relevant to the current agenda. Their job is to acknowledge these contributions with phrases like, "That's a great idea, can we add that to the parking lot?" This technique prevents tangential discussions from derailing the meeting while ensuring good ideas aren't lost. The Timekeeper actively manages the clock, alerting the group when discussions risk running long before they actually do. This isn't a passive role that merely announces when time is up; it requires proactive monitoring to keep the meeting flowing according to schedule. The Timekeeper might say, "We have five minutes remaining on this topic, and two people still want to speak. Should we extend this discussion or move forward?" Participants arrive prepared and ready to contribute throughout the meeting. They engage in healthy debate, unafraid to express differing viewpoints while remaining focused on advancing the team's objectives. Their responsibility is to both add and extract value from every discussion they attend. The Closer, often the Moderator or most senior person present, summarizes what was covered and assigns specific action items with clear deadlines. They ask each person to verbally confirm what they've committed to accomplish, creating both accountability and clarity. This practice ensures everyone leaves with the same understanding of next steps and prevents misalignment after the meeting concludes. By establishing these five roles at the beginning of each meeting, you create a framework for success that transcends personality differences and hierarchy. The structure allows even challenging discussions to remain productive and ensures that meetings consistently generate tangible outcomes rather than merely consuming time. As one executive observed, "When everyone knows their role, we accomplish in 30 minutes what used to take an hour."

Chapter 6: Implement Regular Meeting Rhythms

Establishing consistent meeting rhythms creates a heartbeat for your organization that drives alignment, accountability, and forward momentum. Rather than scheduling meetings reactively, successful companies implement a systematic calendar of gatherings with specific purposes—from daily check-ins to quarterly strategic planning sessions. This rhythm becomes the backbone of organizational communication and execution. The CEO of a rapidly growing e-commerce company faced continuous challenges with departmental silos and misaligned priorities until implementing a structured meeting rhythm. Within three months, cross-functional coordination improved dramatically, project delays decreased by 40%, and employee satisfaction scores rose significantly. The CEO noted, "Before establishing our meeting rhythm, we were constantly firefighting. Now we prevent the fires before they start." The foundation of an effective meeting rhythm begins with daily touchpoints. The seven-minute Daily Huddle brings the entire company together to share good news, review key metrics, provide business area updates, address frustrations, and end with an energizing team cheer. For larger organizations where company-wide gatherings aren't feasible, three-minute Adrenaline Meetings within departments serve a similar function. These brief, standing meetings elevate energy during natural lull periods (typically around 11am and 2pm) while ensuring everyone stays connected to the day's priorities. Weekly rhythms include several critical meeting types. The Weekly Action Review (WAR) meeting allows teams to share goals, review metrics, and collaboratively solve problems. Weekly Strategy Meetings create dedicated space to discuss opportunities six to twelve months on the horizon. Perhaps most consequential are Weekly One-on-One meetings between leaders and their direct reports, establishing clear priorities and providing essential direction, development, and support. Monthly Financial Meetings bring transparency to company performance by walking through the profit and loss statement line by line. This practice teaches financial literacy while encouraging everyone to think like owners about how to drive revenue and reduce expenses. One manufacturing company discovered their employees generated cost-saving ideas worth over $200,000 annually after implementing monthly financial reviews. Quarterly rhythms include Business Area Reviews where each department presents their achievements, challenges, and upcoming plans to the leadership team. Quarterly Retreats allow teams to step away from daily operations to realign on priorities and recommit to the annual plan. The Annual Retreat, held three months before the new fiscal year, combines team building, skill development, and strategic planning to set direction for the coming year. These meeting rhythms must be treated as non-negotiable. Consistency creates security, alignment, and momentum throughout the organization. When employees know exactly when and how communication will occur, they develop confidence in leadership and clarity about priorities. As one successful entrepreneur observed, "Our meeting rhythm is like the operating system for our company—it's the infrastructure that allows everything else to function properly."

Chapter 7: Transform Virtual Meetings Into Engagement Tools

As remote and hybrid work becomes increasingly common, virtual meetings have evolved from occasional necessity to daily reality for many organizations. While the core principles of effective meetings remain unchanged, the virtual environment presents unique challenges and opportunities that require thoughtful adaptation to maintain engagement and productivity. A global consulting firm struggling with "Zoom fatigue" implemented a virtual meeting transformation program that yielded impressive results. By applying specialized techniques for digital engagement, they reduced meeting durations by 25% while increasing participant satisfaction scores by over 30%. Their director of operations noted, "We stopped treating virtual meetings like poor substitutes for in-person gatherings and started leveraging their unique advantages." Video conferencing technology forms the foundation of effective virtual meetings. Platforms like Zoom, Google Meet, and Microsoft Teams enable face-to-face interaction that captures critical non-verbal communication. Requiring cameras to remain on (when bandwidth permits) dramatically increases engagement by creating mutual accountability and reducing multitasking. One executive makes this expectation clear: "If you're on your device doing something unrelated to our meeting, I can call you out—and if I'm right, you buy lunch for the group." This playful approach establishes norms that preserve meeting effectiveness. Collaborative tools elevate virtual meetings beyond simple conversation. Shared documents allow participants to contribute simultaneously rather than taking turns speaking. Virtual whiteboards enable visual thinking that mimics in-person collaboration. Polling features provide immediate feedback from all participants, including those who might hesitate to speak up. By intentionally incorporating these technologies, virtual meetings can actually surpass traditional meetings in capturing diverse perspectives. Facilitation techniques require adjustment in digital environments. Since interrupting naturally is more difficult online, skilled moderators create deliberate space for participation. One effective approach is the "round robin" technique where each person speaks briefly in turn, ensuring everyone contributes. Another is using the chat feature as a parallel communication channel where participants can add thoughts without interrupting the speaker. Engagement must be actively managed in virtual settings. Breaking longer meetings into segments with clear transitions helps maintain focus. Including brief energizer activities at natural transition points reenergages participants whose attention may be waning. One software development team begins each virtual session with a two-minute "show and tell" where one team member shares something personal, creating connection before diving into business topics. Perhaps most importantly, virtual meetings require more deliberate planning than their in-person counterparts. Agendas should be distributed further in advance, with materials clearly labeled for pre-reading. Technical checks should be scheduled before critical meetings to ensure all participants can connect successfully. Time zones must be considered carefully when scheduling to avoid placing undue burden on team members in distant locations. By embracing these specialized techniques, virtual meetings transform from exhausting obligations into powerful tools for connection and collaboration across distances. The organizations that master this aspect of remote work create significant competitive advantage through enhanced communication effectiveness regardless of physical location. As one CEO reflected, "Our virtual meeting practices have become so effective that they've influenced how we run our in-person gatherings as well."

Summary

The transformation from dreaded time-wasters to engines of productivity begins with a fundamental mindset shift. Meetings don't inherently suck—we simply haven't developed the skills to run them effectively. By identifying our meeting personality types, creating purposeful agendas, mastering essential meeting styles, compressing time, establishing clear roles, implementing consistent rhythms, and adapting thoughtfully to virtual environments, we can reclaim countless wasted hours and convert them into productive power. The path forward is clear: take immediate action to implement at least one key principle from this approach in your very next meeting. Perhaps start with a properly structured agenda that includes meeting styles for each topic, or assign the five essential roles at the beginning of your next team gathering. As the book emphasizes, "Meetings hold the potential to drive alignment within the business, give direction, generate energy, focus, and creativity, and inspire your people to elevate the business to the next level." By embracing these proven strategies, you can transform one of business's most loathed activities into one of its most valuable competitive advantages.

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Cameron Herold

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