
My Age of Anxiety
Fear, Hope, Dread and the Search for Peace of Mind
Categories
Nonfiction, Self Help, Psychology, Health, Science, Biography, Memoir, Mental Health, Audiobook, Mental Illness
Content Type
Book
Binding
Hardcover
Year
2014
Publisher
Knopf
Language
English
ASIN
0307269876
ISBN
0307269876
ISBN13
9780307269874
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My Age of Anxiety Plot Summary
Introduction
Anxiety has been Scott Stossel's constant companion since childhood, a shadow that has followed him through every significant moment of his life. As an accomplished editor at The Atlantic and acclaimed author, Stossel presents a fascinating paradox: a man who has achieved remarkable professional success while simultaneously battling debilitating anxiety that has manifested in numerous phobias, panic attacks, and physical symptoms. His journey through the labyrinth of anxiety offers a unique window into both the personal experience of mental illness and the broader cultural and scientific understanding of one of humanity's most common psychological conditions. Through Stossel's story, readers gain insight into three crucial dimensions of anxiety: its biological roots in genetics and neurochemistry, its psychological manifestations across different life stages, and the complex interplay between suffering and meaning-making. His unflinching honesty about his own struggles, combined with his journalistic rigor in exploring the history and science of anxiety, creates a narrative that is simultaneously deeply personal and universally relevant. As mental health concerns increasingly enter public discourse, Stossel's experience illuminates the challenges faced by millions who battle anxiety while offering hope that even the most persistent fears need not define a life.
Chapter 1: Family Legacy: Generations of Anxiety
Anxiety runs like a genetic thread through Scott Stossel's family tree, creating patterns that span generations and offer crucial context for understanding his own struggles. His great-grandfather Chester Hanford, who served as the dean of Harvard College, suffered from what doctors in the 1940s called "psychoneurosis" and "reactive depression," experiencing anxiety so severe that he was hospitalized at McLean Hospital after confiding suicidal thoughts to his wife. This pattern continued through subsequent generations, with Stossel's grandfather displaying subtle obsessive behaviors despite being described as "one of the sanest people" Stossel knows. His mother battled many of the same phobias that would later plague Stossel himself, including fear of heights and public speaking, while his sister developed her own manifestation of anxiety, different in expression but similar in intensity. This four-generation pattern strongly suggests a genetic predisposition to anxiety and depression, a theory supported by modern research on the heritability of anxiety disorders. However, genetics alone cannot explain the full picture of Stossel's anxiety. Environmental factors played equally significant roles in shaping his nervous temperament. His great-grandparents suffered the devastating trauma of losing a young child to infection in the 1920s, potentially contributing to his great-grandfather's psychological breakdown. Stossel's mother may have acquired her anxieties by observing her own mother's worrying tendencies, a psychological process called "modeling," and Stossel himself might have learned fearfulness by watching his mother's phobic behaviors. The cultural context of Stossel's upbringing created additional layers of complexity in his relationship with anxiety. His paternal grandparents were Jewish emigrants who fled Nazi Germany in the 1930s, with his grandmother developing what Stossel describes as a self-hating relationship to her Jewish identity out of fear of persecution. This Jewish heritage was concealed from Stossel until he reached college age. Meanwhile, his father maintained a lifelong fascination with World War II, particularly with Nazi Germany, and Stossel recalls the ominous music of the television series "The World at War" forming the soundtrack of his early childhood as the Nazi forces advanced on Paris. In stark contrast to this Jewish heritage, Stossel's maternal lineage was predominantly WASP (White Anglo-Saxon Protestant), with his mother proudly tracing her ancestry to the Mayflower. This side of the family subscribed to the notion that emotions and family issues should be suppressed rather than expressed. Stossel describes himself as "a mixture of Jewish and WASP pathology—a neurotic and histrionic Jew suppressed inside a neurotic and repressed WASP," creating what he calls the perfect cultural cocktail for anxiety to flourish. This complex heritage created conflicting messages about how to process and express emotional distress, leaving young Stossel without clear models for managing his growing anxiety. The broader historical context of Stossel's formative years further contributed to his anxious worldview. Growing up during the Cold War, he regularly dreamed of missiles streaking across the sky, his childhood imagination haunted by the possibility of nuclear annihilation. The television film "The Day After," which graphically depicted the aftermath of nuclear attack, made a profound impression on him in middle school, reinforcing his sense that catastrophe could strike at any moment. While the specific threats have evolved over time—from nuclear war to terrorism, climate change, economic instability, and global pandemics—the underlying pattern of anticipating disaster has remained consistent in Stossel's psychological landscape, feeding what was already a predisposition toward anxious thinking.
Chapter 2: Childhood Battles: Early Signs and Symptoms
The first signs of Stossel's anxiety emerged in early childhood, manifesting in behaviors that went beyond typical childhood fears. As a toddler, he exhibited extreme tantrums that involved throwing himself on the floor, screaming relentlessly, and even banging his head against the ground. These episodes would sometimes last for hours, leaving his parents bewildered about whether this behavior fell within the normal spectrum of childhood development or signaled something more troubling. While all children experience phases of emotional volatility, the intensity and duration of Stossel's distress hinted at an unusually sensitive temperament that would become increasingly apparent as he grew older. By age six, two significant issues emerged that would define much of Stossel's future psychological landscape. First came an intensified resurgence of separation anxiety that made ordinary childhood activities extraordinarily difficult. When his mother began attending law school at night, young Scott developed an overwhelming fear that his parents would never return home. Each evening became a ritual of terror as he paced his room, peering anxiously out the window, convinced that his parents had died or abandoned him. Even after they invariably returned safely, the cycle would repeat the following night, his rational mind unable to override the visceral panic. This pattern of separation anxiety would later be echoed in his adult relationships, creating a template for how he experienced attachment and loss. The second significant development was the onset of emetophobia—an intense fear of vomiting—which would become his most persistent and debilitating phobia. With remarkable precision, Stossel can recall that it has been over four decades since he last vomited on March 17, 1977, meaning he has spent more than 80 percent of his life without experiencing the very thing he fears most. Yet paradoxically, he estimates that 60 percent of his waking life has been consumed by worrying about something he hasn't done in over forty years. This specific phobia would follow him throughout his life, influencing countless decisions and limiting his experiences in profound ways. As Stossel grew older, his anxiety began to affect nearly every aspect of his life. Simple childhood activities like baseball practice, swimming lessons, and soccer drills all ended the same way—with tears and retreat. His first morning at day camp was spent sobbing by his cubby, and his only overnight camp experience lasted just two hours before counselors gave up trying to console him. This pattern of anxiety-driven avoidance would continue to shape his experiences, limiting his world in ways both large and small. The statistical fatedness of this progression would later become clear to Stossel as he researched anxiety disorders, discovering that children who develop specific phobias are nearly five times more likely to develop social phobia as teenagers. By adolescence, Stossel's anxiety had evolved to include intense performance anxiety, particularly around public speaking. A traumatic experience during his sixth-grade holiday performance of "Saint George and the Dragon" marked a turning point. Standing center stage and looking out at the audience, his chest constricted, and he was overwhelmed by physical and emotional panic, eventually freezing mid-sentence until his friend bailed him out by saying his next line. This experience opened what Stossel describes as a trapdoor beneath him, transforming public performances from occasions of nervous excitement to experiences of pure torture. As a member of a professional boys' choir, he would hold his score in front of his face to hide from the audience and mouth the words silently, fearing that if he made any sound, he would vomit. The progression of Stossel's anxiety followed what clinicians would recognize as a textbook development: from specific phobia in childhood to social phobia in adolescence, panic disorder in his late teens, and eventually agoraphobia and depression in young adulthood. This pattern reflects the common trajectory of untreated anxiety disorders, where initial fears, if not addressed effectively, tend to generalize and intensify over time. For Stossel, each new manifestation of anxiety built upon previous ones, creating an increasingly complex and debilitating condition that would require decades of treatment and self-discovery to manage effectively.
Chapter 3: Physical Manifestations: The Body in Revolt
The mind-body connection in anxiety is vividly illustrated through Stossel's physical symptoms, particularly his digestive distress. Being anxious makes his stomach hurt and his bowels loosen, creating a vicious cycle where these physical symptoms then trigger more anxiety. This pattern has led to countless embarrassing incidents, particularly during travel, when Stossel finds himself frantically searching for restrooms. His memories of European landmarks are overshadowed by recollections of their public facilities. During one trip to Rome, while his wife and her family visited the Trevi Fountain, Stossel was confined to the bathroom of a nearby gelateria, where impatient Italians banged on the door as he struggled with anxiety-induced intestinal distress. This nervous stomach has sabotaged numerous important experiences throughout Stossel's life. During a summer researching his first book while staying with the Kennedy family on Cape Cod, he had an embarrassing bathroom emergency that culminated in a toilet overflow and a desperate escape wrapped in a towel. He nearly collided with John F. Kennedy Jr. on the stairs while in this compromised state. Though no one mentioned the incident afterward, Stossel remained convinced the household staff were whispering about him, adding social humiliation to his physical discomfort. These experiences demonstrate how anxiety creates a feedback loop between psychological distress and bodily symptoms, each intensifying the other. The connection between anxiety and digestive distress has been recognized since ancient times. Hippocrates attributed both bowel trouble and anxiety to a surplus of black bile, an early recognition of what modern medicine confirms through research on the brain-gut axis. Studies show that people with irritable bowel syndrome have bodies that are more physically reactive to stress, and between 42 and 61 percent of patients with functional bowel disorders also have psychiatric diagnoses, most commonly anxiety or depression. This research validates Stossel's experience of anxiety as a whole-body condition rather than merely a psychological state. Beyond digestive symptoms, Stossel experiences the full range of physical manifestations associated with anxiety. During panic attacks, his heart races, his breathing becomes shallow and rapid, and he often feels dizzy or lightheaded. These symptoms can be so intense that he has mistaken them for heart attacks or other life-threatening medical conditions, leading to emergency room visits where doctors find nothing physically wrong despite his very real distress. This pattern illustrates how the body's normal stress response, designed to protect us from danger, can become pathological when activated inappropriately or disproportionately to actual threats. To cope with these physical symptoms, Stossel has developed elaborate precautionary behaviors. He avoids hospitals and public restrooms, gives wide berth to sick people, obsessively washes his hands, and carefully scrutinizes the source of everything he eats. He stashes motion sickness bags throughout his home, office, and car, and carries Pepto-Bismol and Dramamine everywhere. Like a military strategist, he maintains a detailed mental map of norovirus outbreaks worldwide, tracking infections in nursing homes, cruise ships, and schools across the globe. These behaviors provide temporary relief from anxiety but ultimately reinforce the fear by suggesting that such extensive precautions are necessary for survival. The physical dimension of Stossel's anxiety extends to his medication regimen, which itself produces bodily effects. To manage public speaking engagements, he takes a combination of Xanax (a benzodiazepine), Inderal (a beta-blocker that dampens the sympathetic nervous system), and alcohol—usually scotch or vodka. This self-medication approach is dangerous but effective, allowing him to function in situations that would otherwise be unbearable. However, it comes with costs: potential dependence, cognitive side effects, and the risk of adverse interactions. This pharmaceutical approach to managing anxiety's physical symptoms reflects broader cultural trends toward medicating emotional distress, raising questions about the appropriate boundaries of chemical intervention in psychological conditions.
Chapter 4: Professional Paradox: Success Despite Fear
Despite the profound limitations imposed by his anxiety, Stossel has forged a remarkably successful professional career. As an editor at The Atlantic and author of multiple books, he has achieved prominence in journalism and publishing while simultaneously battling debilitating anxiety. This paradox—of outward accomplishment alongside inner turmoil—has been a defining feature of his professional life and raises fascinating questions about the relationship between anxiety and achievement. How has someone so frequently incapacitated by fear managed to thrive in a field that demands public engagement, deadline pressure, and intellectual performance? The contrast between Stossel's public and private personas is stark. Colleagues have often been surprised to learn of his condition, as he has developed sophisticated strategies to conceal his anxiety in professional settings. When panic would strike while working with his research assistant Kathy, he would invent errands to escape the office until the attack subsided. During public speaking engagements, he has relied on beta-blockers and benzodiazepines to manage his symptoms, sometimes taking doses that would incapacitate a person without his tolerance. This ability to maintain a competent professional facade while experiencing intense inner distress represents both a remarkable achievement and a significant psychological burden. Stossel's anxiety has particularly affected his ability to promote his work. When his publisher arranged a publicity tour for his first book, the prospect of national television appearances and bookstore readings filled him with dread rather than excitement. This led him to seek help from multiple sources, including a Harvard psychopharmacologist who prescribed a combination of benzodiazepines and increased his SSRI dosage, and a cognitive behavioral therapist who wanted him to confront his anxiety without medication. The conflicting advice from these professionals reflected his own internal struggle about how to manage his condition while meeting professional obligations. Writing itself has served as both a trigger for Stossel's anxiety and a means of understanding it. The pressure of deadlines has often exacerbated his symptoms, yet researching anxiety has provided him with valuable context for his experiences. His work on a biography that took six years to complete coincided with his time on Paxil, creating a complex relationship between his medication, his anxiety, and his creative output. Later, while researching anxiety disorders for his own book, he gained insights that helped him contextualize his suffering within broader scientific and cultural frameworks. This intellectual engagement with his condition has allowed him to transform personal struggle into professional insight. Stossel's professional journey illustrates what psychologists call "high-functioning anxiety"—the ability to achieve significant success while privately struggling with severe symptoms. This pattern appears elsewhere in his family history, most notably in his great-grandfather Chester Hanford, who maintained a distinguished career as Harvard dean despite recurring hospitalizations for anxiety and depression. Like Hanford, Stossel has found that professional obligations can sometimes provide structure that helps contain anxiety, even as they create pressures that trigger it. The necessity of meeting external expectations has often forced him to push through fear in ways that purely personal situations might not. Perhaps most remarkably, Stossel has transformed his personal struggle into professional insight, using his experiences to inform his writing about anxiety. By doing so, he has not only achieved success despite his condition but has also created meaning from his suffering—a theme that resonates throughout his work and life. His ability to analyze his own anxiety with both scientific rigor and personal vulnerability has made his professional contributions particularly valuable, offering readers both scholarly understanding and deeply human connection. This transformation of private pain into public value represents one of the most significant achievements of his career.
Chapter 5: Medical Odyssey: The Search for Relief
Stossel's quest for relief from anxiety has led him through a labyrinth of treatments spanning nearly four decades. His first significant medical intervention came at age twelve when, after a particularly severe anxiety episode, he was prescribed Thorazine, an antipsychotic medication, along with imipramine, a tricyclic antidepressant. For eighteen months, these orange and green pills became fixtures on the edge of his breakfast and dinner plates. While the medication reduced his anxiety enough to keep him out of the hospital, it came with significant costs: foggy thinking, constant dehydration, and tardive dyskinesia that left him with twitching fingers. The side effects transformed him physically. Once a talented young soccer player who could dribble circles around older competitors, Stossel became a different child—moving slowly, tiring easily, and developing a gluey white mucus around his lips. In photographs from this period, he appears hunched and hangdog, shrinking into himself. Yet without these medications, he acknowledges he might not have survived seventh grade. By the end of eighth grade, as his condition improved somewhat, he was weaned off Thorazine, but this marked only the beginning of his pharmaceutical journey. Over subsequent decades, Stossel would become what he calls "a living repository of the pharmacological trends in anxiety treatment." He provides a staggering list of medications he has tried: "Thorazine. Imipramine. Desipramine. Chlorpheniramine. Nardil. BuSpar. Prozac. Zoloft. Paxil. Wellbutrin. Effexor. Celexa. Lexapro. Cymbalta. Luvox. Trazodone. Levoxyl. Propranolol. Tranxene. Serax. Centrax. St. John's wort. Zolpidem. Valium. Librium. Ativan. Xanax. Klonopin." Plus alcohol in various forms: "beer, wine, gin, bourbon, vodka, and scotch." His assessment of what has worked? "Nothing," though he qualifies this: "Some drugs have helped a little, for finite periods of time." Beyond medication, Stossel has pursued numerous forms of psychotherapy and alternative treatments. He writes, "Here's what I've tried: individual psychotherapy (three decades of it), family therapy, group therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy, rational emotive therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, hypnosis, meditation, role-playing, interoceptive exposure therapy, in vivo exposure therapy, supportive-expressive therapy, eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, self-help workbooks, massage therapy, prayer, acupuncture, yoga, Stoic philosophy, and audiotapes I ordered off a late-night TV infomercial." This exhaustive list reflects both the breadth of available anxiety treatments and the desperation of someone seeking relief from chronic suffering. One of the most challenging aspects of anxiety treatment is exposure therapy, which requires confronting fears directly. When Stossel worked with a therapist at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders, she proposed treating his emetophobia (fear of vomiting) by giving him ipecac syrup to induce vomiting. After months of hesitation, Stossel finally agreed to try. The experience was traumatic—he spent hours retching without vomiting, lying on the bathroom floor shaking between bouts of nausea. Ironically, the therapist herself became so nauseated watching him that she went home and vomited. This incident illustrates both the potential value and the significant challenges of exposure therapy for severe phobias. Throughout his medical journey, Stossel has found himself caught between competing treatment philosophies. When facing an upcoming book tour that filled him with dread, he sought help from multiple sources. A prominent Harvard psychopharmacologist (whom Stossel calls "Dr. Harvard") insisted that Stossel's anxiety had a biological, physiological, and genetic basis—a medical illness like diabetes that required medication. Meanwhile, a Stanford-trained psychologist specializing in cognitive behavioral therapy (whom he calls "Dr. Stanford") took the opposite approach, urging him to stop taking the medications that were serving as a "crutch" and preventing him from truly experiencing and confronting his anxiety. This conflict between biological and psychological approaches to anxiety treatment has deep historical roots, reflecting broader tensions within psychiatry about the nature of mental illness itself. Is anxiety primarily a biological condition requiring pharmaceutical intervention? Or is it a psychological response to life experiences that demands cognitive retraining and behavioral change? Stossel's journey through the medical landscape of anxiety treatment illustrates how these competing paradigms shape both professional practice and patient experience, often leaving those who suffer caught between contradictory approaches to their condition.
Chapter 6: Parenting with Anxiety: Breaking the Cycle
When Stossel became a father, he confronted one of his greatest fears: that he would transmit his anxiety to his children. Despite his decades of therapy, his extensive knowledge about anxiety disorders, and his wife's emotionally stable influence, Stossel watched with dismay as his daughter Maren, around age six, developed an obsessive phobia of vomiting—the very same fear that had plagued both him and his mother. Later, his son Nathaniel exhibited separation anxiety reminiscent of Stossel's own childhood experiences. These parallels were uncanny and distressing, suggesting that despite his best efforts, the intergenerational transmission of anxiety would continue. The similarities between his children's anxieties and his own were striking. Maren's declaration that "I can't stop thinking bad thoughts" after witnessing a classmate throw up during math class broke Stossel's heart, as he recognized his own thought patterns emerging in his child. During a family vacation to Florida, six-year-old Maren's fear of flying manifested in a way that eerily mirrored her father's anxieties. When flight attendants reviewed safety instructions, she became fixated on the possibility of a crash, asking with the characteristic logic of anxiety: "If planes are so safe, why do they have instructions telling you what to do if it crashes?" This moment crystallized Stossel's fears about passing his anxiety to the next generation. This intergenerational transmission raised profound questions for Stossel about nature versus nurture. Unlike his mother, he had never revealed his emetophobia to his daughter before she developed it herself. He and his wife had consciously tried to avoid the overprotective parenting style that he believed had contributed to his own anxiety. Yet here was his daughter exhibiting symptoms very similar to his own at almost the same age, suggesting a genetic component that transcended parenting approaches. Modern research on behavioral genetics provided Stossel with some context for understanding this pattern, as studies of twins have consistently shown that anxiety disorders have a strong hereditary component. Despite this genetic predisposition, Stossel has worked diligently to help his children develop better coping mechanisms than he had. Both children received early psychotherapy to help them manage what the family calls their "worry brains." Stossel and his wife have tried to strike a balance between acknowledging their children's anxieties and preventing those fears from limiting their experiences. They validate feelings while gently encouraging brave behavior, a parenting approach informed by both Stossel's personal experience and contemporary psychological research on anxiety in children. This conscious parenting represents Stossel's attempt to break the cycle of debilitating anxiety that has run through generations of his family. The results of these efforts have been encouraging. While Maren remains emetophobic, she has developed techniques for managing her fear and has become less anxious and more self-confident in most areas of her life. Nathaniel's separation anxiety has also become less severe, though he remains what Stossel calls "an imaginative catastrophizer." Both children have learned to recognize and challenge anxious thoughts in ways that Stossel himself didn't learn until adulthood. This suggests that while the genetic predisposition to anxiety may be difficult to overcome completely, early intervention and appropriate parenting strategies can significantly influence how that predisposition manifests. Stossel's approach to parenting with anxiety reflects his broader philosophy about the condition: that while anxiety may be partly determined by genetics and early experiences, it can be managed through a combination of understanding, therapy, and sometimes medication. He hopes that by addressing his children's anxiety early and openly, they will be able to avoid some of the suffering he experienced. As he notes, they will "probably remain prone to anxiety for their entire lives," but his goal is to help them "manage their fear, and even harness it in productive ways" so they can "thrive despite it." This parenting journey has given Stossel a new perspective on his own anxiety as well, as he has gained insights into his condition by observing his children's struggles and helping them develop resilience.
Chapter 7: Finding Meaning: Transforming Suffering into Purpose
Throughout his lifelong battle with anxiety, Stossel has grappled with a fundamental question: Can suffering have meaning? While anxiety has undeniably limited his life in countless ways, he has also discovered that it has shaped his perspective, deepened his empathy, and ultimately informed his most significant work. This search for meaning in suffering represents a profound philosophical and psychological journey that has led Stossel to insights about both his personal condition and the broader human experience of anxiety. Stossel finds himself caught between competing philosophical approaches to anxiety. On one hand, he acknowledges the biological reality of his condition—the hyperactive amygdala, the genetic predispositions, the neurochemical imbalances that medication sometimes helps correct. On the other hand, he resonates with existentialist philosophers like Kierkegaard and Sartre, who viewed anxiety not as something to be avoided or medicated but as "the truest route to self-discovery." Similarly, he finds wisdom in the novelist Walker Percy's assertion that anxiety may be "a summons to an authentic existence, to be heeded at any cost." This tension between biological determinism and existential meaning plays out in Stossel's ambivalence about medication and his ongoing search for purpose in his suffering. Stossel has found that his anxiety, while painful, has given him certain gifts. His hypervigilance and tendency to anticipate worst-case scenarios have made him meticulous in his research and writing. His experiences of vulnerability have deepened his compassion for others who suffer. Most significantly, by transforming his personal struggle into scholarly and literary work, he has created meaning from what might otherwise have been merely pointless suffering. This alchemical process—turning pain into purpose—represents one of the most profound achievements of Stossel's life and offers a model for others facing similar challenges. The stories of others who have channeled anxiety into achievement provide Stossel with models for finding purpose in pain. He writes about Bill Russell, the legendary basketball player who vomited from anxiety before most of his games yet went on to become one of the greatest athletes of all time. He recounts the story of Giuseppe Pardo Roques, a Jewish community leader in Pisa, Italy, whose crippling animal phobia prevented him from traveling yet who displayed extraordinary courage when confronted by Nazis during World War II. These examples suggest that anxiety and courage can coexist—that one might be simultaneously anxious and effective, fearful and heroic. Beyond personal meaning, Stossel's work has contributed to broader cultural understanding of anxiety. By writing openly about his experiences, he has helped reduce stigma around anxiety disorders and created space for others to acknowledge their own struggles. His research into the history and science of anxiety has provided context that helps readers understand this condition not as a personal failing but as a complex interplay of biological, psychological, and social factors. This public contribution represents another way that Stossel has transformed his suffering into something valuable, using his own pain to illuminate the experiences of millions who share similar challenges. Ultimately, Stossel arrives at a nuanced perspective that acknowledges both the biological reality of anxiety and its potential existential significance. He rejects simplistic either/or thinking about medication versus meaning, biology versus psychology, nature versus nurture. Instead, he embraces the complexity of anxiety as both a medical condition that sometimes requires treatment and a human experience that can, when approached with wisdom and courage, lead to deeper understanding and even wisdom. In this way, Stossel transforms his suffering from a merely private burden into a source of insight that benefits others—perhaps the most meaningful response possible to a condition that might otherwise seem merely cruel and arbitrary.
Summary
Scott Stossel's journey through anxiety reveals a profound truth: that one can live a meaningful, successful life while simultaneously battling debilitating fear. His story demonstrates how anxiety, while limiting in countless ways, need not define one's existence or prevent significant achievement. Through decades of struggling with phobias, panic attacks, and physical symptoms, Stossel has forged a path that includes professional success, family life, and ultimately, the transformation of his suffering into insight that benefits others. His experience offers valuable lessons about resilience, the integration of contradictory aspects of self, and the possibility of creating purpose from pain. For those battling anxiety or supporting loved ones with similar conditions, Stossel's journey suggests several important principles: First, that understanding the biological, psychological, and social dimensions of anxiety provides context that reduces shame and isolation. Second, that while complete freedom from anxiety may be an unrealistic goal for those with strong genetic predispositions, developing effective management strategies can significantly improve quality of life. Finally, that the very sensitivity and awareness that make anxious people vulnerable to suffering can also become sources of strength when channeled into empathy, creativity, and purpose. In sharing his story with unflinching honesty and scholarly rigor, Stossel has created a narrative that normalizes anxiety while simultaneously demonstrating the remarkable human capacity to thrive despite it.
Best Quote
“To some people, I may seem calm. But if you could peer beneath the surface, you would see that I'm like a duck--paddling, paddling, paddling.” ― Scott Stossel, My Age of Anxiety: Fear, Hope, Dread, and the Search for Peace of Mind
Review Summary
Strengths: The book offers a fascinating blend of historical and analytical elements regarding anxiety, making it an engaging read. Stossel's approach of intertwining his personal struggles with anxiety provides a human touch, making the exploration of this condition relatable. His extensive research into the history, genetics, and societal views on anxiety is comprehensive and informative. The book is also noted for its honesty and courage, as Stossel openly shares his personal experiences and challenges with anxiety. Weaknesses: The review highlights that the book can be overlong and repetitive, with an excessive focus on Freud, which some readers might find tedious. The physical format, particularly the abundance of footnotes, can disrupt the reading flow and make the book feel longer than it is. Additionally, the book's tone is described as negative and pessimistic, with Stossel's personal biases overshadowing other perspectives. The review also mentions a lack of diverse viewpoints, as the book predominantly features male examples of anxiety sufferers. Overall Sentiment: The general sentiment expressed in the review is mixed. While the book is recognized for its depth and honesty, it is also criticized for being lengthy and somewhat biased, which may not appeal to all readers. Key Takeaway: "My Age of Anxiety" provides a detailed and personal exploration of anxiety, offering valuable insights into the condition's history and treatment, but it may not provide definitive answers or solutions for those seeking them.
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My Age of Anxiety
By Scott Stossel