The Power Paradox

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Introduction

Power permeates every aspect of our social existence, shaping our personal relationships, professional endeavors, and societal structures. Yet our understanding of power has been deeply influenced by outdated notions that equate it with coercion, dominance, and force. This conventional view fails to explain how significant social changes occur or how influence operates in our daily interactions. The power paradox represents a fundamental pattern in human social dynamics: we rise in power through qualities that advance the greater good, but once we attain power, these very qualities often diminish. Modern science reveals that power is not simply about control or domination but about making a meaningful difference in the world by influencing others. This perspective transforms how we understand influence in our relationships, workplaces, and communities. By recognizing that power is given rather than grabbed, that it requires empathy rather than exploitation, and that it thrives through generosity rather than self-interest, we gain insight into both why power corrupts and how we might transcend this corruption. Understanding the psychological mechanisms underlying the power paradox offers us tools to navigate the ethical challenges of influence and to foster more collaborative, empathetic forms of leadership.

Chapter 1: Redefining Power as Making a Difference

Power has traditionally been understood through the lens of Machiavellian thinking—as the capacity to control others through force, manipulation, or coercion. This conception, dating back to Renaissance Italy, has dominated political theory and popular imagination for centuries. However, this narrow view fails to account for many significant transformations in human history, from civil rights movements to social reforms, which were accomplished without relying on force. A more comprehensive definition frames power as the capacity to make a difference in the world by influencing the states of others. This understanding recognizes that power operates in every interaction and relationship, not just in dramatic political or military contexts. When we alter someone's beliefs, knowledge, physical condition, or emotions, we exercise power. This happens when a teacher inspires a student, when a friend offers comfort during difficult times, or when an artist shifts cultural perspectives through their work. Power defined in this way is not restricted to those with wealth, status, or formal authority. Every person exercises power daily through countless small actions that influence others—a suggestion that changes a colleague's approach to a problem, a comment that lifts someone's spirits, or a question that prompts new thinking. These everyday acts of influence can ripple through social networks, creating change far beyond their immediate context. This conception of power as the ability to make a difference explains why power feels so essential to human flourishing. When we influence others positively, we experience a surge of purpose and agency—a rush of positive emotion that reinforces our sense of connection and meaning. This feeling is not merely pleasurable; it's a fundamental human drive that motivates us to engage with others and contribute to our social worlds. Understanding power as influence rather than control also reveals why it's constantly in flux. No one possesses absolute power in all contexts or relationships. Instead, power emerges dynamically through specific actions in specific situations, shifting as the context changes and as people respond differently to various approaches. This fluid nature of power means that influence is not something we permanently possess but something we continually negotiate through our interactions with others.

Chapter 2: Power is Given Through Social Collectives

Rather than being seized through force or manipulation, genuine power is bestowed by groups upon individuals who contribute to the collective good. This principle challenges the Machiavellian narrative that power must be grabbed through cunning or coercion. Natural state experiments—studies examining how power emerges in newly formed groups—consistently show that individuals who demonstrate enthusiasm, kindness, focus, calmness, and openness rise to positions of influence. Groups strategically empower individuals whose actions benefit the majority rather than serving narrow self-interests. This pattern appears not only in human societies but also among our primate relatives. Chimpanzee communities, for instance, often support leaders who maintain peace, build alliances through grooming, and protect the group from threats. The capacity to advance the greater good—not the ability to dominate—determines who receives power. Reputation serves as a crucial mechanism through which groups regulate power distribution. People quickly develop impressions of others' character, tracking their contributions to collective welfare through everyday interactions and conversations. These reputational assessments create opportunities for influence; individuals known for advancing group interests receive more resources, collaboration opportunities, and attention. Conversely, those with reputations for selfishness or exploitation find themselves marginalized. Groups further regulate power through status and esteem—intangible but highly valued social rewards. Across cultures, individuals who share resources, contribute skills, or demonstrate generosity receive recognition through deferential behaviors, praise, and public acknowledgment. This exchange—status for contribution—creates powerful incentives for prosocial behavior. Studies show that when people receive expressions of esteem, their brain's reward centers activate, producing pleasure comparable to physical rewards. This neurological response explains why humans universally seek status and respect. When individuals violate norms that promote collective welfare, groups employ gossip as a regulatory mechanism. Though often dismissed as trivial or malicious, gossip serves the essential function of spreading information about potential threats to group cohesion. Research shows that gossip typically targets those who violate trust, fail to contribute fairly, or exploit others. This communication flows strategically through social networks, allowing groups to coordinate responses to those who abuse power. These collective processes—conferring power based on contribution, constructing reputations, rewarding with status, and regulating through gossip—ensure that power generally flows to those who enhance group welfare. Understanding power as something given rather than grabbed illuminates why enduring influence depends on maintaining focus on others' needs rather than pursuing self-interest.

Chapter 3: Enduring Power Requires Focus on Others

Maintaining lasting influence depends critically on directing attention outward rather than inward. While the initial experience of power creates a euphoric rush that can easily turn self-focused, those who maintain influence over time cultivate practices that prioritize others' welfare. Four essential social practices help sustain power by keeping attention directed toward others rather than self-gratification. Empathy—understanding others' emotional states and perspectives—provides the foundation for enduring influence. By attending carefully to the emotional expressions of others, empathetic individuals navigate social situations with greater sophistication, anticipating needs and addressing concerns before they escalate. Studies show that leaders with high emotional intelligence create more productive teams, foster innovation, and reduce workplace stress. Their empathetic approach allows them to coordinate collective action effectively because they understand the motivations and concerns driving others' behavior. Giving to others represents another pathway to sustained influence. Through tangible resources, opportunities, encouragement, or simple acts like supportive touch, generous individuals empower others while simultaneously strengthening their own position. Research with basketball teams reveals that players who engage in more encouraging physical contact with teammates contribute to better team performance. These seemingly trivial exchanges of support create an atmosphere of mutual empowerment that enhances collective achievement. Expressing gratitude similarly sustains power by dignifying others and acknowledging their contributions. When we communicate appreciation, whether through words, gestures, or public recognition, we activate reward circuits in recipients' brains and strengthen social bonds. Expressions of gratitude spread through networks, generating contagious goodwill that enhances cooperation and trust. Studies show that romantic partners who regularly express appreciation maintain stronger relationships, and workplaces characterized by gratitude show higher productivity and employee retention. Storytelling that unites people around shared values and experiences provides a fourth path to enduring influence. Effective stories make sense of complex challenges, provide perspective on conflicts, and create coherent narratives that help groups navigate difficulties. Leaders who tell inclusive stories that emphasize common ground rather than division build stronger coalitions and inspire collective action. Research indicates that groups with members skilled at playful, inclusive storytelling demonstrate greater cohesion and creative problem-solving. These four practices—empathy, giving, expressing gratitude, and unifying storytelling—create social interactions that advance collective welfare while maintaining the practitioner's influence. They represent the antithesis of power's corrupting tendencies; rather than exploiting others for personal gain, they empower others while simultaneously strengthening the individual's position within the group. The paradox resolves when we recognize that serving others' interests ultimately serves our own interest in maintaining influence.

Chapter 4: The Abuses of Power and Their Costs

When individuals experience power without accountability, they frequently succumb to behaviors that undermine the very qualities that earned them influence. This corruption manifests in four primary ways, each representing a deviation from the other-focused practices essential to enduring power. These abuses occur not just among dictators or corporate titans but potentially in anyone experiencing power without appropriate constraints. First, power diminishes empathy and moral sentiments like compassion, gratitude, and elevation. Research consistently shows that individuals induced to feel powerful perform worse on tests measuring emotional intelligence, demonstrate reduced mirroring of others' expressions, and show less activation in brain regions associated with perspective-taking. Upper-class individuals report less compassion for others' suffering and show reduced physiological responses associated with caregiving. This empathy deficit makes the powerful less attuned to others' needs and less moved by their experiences. Second, power increases self-serving impulsivity, leading to behavior that prioritizes immediate gratification over ethical considerations. Studies reveal that people feeling powerful are more likely to take extra cookies from a shared plate, drive recklessly, cheat in games, and engage in sexual infidelity. Wealthier individuals more frequently violate traffic laws, lie for financial gain, and take resources meant for others. These impulsive actions reflect power's tendency to focus attention on rewards while diminishing awareness of risks or ethical constraints. Third, power corrupts civil discourse through disrespectful communication. Contrary to assumptions that the privileged demonstrate greater politeness, research shows that powerful individuals more frequently interrupt others, speak out of turn, and communicate in blunt, insensitive ways. They use fewer softening phrases and back-channel responses that signal respect for others' viewpoints. In workplace studies, individuals in positions of authority perpetrate incivility three times more frequently than those with less power, creating environments characterized by disrespect and diminished trust. Fourth, power generates narratives of exceptionalism that justify inequality and privilege. When asked to explain economic disparities or different life outcomes, individuals from higher socioeconomic backgrounds typically attribute success to inherent qualities like talent and intelligence rather than systemic advantages or historical circumstances. These explanations frame the powerful as biologically exceptional, deserving of their privileged position through superior ability rather than circumstance. Such narratives rationalize self-serving behavior while diminishing responsibility toward others. These abuses of power create significant societal costs, undermining trust, collaboration, and the social fabric. Organizations led by individuals exhibiting these behaviors experience reduced productivity, innovation, and employee commitment. Communities suffer from diminished social capital and civic engagement. Most importantly, these behaviors trigger a self-reinforcing cycle in which the powerful lose the very qualities that enabled their rise, eventually undermining their influence and effectiveness.

Chapter 5: The Price of Powerlessness in Society

Powerlessness exacts profound psychological and physiological tolls that extend far beyond economic hardship. Individuals with diminished power face environments characterized by persistent threat—from physical dangers like pollution and noise to social threats like discrimination, surveillance, and institutional exclusion. This chronic exposure to threat creates a state of hypervigilance that fundamentally alters how the brain and body function. The biology of powerlessness centers on stress response systems that evolved to address immediate dangers but become harmful when continuously activated. The hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis releases cortisol into the bloodstream, preparing the body for fight-or-flight responses by increasing heart rate, blood pressure, and glucose production. The immune system similarly activates inflammatory responses. While these reactions are adaptive for temporary threats, their chronic activation damages multiple bodily systems. This persistent stress dramatically undermines cognitive function and performance. By directing mental resources toward threat detection, chronic stress impairs creative thinking, decision-making, and academic achievement. Brain scans reveal that poverty-related stress actually restricts brain growth in regions critical for language, planning, and reasoning. These neurological effects help explain achievement gaps that have nothing to do with inherent ability and everything to do with the cognitive consequences of powerlessness. The health implications of powerlessness are equally severe. Individuals from lower socioeconomic backgrounds show higher rates of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, respiratory illness, and premature aging at the cellular level. Growing up in poverty increases inflammation markers that predict future disease and accelerates telomere shortening, a key indicator of biological aging. These physiological effects persist even when individuals achieve upward mobility later in life, suggesting that early powerlessness leaves a biological imprint that continues to affect health decades later. Perhaps most troubling, powerlessness undermines psychological wellbeing and sense of purpose. Contrary to myths about the anxious wealthy and carefree poor, research consistently shows that individuals with less power experience higher rates of anxiety, depression, and diminished life satisfaction. The chronic stress of powerlessness disrupts sleep, impairs concentration, and reduces the capacity for pleasure—creating a cascade of psychological challenges that further undermine performance and health. These findings reveal that powerlessness represents one of society's most significant public health challenges. They also suggest that addressing power imbalances through interventions that reduce identity threat, provide psychological resources, and create environments where all individuals feel valued could dramatically improve health, wellbeing, and human potential. Understanding the price of powerlessness provides a powerful antidote to the abuses of power by keeping attention focused on those who suffer most from power imbalances.

Chapter 6: Five Principles for Transcending the Power Paradox

Understanding the paradoxical nature of power allows us to develop practices that promote lasting, ethical influence. These principles don't eliminate power dynamics but transform how we navigate them, enabling more individuals to make meaningful contributions while avoiding the corruption that often accompanies influence. The first principle involves cultivating awareness of our feelings of power. By recognizing power as the capacity to make a difference rather than as status or wealth, we can attune ourselves to moments when we experience the distinctive excitement and sense of purpose that accompanies influence. This awareness helps us identify our unique contributions and stay connected to the fundamental human drive to affect others positively. It also serves as an early warning system, alerting us when the euphoria of power begins to shift our focus from others to ourselves. Practicing humility constitutes the second principle for transcending the power paradox. Remembering that power is bestowed by others rather than inherent to ourselves counteracts the tendency toward entitlement and self-importance. Genuinely influential individuals acknowledge their dependence on others' support, remain open to criticism, and recognize that their power serves a purpose beyond self-gratification. This humble approach paradoxically enhances power by demonstrating commitment to collective rather than personal interests. The third principle involves cultivating generosity in all forms—sharing resources, creating opportunities, offering encouragement, and empowering others to act effectively. Research consistently shows that generous individuals build stronger networks, inspire greater loyalty, and ultimately achieve more enduring influence than those who hoard resources or opportunities. By lifting others up, we elevate our own position while simultaneously strengthening the entire social fabric. Practicing respect forms the fourth principle for ethical influence. By communicating genuine appreciation for others' dignity and worth through attentive listening, sincere questions, and acknowledgment of contributions, we create environments where everyone feels valued. This approach directly counters power's corrupting tendency toward disrespect and incivility. Those who consistently demonstrate respect build trust that sustains influence even through challenging circumstances. The final principle involves working to change the psychological context of powerlessness. By addressing systems and practices that devalue certain groups, create chronic threat, or undermine performance, we can reduce the harmful effects of power imbalances. This principle extends beyond personal interactions to institutional and societal levels, challenging us to confront racism, sexism, and economic structures that perpetuate unnecessary suffering. Together, these principles offer a pathway to influence that advances collective welfare rather than individual dominance. They suggest that the most profound form of power lies not in controlling others but in creating conditions where everyone can contribute meaningfully. By keeping our focus directed outward, remaining aware of our impact on others, and actively working to empower those with less influence, we can transcend the power paradox and build more collaborative, innovative, and compassionate communities.

Summary

The power paradox reveals a fundamental tension in human social dynamics: we gain influence through qualities that promote collective welfare, yet often lose these qualities once power is attained. This pattern explains why power so frequently corrupts and why genuine leadership proves so elusive. By redefining power as the capacity to make a difference rather than dominate others, we gain insight into how influence actually operates in families, workplaces, and communities. The transcendence of this paradox becomes possible when we recognize that enduring power depends on maintaining focus on others rather than ourselves. The practices that build lasting influence—empathy, generosity, gratitude, and inclusive storytelling—directly counter the self-serving tendencies that power naturally triggers. By cultivating awareness of how power affects our psychology, practicing humility, and working to reduce the harmful effects of powerlessness on others, we can transform power from a corrupting force into a vehicle for collective advancement. This understanding offers a path toward leadership that empowers rather than exploits, creating influence that endures because it continuously renews the very qualities upon which it depends.

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Dacher Keltner

Dacher Keltner is a professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, director of the Greater Good Science Center, and coeditor of Greater Good magazine. His research focuses on pro-social emotions, power, and moral reasoning."

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