The Good Enough Job

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Introduction

For decades, we have been taught that career success is the ultimate marker of a life well-lived. The pressure to find fulfilling work, climb the corporate ladder, and define ourselves through our professional achievements has become so normalized that we rarely question it. This ideology—what journalist Derek Thompson calls "workism"—has transformed work from a means of survival into our primary source of identity, purpose, and meaning. But this transformation has come at a significant cost to our well-being, relationships, and society at large. Through compelling stories and incisive analysis, we're taken on a journey through various workplaces and lives to uncover why our relationship with work has become so imbalanced and what we can do about it. From Wall Street bankers to elementary school teachers, tech employees living in vans to burned-out editors, these narratives reveal the common myths that perpetuate our unhealthy attachment to work. By examining the historical, economic, and cultural forces that have elevated work to a quasi-religious status, we discover that there are alternative ways to conceptualize our relationship with employment—ways that create space for a more balanced, fulfilling existence where work supports life rather than consuming it.

Chapter 1: The Identity Trap: Why We Are More Than Our Jobs

What happens when we build our entire identity around our professional achievements? Divya Singh's story powerfully illustrates this question. As an ambitious young culinary school student who landed a coveted internship at a prestigious three-Michelin-star restaurant, Divya quickly rose through the ranks to become the establishment's first R&D chef. Her talent and dedication eventually led her to partner with renowned chef Stephen Fischer on a dairy-free food company called Prameer. For seven years, Divya poured herself completely into building Prameer, letting the business consume nearly her entire twenties. She worked relentlessly, viewing Fischer as both a mentor and father figure. However, when tensions arose over business decisions, Divya discovered the dangers of tying her identity so closely to her work. After resigning from Prameer, she was shocked to learn that Fischer had eliminated her ownership stake in the company she had helped build from the ground up. The subsequent legal battle was emotionally devastating precisely because Divya had allowed her work to define who she was. "I was left with this gaping hole in my identity," she explained. "I didn't know who I was without this job." It was only after stepping away from her career that Divya began to rebuild a more multifaceted sense of self through skateboarding, surfing, and community involvement. Psychological research supports what Divya learned through experience. Studies show that people with greater "self-complexity"—those who invest in different aspects of themselves beyond just work—are more resilient in the face of setbacks. When we overidentify with just one role, particularly our professional one, we become vulnerable to identity crises when that role changes or disappears, as seen in cases of retired athletes, military veterans, or laid-off executives. Diversifying our identity isn't just about protecting ourselves from potential loss; it's about living a more complete life. By cultivating various sources of meaning and community, we create a foundation for self-worth that no job loss, criticism, or market fluctuation can fully undermine. "I want to remind people that you have to create value outside of work to protect yourself," Divya emphasized. This insight points to a crucial truth: we are workers, but we are also siblings, citizens, hobbyists, neighbors, and friends. Neglecting these other identities doesn't just impoverish our lives—it actually makes us more vulnerable.

Chapter 2: The Workism Myth: How Work Became Our New Religion

Ryan Burge lives with a foot in two worlds. As both a political science professor and a Baptist pastor in a small Illinois town, he studies religious trends professionally while experiencing them personally. In 2019, Ryan analyzed new data from the General Social Survey and discovered something remarkable: for the first time in American history, people claiming "no religion" outnumbered those identifying as either evangelical or Catholic. This finding wasn't just academically interesting—it revealed a profound shift in how Americans organize meaning in their lives. As traditional religious institutions decline, something else has filled the void for many, especially college-educated professionals: work. This phenomenon, dubbed "workism" by journalist Derek Thompson, treats career not just as an economic necessity but as a primary source of identity, purpose, and transcendence. The historical roots of this shift run deep. Until the sixteenth century, work in Western societies was generally viewed as a burden—something necessary but not inherently meaningful. This changed dramatically with the Protestant Reformation. Martin Luther sanctified labor as a divine calling, while John Calvin went further, suggesting that hard work and material success were indicators of salvation. As sociologist Max Weber famously argued, this created a perfect marriage between Protestant theology and capitalist economics, establishing the cultural foundations for workism. Today, these religious attitudes toward work persist even as traditional faith declines. When surveyed about what gives their lives meaning, Americans were nearly twice as likely to name their career than their spouse. For high-earning professionals across the globe, work has replaced religion as a primary source of community, purpose, and moral identity. The workplace has become a new kind of church, with its own rituals, hierarchies, and promises of fulfillment. Yet this faith in work often disappoints its devotees. Unlike traditional religions, which acknowledge human limitation and the inevitability of suffering, workism promises that enough dedication will lead to ultimate satisfaction—a promise it rarely delivers. The rewards of status and accomplishment prove fleeting, requiring ever more achievement to maintain the same emotional high. Meanwhile, other sources of meaning atrophy from neglect. Ryan Burge embodies a more balanced approach. Despite working in two demanding professions, he deliberately chooses to prioritize his family and local community over career advancement. "Finding meaning from multiple parts of my life means that when a setback comes in one aspect, it doesn't sting as much," he explains. His experience suggests that while work can certainly provide meaning, it's healthier when it serves as just one container for identity among many.

Chapter 3: False Promises: The Problem with 'Dream Job' Ideology

"Do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life." This pervasive cultural mantra has transformed from inspirational quote to professional gospel, fundamentally reshaping how we approach careers. But as Fobazi Ettarh's journey in librarianship reveals, the "dream job" ideology often conceals troubling realities about work and exploitation. Fobazi discovered her passion for library science as a fifteen-year-old queer teenager finding solace and representation in books. The librarians who recommended LGBTQ+ literature without judgment inspired her future career path. After earning her master's degree, she entered the profession with idealism, believing in libraries as democratic institutions that serve everyone equally. Yet her experience revealed a striking disconnect between this ideal and reality. In the predominantly white field of librarianship, Fobazi encountered racism, low wages despite requiring advanced degrees, and a troubling culture that equated personal sacrifice with professional worth. She coined the term "vocational awe" to describe this phenomenon—the belief that certain professions are so inherently noble that questioning working conditions, compensation, or institutional failures becomes taboo. This ideology transforms legitimate workplace concerns into personal moral failings: if you're truly dedicated to your calling, you shouldn't mind being underpaid or overworked. The historical context helps explain how the "dream job" narrative gained such power. Before the 1970s, most Americans viewed work through the lens of the "Fordist compromise"—a straightforward exchange of labor for wages, benefits, and security. But as corporate profits soared while wages stagnated in subsequent decades, employers needed new ways to motivate workers. The language of passion and personal fulfillment filled this gap perfectly, reframing exploitation as opportunity. Industries with cultural prestige—publishing, fashion, academia, and nonprofits—particularly leverage this narrative, relying on workers' devotion to accept inadequate compensation. "Not everybody has the same springboards and safety nets to parlay their passions into gainful employment," notes sociologist Erin Cech. The dream job ideology thus often reinforces inequality, as those with financial privilege can better afford to pursue passion while others cannot. The COVID-19 pandemic brutally exposed these dynamics across industries. Workers in libraries, healthcare, and education were labeled "essential" and "heroes" while being denied adequate protections or compensation. For Fobazi, this final disillusionment led her to leave librarianship altogether. "I no longer have a dream job," she concluded. "I'm going in with eyes wide open."

Chapter 4: Boundaries That Matter: Protecting Life from Work's Expansion

Megan Greenwell's journalism career began with remarkable success. At sixteen, she wrote an exposé for her high school newspaper that uncovered a sex trafficking operation, leading to federal charges against a local real estate mogul. This early achievement cemented her identity: she was a journalist. "After that, it just sort of felt like, 'Well, I'm certainly not ever doing anything else other than this,' " Megan recalled, "and I have to be the absolute best at it." For the next two decades, Megan climbed to impressive heights in journalism. She became a war correspondent for The Washington Post at twenty-three, contributed to a Pulitzer Prize-winning team, and eventually became the first female editor-in-chief of the popular sports blog Deadspin. Yet despite these professional successes, she found herself increasingly burned out. After accepting a position as the top editor at Wired's website, she would come home feeling like "a broken shell of a person"—not because she worked particularly long hours, but because she couldn't mentally disconnect from work. This inability to separate work from the rest of life represents a common struggle in contemporary society. Psychologist Erik Erikson, who studied identity formation, observed that humans seek stability through the identities we adopt. For Megan, journalism wasn't just her profession—it was the core of who she was. This enmeshment between personal and professional identity created vulnerability: when work wasn't going well, her entire sense of self suffered. The concept of self-worth based on productivity has deep historical roots in capitalism. Before the industrial revolution, workers generally labored only as much as necessary for subsistence, with natural boundaries like daylight limiting work hours. But as capitalism developed, work became increasingly detached from natural rhythms and community needs. Workers became valued primarily for what they produced, creating conditions where overwork became normalized and even celebrated. This dynamic intensifies in knowledge work, where the boundaries between personal and professional life easily blur. As U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy noted, "We live in the most technologically connected age in the history of civilization, yet rates of loneliness have doubled since the 1980s." Work has increasingly become many Americans' primary social circle, further entangling professional identity with personal life. After leaving Wired, Megan struggled to recalibrate. "What the last month has shown me really clearly is that there's actually something much more fundamental about my relationship with work that is unhealthy," she acknowledged. Like many ambitious professionals, she had to learn to exist without the constant validation and structure that work provided. Nine months into her sabbatical, she began to see progress: "I've done a better job of bringing things into balance. I learned how to turn my work brain off." Her journey illustrates that setting boundaries with work isn't just about limiting hours—it requires actively cultivating a sense of self beyond productivity.

Chapter 5: Corporate Culture Fallacies: When Companies Claim to Be Family

When Taylor Moore joined Kickstarter in 2012 as a receptionist, he quickly became immersed in a workplace that felt more like a community than a company. He hosted weekly happy hours, midnight movie clubs, and played Dungeons and Dragons with the founders. Kickstarter deliberately positioned itself as different from typical tech startups—it became a public benefit corporation, pledged a percentage of profits to social causes, and cultivated a mission-driven, values-oriented culture. This family-like atmosphere initially seemed ideal. Research shows that having friends at work correlates with higher engagement, productivity, and job satisfaction. Companies understandably try to foster these connections through team-building activities and social events, knowing that a sense of belonging improves retention and performance. But as Taylor would discover, the metaphor of workplace-as-family conceals significant hazards. The tension surfaced in 2018 when Kickstarter management took down a satirical comic book project called "Always Punch Nazis" after right-wing media criticism, overruling their own Trust and Safety team's decision to keep it up. Employees were outraged at what seemed like a betrayal of the company's values. When Justine Lai, a member of the Trust and Safety team, mentioned the decision in a company Slack channel, she was subsequently pushed out of the company. This incident revealed the fundamental contradiction in the family metaphor: unlike actual families, employment relationships are conditional. "They can fire us; we can't fire them," Taylor observed. "We were never on the same team." Recognizing this power imbalance, Taylor and others began organizing a union—the first wall-to-wall union effort at a major tech company. Management's response further exposed the limits of corporate familial rhetoric. Executives who had previously emphasized community and shared values actively fought against unionization. Clarissa Redwine and Taylor, both public faces of the organizing effort, began receiving negative performance feedback after years of positive reviews. Eventually, both were fired. This pattern of using "pretext"—finding performance reasons to terminate union organizers—is a classic union-busting tactic. The central insight from Taylor's experience is that workplace relationships—particularly between managers and workers—ultimately revolve around power, not family bonds. When companies invoke family rhetoric, they often seek the benefits of employee loyalty and sacrifice without offering the unconditional support that characterizes actual family relationships. As workplace columnist Alison Green notes, "Cultures that say their workplace is like a family are almost never to employees' advantage." After a two-year organizing effort, Kickstarter employees voted to form a union in February 2020. For Taylor, the victory represented more than just improved working conditions; it established clear boundaries in a relationship that had previously been muddied by false familial claims. "Power should not be concentrated in the hands of a few, period," he said. "If you are under someone else's power, you should have a say in how that power is used."

Chapter 6: Status vs. Fulfillment: Redefining What Success Really Means

Khe Hy's life trajectory perfectly embodied the traditional American success story. Born to Cambodian immigrant parents in New York City, he internalized an early understanding that financial achievement would lead to status, belonging, and ultimately happiness. From middle school comic book arbitrage to programming websites in high school, Khe consistently prioritized earning potential. At Yale, he selected computer science as his major because it promised the highest starting salary. After graduation, he entered investment banking for the same reason. At BlackRock, the world's largest asset management firm, Khe rose meteorically, becoming one of the youngest managing directors in the company's history. By conventional metrics, he had "made it"—earning over a million dollars annually before turning thirty. Yet despite reaching these impressive milestones, Khe felt an increasing sense of emptiness. "Success is like an addiction," he explained. "The first time you get high, you start hallucinating. But if you smoke every day, you need ten bong rips in the morning just to feel normal." The crisis point arrived when, at thirty-three, Khe woke up to find a chunk of his hair had fallen out due to stress. Standing in a bathroom mirror at his friend's wedding, watching black hair-loss concealer drip down his neck, he confronted a painful truth: his wealth and status weren't making him happy or healthy. This disconnect between external achievements and internal fulfillment reveals the problematic nature of status-seeking. Although humans are naturally inclined to seek status as a survival mechanism, philosopher Agnes Callard points out that "we seek status because we don't know our own preferences." When we don't trust our own definition of what constitutes success, we adopt socially prescribed values by default. Philosopher C. Thi Nguyen calls this phenomenon "value capture"—when clear, quantifiable metrics like money, titles, or rankings override our more nuanced personal values. It happens in education when standardized test scores become the sole measure of learning, in fitness when step counts replace overall well-being, and in careers when salary and promotions become the only markers of worth. The problem isn't ambition itself but pursuing status without first determining what truly matters to us. Research with millionaires consistently shows that regardless of wealth level, people believe they need two to three times more money to be truly happy. This perpetual dissatisfaction affects even elite performers like NBA champion Kevin Durant, who found winning a championship left him feeling empty rather than fulfilled. After leaving BlackRock at thirty-five, Khe eventually discovered fulfillment through RadReads, a newsletter and online course business that helps professionals balance productivity with purpose. Moving to California with his family, he now structures his life around daily surf sessions, family dinners, and meaningful work that doesn't consume his identity. While Khe acknowledges his financial cushion made this transition easier, the true key to his contentment isn't wealth but rather his clear-eyed understanding of what "enough" means for him personally. "Even if I sold RadReads for a couple of million dollars," he reflects, "it would do nothing to change my happiness." His journey demonstrates that true success comes not from climbing endless status ladders, but from intentionally crafting a life aligned with personal values—balancing market realities with authentic desires.

Chapter 7: The Way Forward: Creating a Healthier Relationship with Work

Despite writing an entire book about establishing healthier boundaries with work, I find myself working on a holiday, feeling guilty about not being productive enough. This irony reveals an important truth: negotiating our relationship with work is an ongoing process, not a one-time decision. The pervasive belief that our worth equals our output runs deep in American culture, affecting even those who intellectually reject this premise. The challenge in creating healthier work relationships stems partly from treating overwork as primarily a personal problem. Common advice like "set boundaries" or "practice self-care" places responsibility on individual workers rather than addressing systemic issues. As Anne Helen Petersen writes, "When cultivating a healthy working culture becomes the responsibility of the individual, it will always fail." Personal boundaries inevitably break under the weight of institutional demands, understaffing, or compensation structures that reward overwork. Yet structural interventions also have limits. France's "Right to Disconnect" legislation, which restricts after-hours emails, has produced modest results at best. Japan's generous paternity leave policy remains largely unused, with only 5% of eligible fathers taking advantage of it. Creating meaningful change requires both policy shifts and cultural transformation—reimagining work's role in our lives at multiple levels. The COVID-19 pandemic, for all its devastation, demonstrated that rapid change is possible. Policies previously dismissed as unrealistic were implemented almost overnight. Remote work arrangements previously deemed impossible became standard. Workers began questioning whether their jobs deserved the centrality they had been given. This Great Reconsideration creates space for imagining alternatives. Moving forward requires action at three levels. First, governments must disentangle survival from employment by strengthening social safety nets. Universal basic income experiments in places like Stockton, California, show that providing economic security doesn't reduce work incentives but actually increases labor force participation while reducing anxiety and depression. More importantly, it acknowledges that human dignity exists independent of employment status. Second, organizations must move beyond empty wellness initiatives to implement systems that genuinely protect employee time. Leaders like Mathilde Collin, CEO of Front, demonstrate this by removing work apps from her phone, leaving her laptop behind during vacations, and recognizing that "if 'the boss' can respond to email during their honeymoon vacation in the middle of the Sahara desert, who has a good excuse for not doing so?" Similarly, the software company Doist makes its forty days of annual leave mandatory, ensuring employees actually disconnect. Finally, individuals must define their own version of "enough"—recognizing that a job is fundamentally an economic transaction. As writer Toni Morrison reflected, "Since that conversation with my father I have never considered the level of labor to be the measure of myself...I have never placed the security of a job above the value of home." This perspective doesn't diminish work's importance but puts it in proper perspective as a means to support life rather than life's central purpose. The path forward isn't about abandoning ambition or rejecting work's value. It's about reclaiming agency to determine work's place in our lives and developing a richer sense of self beyond productivity. Perhaps the simplest starting point is changing how we greet each other—asking "What do you like to do?" instead of "What do you do?"—acknowledging that we exist to do more than just produce economic value.

Summary

The central insight emerging from this exploration of modern work culture is that we have transformed jobs from a means of economic survival into our primary source of identity, purpose, and meaning—often to our detriment. This shift didn't happen accidentally; it resulted from specific historical, economic, and cultural forces that elevated work to an almost religious status while other traditional sources of meaning and community declined. The consequences manifest across society: burnout, loneliness, exploitation, and lives disproportionately organized around productivity rather than human flourishing. Creating healthier relationships with work requires action at multiple levels. Governments can strengthen safety nets that recognize human worth beyond employment. Organizations can implement policies that genuinely protect time away from work rather than merely paying lip service to "balance." Individuals can consciously cultivate identities and communities outside their professional roles. Most fundamentally, we need a cultural shift that views work as a component of a good life rather than its central organizing principle. The "good enough job" isn't about settling for mediocrity—it's about recognizing that work best serves us when it enables rather than consumes our lives, leaving space for the full range of experiences that make us human.

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Simone Stolzoff

Simone Stolzoff is a writer and designer from San Francisco. A former design lead at the global innovation firm IDEO, his work has been featured in The New York Times, Washington Post, Wall Street Journal, The Atlantic, and many other publications. He is a graduate of Stanford University and the University of Pennsylvania.

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