Unbroken Bonds of Battle

Unbroken Bonds of Battle Plot Summary

Introduction

The price of freedom has a name, and a story. In the deserts of Iraq and the mountains of Afghanistan, bonds were forged that transcend time, space, and even death itself. These are not merely the connections between soldiers in combat, but deep, unbreakable ties that continue long after the guns fall silent. When a Marine steps on an improvised explosive device, losing both legs in an instant, it is not just his life that changes forever, but the lives of everyone connected to him. When a commanding officer loses men under his watch, the weight of that responsibility becomes a burden he carries for the rest of his days. The stories within these pages reveal the true nature of brotherhood in battle - not the sanitized, Hollywood version, but the raw, painful, and ultimately redemptive reality. Through the experiences of warriors like Greg Wrubluski, who commanded EOD teams in the deadliest areas of Afghanistan, and Amos Benjamin, who lost his brother in combat only to find family among his brother's fellow Marines, we witness how the crucible of combat transforms ordinary men and women into extraordinary beings capable of both tremendous sacrifice and profound love. These accounts demonstrate how the bonds formed in war's most desperate moments provide strength during the equally challenging battle of returning home, healing visible and invisible wounds, and finding purpose in a world that often struggles to understand what these warriors have endured.

Chapter 1: From Civilian to Warrior: The Call to Serve

The journey from civilian to warrior begins long before the first day of boot camp. For many, it starts with a sense of purpose, a desire to be part of something greater than themselves. Wesley Hunt, whose father served as a lieutenant colonel in the Army, grew up understanding that military service was more than a career choice—it was a family tradition. "Military service is literally what my family has been all about," Hunt explains. "We haven't just talked it; we live it. We understand that America, this country, this experiment, has to be defended every single generation. And if not me, then who does step up?" For others, like Nate Boyer, the path to service came through witnessing suffering abroad. In 2004, Boyer traveled to Darfur after hearing about the genocide taking place there. Despite having no special skills or college degree, he made his way to refugee camps where he distributed food and played soccer with children who had lost everything. "That was the first time that I really felt the urge to go somewhere to fight for those who couldn't fight for themselves," Boyer recalls. This experience eventually led him to join the Army Special Forces, where their motto—De Oppresso Liber, "To Free the Oppressed"—resonated deeply with his personal mission. Aaron Hale's journey took a different route. He first enlisted in the Navy as a cook, serving six years before deciding he wanted to play a more direct combat role in defense of his country. "Joining the military was like opening up a door to a whole new world," Hale reflects. He transitioned from the Navy to the Army with the explicit goal of becoming an Explosive Ordnance Disposal (EOD) technician, one of the most dangerous jobs in the military. His desire to serve in a greater capacity led him to walk toward bombs that others ran from. For Daniel Ridgeway, the decision to join the Marines and become an EOD tech came from seeing the impact of IEDs firsthand during his first deployment. While serving as a communications repair technician, he spotted an IED disguised as an MRE package on the road ahead. After watching EOD teams work, he was drawn to their mission of protecting fellow service members. "I was trained by the best and simply performed as expected in the environment I was placed in," Ridgeway says with characteristic humility. "With that said, as an EOD technician it was my responsibility to protect the incredibly brave Marines on the battlefield from the complex IED ambushes." Jacob Schick's path to the Marines was influenced by family history and a desire to serve like his grandfather, who fought at Iwo Jima in World War II. His grandmother, whom he called MeMe, shared stories of his grandfather's service and instilled in him values of sacrifice and giving back. "From her, I learned a lot about self-confidence and carrying yourself with pride and being proud of your name and where you come from," Schick remembers. This foundation prepared him for the challenges he would face as a Marine in Iraq, where his life would change forever when his vehicle hit a triple-stack tank mine. These diverse paths to service reflect a common thread: the desire to be part of something larger than oneself, to protect others, and to live a life of purpose. Whether motivated by family tradition, witnessing injustice, or seeking personal growth, each individual made a conscious choice to transform from civilian to warrior, stepping forward when many others step back.

Chapter 2: Band of Brothers: Finding Family in Uniform

The military creates bonds unlike any other institution in society. When young men and women leave their homes and families behind, they find themselves thrust into an environment where they must rely completely on those around them. This forced proximity, combined with shared hardship and purpose, creates relationships that often surpass blood ties in their strength and durability. As Nate Boyer explains, "Not that I want to there to be situations where people are struggling and dying, but to be in a place where you feel like everything you do matters, and it does, is special. We were fighting for those who can't fight for themselves. So to share that experience with others, that's a very rare thing." For Greg Wrubluski, finding family in the Marine Corps was particularly meaningful. Growing up with parents who divorced when he was in high school, Greg learned to shut himself off emotionally. The middle child, with an older brother off to college and a younger sister he didn't want to burden, Greg had few outlets for his feelings. The Marine Corps provided the structure, purpose, and brotherhood he needed. "It said a lot to me that all these people in boot camp were willing to set aside their differences and unite themselves for a common cause," Greg reflects. This unity would later define his leadership style as an EOD company commander, where he prioritized the welfare of his Marines above all else, including his own career advancement. The EOD community exemplifies this brotherhood in particularly powerful ways. As Johnny Joey Jones describes it, "The EOD community is somewhat of a fraternity." The dangerous nature of their work—disarming bombs that others run from—creates an intense bond among these specialists. Danny Ridgeway experienced this firsthand through his relationship with his mentor, Gunnery Sergeant Ralph "EJ" Pate. EJ trained Danny meticulously, preparing him to take over as team leader when needed. When EJ was later killed by an IED, the loss devastated Danny and the entire EOD community. Yet the bonds EJ had helped forge remained intact, supporting those who survived him. Amos Benjamin found unexpected guardians in his brother's EOD community after his older brother Adam was killed in action in Afghanistan. Greg Wrubluski, Adam's commanding officer, ensured that Amos remained connected to the unit. "You can't push away the people who care about you. And if you're one of those people being pushed, dig in your heels," Amos advises. This support network proved crucial when Amos himself was later injured and struggled with traumatic brain injury and the psychological aftermath of combat. The brotherhood that had embraced him because of his brother now sustained him through his own trials. Jacob Schick experienced the power of this brotherhood during his recovery from catastrophic injuries. While hospitalized, he met another severely wounded Marine named Ty. Despite their injuries—Schick had lost his right leg below the knee and suffered numerous other wounds, while Ty had lost his lips, nose, ears, and part of his cranium—they formed an immediate bond. "I made a deal with God," Schick recalls of the moment he was wounded. "All I ask is that you don't take me in front of my brothers." This concern for his fellow Marines, even in his moment of greatest peril, illustrates the depth of connection formed in combat. These stories reveal how the military transforms strangers into family. Through shared hardship, purpose, and values, service members create bonds that transcend background, ethnicity, and even time. As Lacy Gunnoe puts it, "When you are in a room where people have faith in themselves and a larger cause, that's winning. That brings you together in such a powerful way." These connections don't end when uniforms come off—they often grow stronger, providing critical support through the challenges of civilian life and recovery from the physical and psychological wounds of war.

Chapter 3: The Crucible of Combat: Testing Bonds Under Fire

Combat strips away pretense and reveals character in its rawest form. Under fire, theoretical bonds are tested and either strengthened or broken. For Danny Ridgeway, this crucible came in the fields of Sangin, Afghanistan, where he was tasked with clearing IEDs during some of the most intense fighting of the war. After his teammate stepped on an IED, Ridgeway faced a critical moment. Knowing there would be more IEDs nearby, he had to act quickly to save his wounded brother while protecting the rest of his team. He crawled on his stomach through dirt for forty meters, moving more quickly and less delicately than normal in his haste to reach the injured Marine. "I did my job," Ridgeway says with characteristic humility. "I had gone into the EOD field because I knew that the number one weapon used by the enemy in the Global War on Terrorism was IEDs." Throughout that day, Ridgeway ended up disarming eight IEDs, clearing paths for medical evacuation and protecting his fellow Marines. His actions earned him the Silver Star, but for Ridgeway, it was simply what needed to be done. The bonds formed with his teammates, particularly his mentor EJ Pate, had prepared him for this moment. Wesley Hunt experienced the crucible of combat as an Apache helicopter pilot flying missions over Baghdad. During one particularly intense engagement, Hunt and his copilot John Fuller spent seven hours providing air support for ground troops under heavy attack. "I was really proud of the four pilots on that mission," Hunt recalls. "I was pretty sure that we saved some American lives that day. That's always the best feeling. That's the reason we were there." Later, Hunt would meet the father of one of the infantrymen he had helped save that day. The man thanked him for preserving his son's life, a powerful reminder of what was at stake in these moments of crisis. For Greg Wrubluski, the test came when he lost men under his command, including his friend EJ Pate. "On one extremely hard day in June 2011, I was out on patrol with my team. The guy in front of me stepped on an IED and lost both legs. EJ was killed by an IED just a few minutes later," Greg recounts. Facing this devastating loss while still responsible for the safety and morale of his remaining Marines tested Greg's leadership to its limits. "I knew that those younger guys were thinking that if it could happen to him, then it could happen to them. What do you do when you have all those men looking at you to see how you're going to react, because we've still got a job to do?" Jacob Schick faced his crucible on September 20, 2004, when his vehicle hit a triple-stack tank mine in Iraq's Sunni Triangle. Blown thirty feet into the air and suffering catastrophic injuries, Schick remained conscious throughout the ordeal. "I made a deal with God," he recalls. "All I ask is that you don't take me in front of my brothers. Don't allow my family to watch me die." This concern for his fellow Marines, even in his moment of greatest peril, illustrates how deeply the bonds of brotherhood had penetrated his identity. Aaron Hale's test came during his deployment to Afghanistan as an EOD technician. "It was during that long, lonely walk about eight months into deployment that I was injured," Hale explains. The blast took away his eyes, cracked his skull, and ruptured both eardrums. Yet even in this devastating moment, Hale's thoughts turned to his teammates and the mission they still had to complete. Later, when bacterial meningitis took his hearing as well, leaving him both blind and deaf, the bonds he had formed with fellow service members would provide crucial support during his recovery. These crucible moments reveal the true nature of the bonds formed in military service. When faced with death, injury, and unimaginable stress, these warriors thought not of themselves but of their brothers and sisters in arms. The connections forged in these moments transcend ordinary friendship, creating relationships built on mutual sacrifice and absolute trust. As Nate Boyer observes, "We don't compare the two: sports are games and war is war. But losing the identity that you had, that sense of purpose, that team, is something that individuals in both worlds share and face difficulties with."

Chapter 4: Wounds Visible and Invisible: Healing Together

The journey home from war often proves as challenging as combat itself. Physical injuries may heal with time and medical intervention, but the invisible wounds of trauma, grief, and loss of purpose can linger for years or decades. For many warriors, the bonds formed in battle become essential lifelines during this difficult transition. When Aaron Hale lost his sight to an IED blast and later his hearing to bacterial meningitis, he found strength in the connections he had formed with fellow service members. His EOD teammate Kiel Vickers, who had lost a leg in combat, visited Hale in the hospital with a unique proposition: "Dude, you have got to start growing your beard. You and me, we're going to do it. Beard brothers!" This seemingly small gesture represented something profound – a reminder that Hale was still part of a brotherhood that understood him completely. "That's what brothers do for one another," Hale reflects. "They don't always ask; they tell you what's best for you." This support extended beyond the hospital, as Hale connected with other wounded veterans who had rebuilt their lives despite catastrophic injuries. These relationships helped him envision a future beyond his disabilities, inspiring him to become an athlete, entrepreneur, and advocate for other wounded warriors. For Jacob Schick, healing came through sharing his story with others. Initially reluctant to discuss his PTSD and traumatic brain injury, Schick found that opening up about his struggles helped both himself and fellow veterans. "If talking about my experiences and exposing my vulnerabilities will help others, then that's what I do. That's what warriors do to help their brethren," he explains. This philosophy led Schick to found the One Tribe Foundation, which combats suicide among veterans, first responders, and medical workers by fostering connection and understanding. Amos Benjamin's healing journey illustrates the critical importance of having brothers who refuse to give up on you. After multiple combat deployments and a traumatic brain injury, Benjamin struggled with substance abuse and suicidal thoughts. In his darkest moment, sitting in a deer blind with a rifle, contemplating ending his life, Benjamin experienced what he describes as a spiritual intervention. Later, his friend Joey Jones connected him with resources that ultimately led to proper treatment for his TBI. "You can't push away the people who care about you," Benjamin advises. "And if you're one of those people being pushed, dig in your heels." Greg Wrubluski carries the weight of responsibility for the Marines lost under his command, particularly his friend EJ Pate. "I keep in regular communication with EJ's family," Greg shares. "Memorial Day, Veterans Day, the anniversary of his death. Random days. I keep it together with them, much like I did with the rest of my team. But as soon as I hang up that phone with his mom and dad, I'm an emotional wreck." For Greg, healing comes through maintaining these connections and through the group text he shares with about fifteen friends from his unit. "I'm not gonna lie to you: If I hadn't gotten on that thing, at one point in my life, I'd be dead. I would have killed myself. That's a fact." Stacy Greer, whose husband Daniel was killed in Afghanistan, found healing through the unexpected family that emerged from tragedy. Daniel's fellow Marines, particularly his commanding officer Nathan Opie, remained connected to Stacy and her young son Ethan. "Every one of those Marines came up to me and hugged me first before they greeted their family members," Stacy recalls of the unit's homecoming. "They wrapped me in their arms and that all felt so good." These relationships continue today, providing support, memories of Daniel, and a sense of belonging that transcends his physical absence. These stories reveal how the bonds formed in battle become crucial to healing afterward. Whether recovering from physical injuries, battling PTSD and depression, or grieving lost brothers, these warriors find strength in their connections to one another. As Keith Stancill explains about his friendship with Joey Jones and Chris McDonald, "They were the people I wanted to talk with about what I'd experienced, what they'd experienced, because we really knew each other." In a society that often struggles to understand the warrior experience, these bonds provide recognition, understanding, and the space to heal together.

Chapter 5: Beyond the Battlefield: Continuing the Mission

When warriors return home, they often struggle to find purpose equivalent to their military service. For many, the solution lies in continuing their mission in new ways – serving others, advocating for fellow veterans, and applying the skills and values developed in combat to civilian challenges. Nate Boyer exemplifies this approach through his work with Merging Vets and Players (MVP), an organization he co-founded with Jay Glazer to help both veterans and former professional athletes navigate the difficult transition away from their former identities. "We bring the two different teams together," Boyer explains. "We help them walk that walk together. That lets them know that they're not alone." Boyer's insight that veterans and athletes face similar challenges – losing the identity that defined them, often at a young age and not on their own terms – has helped countless individuals find new purpose. "You're not the uniform you wore," Boyer tells them. "You put that uniform on. Yes, it was a part of who you are, but the essential elements of you are still there." This message resonates deeply with those struggling to redefine themselves after military service, offering a path forward that honors their past while embracing new possibilities. Jacob Schick found his post-military purpose through founding the One Tribe Foundation, which works to prevent suicide among veterans, first responders, law enforcement officers, and frontline medical workers. What began as the 22 Pushup Challenge – raising awareness about the twenty-two veterans who take their lives each day – has grown into a comprehensive organization that treats not just individuals but entire families affected by service-related trauma. "Help is out there. Hope is out there. Success is out there," Schick emphasizes. "It comes in lots of ways, shapes, and forms, and you just have to be open to it." Aaron Hale refused to let his blindness and hearing loss define his future. After leaving the military, he channeled his creativity into entrepreneurship, founding a successful fudge-making business. He also became an athlete and adventurer, completing marathons, climbing mountains, and kayaking whitewater with the help of guides. "I was so scared of being trapped by my situation," Hale admits. "I dreaded the thought of being stuck on the couch in my house feeling sorry for myself, crawling into a bottle or popping pills for the rest of my life." By embracing new challenges and inspiring others through his example, Hale found purpose beyond his military service. Wesley Hunt took his leadership skills into politics, winning election to Congress in 2022. "In 2018, we had the fewest number of veterans serving in the halls of Congress in our history," Hunt explains. "When you see this many veterans getting involved politically, that's kind of the canary in the coal mine." For Hunt, serving in Congress represents a continuation of his mission to protect and strengthen America, applying the values and perspective gained through military service to the challenges facing the nation. Lacy Gunnoe found his purpose in mentoring and teaching others, first as an instructor pilot in the Air Force and later in civilian life. Drawing on his own experience of overcoming self-doubt through the belief others placed in him, Gunnoe works to instill confidence in those he teaches. "If I can play just a small part in helping someone believe that they can do something greater than they first thought, then that's the greatest currency I can ever possess," he reflects. "How much impact you have on the lives of others is how you measure success." For Stacy Greer, continuing the mission means raising her son Ethan to know his father's legacy and supporting other Gold Star families. Through organizations like Tunnel to Towers Foundation, which helped pay off her mortgage, Stacy has found a community of support that understands her experience. "In a way, it's like I've landed in some kind of safety net," she explains. "So many people and so many organizations are all entangled together." By accepting this support and offering it to others, Stacy honors Daniel's spirit of service. These stories demonstrate how the warrior ethos of service continues long after uniforms are hung up. By finding new ways to serve, lead, and support others, these veterans transform their military experience into a foundation for meaningful civilian lives. As Aaron Hale observes, "I'd been living for me. It wasn't until I really learned to serve others that I found my joy, my purpose in life."

Chapter 6: Legacy of Service: Passing the Torch Forward

The true measure of service lies not just in what is accomplished during active duty, but in how that spirit of sacrifice and dedication continues to influence others long after the uniform comes off. For these warriors, passing the torch means ensuring that the values they fought for – courage, integrity, selflessness, and unwavering commitment to others – continue to shape future generations. Wesley Hunt embodies this principle through his service in Congress, where he works to preserve the America he and his family members defended in uniform. "We need to go back to how we felt post-9/11, when we were united and fought for and not against one another," Hunt argues. "We all know what it's like to feel kinship, like a family, like a team, like a unified, focused group that is striving in the same direction." This desire to rebuild national unity reflects the bonds these warriors experienced in service – bonds that transcended background, ethnicity, and political affiliation in pursuit of a common mission. By bringing this perspective to public service, Hunt and other veteran-politicians seek to heal divisions and remind Americans of their shared values and interests. As Hunt notes, "Bonds can be broken, but they can be put together again. That's why I served then and continue to serve today." For Jacob Schick, passing the torch means ensuring that the sacrifices made by his fallen brothers are not forgotten. Through the One Tribe Foundation, he works to prevent suicide among veterans and first responders, honoring those lost in battle by saving lives at home. "I feel like I owe it to the people who can't hug their daughter, wife, brother or sister, mom or dad, to live a magnificent life," Schick explains. This sense of obligation to the fallen drives him to share his story, expose his vulnerabilities, and reach out to those struggling with invisible wounds similar to his own. Lacy Gunnoe's legacy of service continues through the pilots he trained and the lives he touched as an instructor. By believing in students who doubted themselves – like Diego, the international student struggling with English, or David, who wanted to honor his deceased father by following in his footsteps – Gunnoe created a chain of belief that extends far beyond his direct influence. "I was able to change my self-doubting mindset because others believed in me," Gunnoe reflects. "And that's what I wanted to do for other people so that chain of belief could keep having links added to it." Aaron Hale passes the torch by demonstrating what's possible despite catastrophic injuries. Through his athletic achievements, entrepreneurship, and family life, he shows other wounded warriors that blindness, deafness, or other disabilities need not define their futures. "Having somebody say to you, 'You helped me through a really hard day, just telling me about your hard day,'" Hale notes, provides fulfillment beyond personal accomplishment. By sharing his journey openly, Hale inspires others to push beyond perceived limitations and embrace life's possibilities. For Stacy Greer, passing the torch means raising her son Ethan to understand his father Daniel's legacy of service and sacrifice. Though Daniel died when Ethan was just twenty-two months old, Stacy ensures he knows his father through stories shared by Daniel's fellow Marines and firefighters. This connection to his father's extended brotherhood provides Ethan with male role models who embody the values Daniel lived by, ensuring that his influence continues through his son. Greg Wrubluski's legacy lives on through the EOD technicians he trained and led, many of whom continue to serve or have transitioned to civilian careers where they apply the skills and values he instilled. Despite the heavy burden of responsibility he carries for those lost under his command, Greg takes pride in seeing his Marines succeed in various endeavors. "I've gotten to see them growing their families and moving into different professions and becoming successful in all kinds of endeavors," he observes. "They're winning. That's incredibly rewarding to see." These stories reveal how the spirit of service extends far beyond active duty, creating ripples of influence that touch countless lives. By continuing to embody the values they fought for, supporting fellow veterans, mentoring the next generation, and working to strengthen their communities and country, these warriors ensure that their service becomes not just a chapter in their own lives, but a lasting legacy that inspires others to pick up the torch and carry it forward.

Summary

The unbreakable bonds forged in battle represent humanity's capacity for profound connection in the face of extreme adversity. Through the stories of these warriors – from Greg Wrubluski's unflinching leadership and Jacob Schick's resilient spirit to Aaron Hale's determination to thrive despite blindness and deafness – we witness how shared hardship creates relationships that transcend ordinary friendship. These bonds don't end when the fighting stops; they evolve to support recovery from physical and psychological wounds, provide purpose beyond military service, and create legacies that inspire future generations. Perhaps the most powerful lesson these warriors offer is that true strength lies not in individual accomplishment but in our connections to others. As Amos Benjamin discovered after contemplating suicide, "You can't push away the people who care about you. And if you're one of those people being pushed, dig in your heels." This wisdom applies not just to veterans but to all who face life's battles, whether visible or invisible. By embracing vulnerability, reaching out when we struggle, and showing up consistently for those who need us, we can forge our own unbreakable bonds that sustain us through life's darkest moments and brightest triumphs. The brotherhood these warriors exemplify reminds us that while we may fight many battles alone, we need never face the war of life in isolation.

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