Do Pause

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Introduction

In our hyper-connected world, we've come to equate constant activity with productivity and worth. The ping of notifications, the endless scroll of information, and the cultural pressure to always be "on" have created a relentless pace that rarely allows us to catch our breath. Yet amid this perpetual motion, something essential is being lost. The spaces between our actions—those seemingly empty moments of pause—hold untapped potential for creativity, connection, and clarity that we routinely sacrifice at the altar of efficiency. The art of pausing is not about adding another task to your already crowded to-do list. Rather, it's about discovering a different way to engage with time itself. When we learn to pause mindfully, we don't just take a break from activity—we open doorways to deeper thinking, authentic connection, and renewed energy. Throughout this exploration, we'll discover how brief moments of pause can transform our creative processes, enhance our relationships, and allow us to access different qualities of mind that remain dormant in constant busyness. The power of pause isn't found in stopping completely, but in creating a rhythm that honors both action and reflection, allowing us to experience time not as something to be conquered, but as something to be savored.

Chapter 1: Understanding the Nature of Pause

A pause might seem like the simplest concept—just a momentary cessation of activity—yet when we examine it closely, its nature proves surprisingly complex and multifaceted. A pause is not merely the absence of action but rather a dynamic space where different kinds of activity can flourish. Unlike a complete stop, which suggests termination, a pause implies continuation—it's a temporary suspension that creates room for something else to occur. What makes pause particularly interesting is its variable duration. How long is a pause? It might be three seconds of silence in conversation, a fifteen-minute walk between meetings, or a weekend retreat from regular life. The timeframe shifts according to context, yet we intuitively recognize all these as pauses. This elasticity is part of what makes pause such a versatile tool—it operates outside the fixed measures of clock time, functioning more as a quality that infuses a period rather than a strictly defined unit. The effects of a pause extend beyond its duration, leaving what artist Tom Hiscocks describes as a "marinade" or flavor that lingers afterward. A weekend retreat might be brief, yet its influence can be felt for months. Similarly, knowing a pause is coming can serve as a "forward anchor," helping us navigate challenging periods with the knowledge that space awaits us. This anticipatory effect demonstrates how pause works on multiple levels simultaneously. Contrary to common assumption, pausing doesn't necessarily mean slowing down. Skilled improvisers, athletes, and leaders know that strategic pauses actually enhance flow and speed. In theatrical improvisation, novices rush while experienced performers know precisely when to pause, creating more coherent narratives. Tennis players and cricketers achieve their "ultra-fast" reflexes through microsecond pauses that allow for better decision-making. This paradox—that pausing can accelerate rather than delay—reveals its sophisticated relationship with timing and rhythm. Most importantly, a pause is not empty—something significant always happens within it. As meditation teacher Rachel Lebus notes, even in meditation the mind isn't truly still or empty. Rather, a pause is what philosopher and author Dov Seidman beautifully encapsulates: "When you press the pause button on a machine it stops. But when you press the pause button on human beings, they start." This profound observation points to the generative nature of pause—it's not an absence but a shift of attention and activity that allows different mental processes to emerge and flourish.

Chapter 2: The Science Behind Pausing

The human brain isn't designed for constant, uninterrupted activity. While we often pride ourselves on multitasking abilities, neuroscience reveals that our cognitive systems function best with rhythmic alternation between focused attention and periods of rest. When we operate without pauses, we primarily engage what Nobel Prize-winning psychologist Daniel Kahneman calls "System 1"—our fast, automatic, and often reactive thinking mode. This keeps us in a perpetual state of alert responsiveness but limits access to "System 2"—our more deliberate, creative, and contemplative mental processes. This distinction between different thinking modes appears across various psychological theories. From Freud's conscious and unconscious mind to Guy Claxton's "Hare Brain, Tortoise Mind," researchers consistently identify at least two distinct cognitive systems at work within us. What these theories share is recognition that our deeper, more innovative thinking emerges not during constant activity but in the spaces between focused effort—what Claxton calls the "undermind." This slower, associative thinking operates largely below conscious awareness but becomes accessible during pauses. Creativity research strongly supports this neurological need for interruption. Steven Johnson, in his study of innovation, identifies the "slow hunch" as central to breakthrough thinking. He observes that truly novel ideas rarely emerge from continuous work but require periods of incubation—deliberate pauses where the mind can form new connections. When James Webb Young outlined his technique for producing ideas in 1934, he explicitly included a stage of "mental digestion" or disconnection from the problem. Nearly a century later, modern creativity research continues to validate this pattern. These insights explain why our best ideas often arrive during moments of pause—while showering, walking, or just after waking. The dramatic "eureka moments" that seem to appear from nowhere are actually the final breakthrough of thoughts that have been developing in our undermind during periods of pause. This isn't mystical but neurological—when we pause, we allow different neural networks to activate, particularly the default mode network associated with autobiographical thinking, social cognition, and creative connections. The physiological benefits of pause extend beyond cognitive function. Brief pauses help regulate our autonomic nervous system, shifting us from sympathetic "fight-or-flight" activation to parasympathetic "rest-and-digest" mode. This transition reduces stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline while increasing recovery hormones. Even micro-pauses of a few seconds for deep breathing can interrupt stress cycles, explaining why techniques as simple as "counting to one" before entering a room can significantly alter our mental state and subsequent interactions.

Chapter 3: Pauses in Daily Routine

Integrating pauses into daily life doesn't require dramatic lifestyle changes—it can begin with small, intentional moments that gradually reshape your relationship with time. The beauty of these micro-pauses is their accessibility; they require minimal time investment while offering immediate effects on your mental state and perspective. Film director David Keating describes how just adding "the length of a breath or two" before calling "action" on set completely transforms the energy and focus of an entire film crew. This principle—that a few seconds can shift an entire experience—works equally well in everyday situations. One of the simplest daily practices involves breath awareness. When facing a challenging situation or before responding in a conversation, shifting attention to your belly, softening it, and taking one conscious breath creates a tiny but powerful gap between stimulus and response. This brief pause interrupts automatic reactions and allows for more thoughtful engagement. Improvisational actors use this technique constantly, recognizing that these momentary pauses don't slow down performance but actually enhance timing and connection with others. Physical movement offers another natural opportunity for daily pauses. Leadership coach Justin Wise often recommends that clients leave their desk two or three times daily to walk around the block. While initially self-conscious about this practice, many find it becomes indispensable, providing access to bodily awareness and insights unavailable at their desks. Even walking more deliberately to meetings—contrary to the instinct to rush—can dramatically alter your mental state upon arrival. Emergency responders are specifically trained not to run to casualties because the clarity gained from collecting your thoughts outweighs the value of arriving seconds earlier. Transitions between activities provide natural pause points throughout the day. The journey to and from work, often seen as wasted time, can be reframed as valuable transition space. Rather than filling this time with productivity through calls or emails, try creating an empty space where you can simply observe your surroundings or internal state. Former CEO Tom Hockaday developed a daily "Take Five" practice—five minutes of undirected reflection before leaving work each day to help close the workday and prevent carrying work thoughts home. Similarly, leadership coach Gil Dove suggests pausing for thirty seconds on your doorstep before entering home, creating space to transition from work mode to being fully present with loved ones. Writing and drawing offer structured ways to pause that engage different parts of the brain. Julia Cameron's "Morning Pages"—three pages of stream-of-consciousness writing first thing in the morning—create a reflective space before the day begins. For those who prefer visual expression, committing to even three minutes of daily drawing or doodling provides a similar mental shift. The key isn't artistic quality but the act of slowing down and observing differently. These practices don't require significant time but create meaningful interruptions to habitual patterns of thinking, allowing new perspectives to emerge naturally.

Chapter 4: Designing Effective Breaks

Beyond the micro-pauses of daily life lie more substantial, deliberately designed breaks that operate at a different level of depth and intensity. These aren't simply longer versions of daily pauses but qualitatively different experiences that allow for profound shifts in perspective. Bill Gates famously instituted "Think Weeks"—periods of complete disconnection from daily operations where he would retreat with carefully selected reading materials to contemplate big-picture questions and trends. These deeper pauses became crucial to Microsoft's strategic direction, demonstrating their potential impact beyond personal refreshment. Creating effective breaks requires recognizing that not all time is experienced equally. As one Oxford leadership program participant noted: "Time is different here: baggy, generous: ambling, then dashing at the pace of light and landscape." This subjective experience of time means that a well-designed break of just a few days can have effects lasting months or even years. A parent who attended a weekend creativity retreat reported that "eighteen months later, those two days are still nourishing our family." This extended impact occurs because these pauses allow for immersion and vividness that leave lasting impressions, unlike the blur of regular activity. The most powerful element in designing effective breaks is location. Physical environment profoundly affects mental state, making the choice of place the single most important decision in creating a meaningful pause. Natural settings are particularly effective at triggering mental shifts through their beauty, timelessness, and contrast with technological environments. However, even in busy cities, pockets of contemplative space exist—parks, museums, historical sites, or simply unfamiliar neighborhoods that invite different perspectives. The key is finding environments that interrupt habitual patterns of thought and movement. Boundaries are crucial to effective pauses. Digital connectivity in particular must be consciously managed—whether through complete disconnection, scheduled check-ins, or choosing locations with limited coverage. These boundaries must be clearly communicated to others so they understand your unavailability for "business as usual." Without clear signals and firm boundaries, the everyday world will inevitably encroach, undermining the purpose of the pause. As one retreat participant advised about spotty Wi-Fi: "The Wi-Fi here is crap. [pause] Make sure you keep it that way." Unlike most projects, the design of an effective pause should begin with open intentions rather than specific goals. Having a narrowly defined outcome limits possibilities to what you can already imagine, whereas an open intention allows for unexpected discoveries. The Reading Retreat mentioned in the book asks participants to bring questions they're curious about rather than problems to solve, creating space for exploration rather than achievement. This approach—tight on structure but open to emergence—creates the conditions for insights that couldn't be anticipated or planned for, making pause a portal to possibilities beyond current thinking.

Chapter 5: Cultural Dimensions of Pause

Pause isn't just an individual practice but exists within cultural frameworks that either support or undermine our ability to create meaningful interruptions. Different cultures embody dramatically different relationships with time, pace, and the value of non-productivity. Science fiction writer William Gibson famously observed that "the future is already here, it's just not evenly distributed." The author extends this insight by noting that if the future is unevenly distributed, so must be the past—meaning that different temporal rhythms coexist simultaneously across various locations and communities. Rural cultures often maintain slower, more cyclical relationships with time based on natural rhythms of seasons and harvests. The author describes olive harvesting in rural Spain as work that "takes the time it takes," with no possibility of acceleration or efficiency hacks. Even the chaotic queue at the cooperative olive press becomes a valuable social space where community bonds form through unhurried conversation. These older cultural patterns provide a natural container for pause, where the expectation of constant productivity simply doesn't exist. By connecting with such cultural spaces—whether through travel, relocation, or even brief visits—we can access different "time zones" that alter our experience regardless of the clock. Religious and spiritual traditions have long institutionalized pause through practices like the Sabbath—a weekly day of rest integrated into the social fabric. This regularity makes observance easier; the pause simply arrives without requiring decision or justification. The author describes borrowing this tradition as a university student by designating a non-study day from sunset Friday to sunset Saturday, creating both a reliable break and a "forward anchor" that helped sustain focus during the week. Contemporary adaptations like "Screen-Free Saturdays" apply this ancient wisdom to modern challenges, creating culturally supported boundaries around technology use. New cultural forms are also emerging that consciously create space for pause. The Burning Man festival represents a contemporary experiment in creating liminal space—"a suspension of the status quo" where normal rules and identities can be temporarily set aside. Though vibrant and energetic rather than quiet, this annual gathering in the Nevada desert functions as a collective pause from conventional thinking, allowing experimentation with alternative possibilities. Such cultural innovations demonstrate that pause can be generative and dynamic rather than merely restful. Language itself shapes cultural attitudes toward pause. Having specific words for different types of breaks—like the Spanish "sobremesa" (lingering conversation after a meal) or "siesta"—legitimizes and reinforces their value. Bill Gates' deliberate naming of his retreats as "Think Weeks" signals their purpose and importance both to himself and others. Creating your own terminology for various pauses can similarly help establish and maintain them as valued practices rather than mere gaps in productivity. This linguistic framing represents how culture is both inherited and created, offering the opportunity to consciously shape our relationship with pause through the stories and language we choose.

Chapter 6: Pause as a Tool for Creativity

The relationship between pause and creativity is so fundamental that virtually every model of the creative process includes some form of deliberate interruption. From James Webb Young's 1934 classic "A Technique for Producing Ideas" to contemporary creativity research, experts consistently identify a stage variously called "incubation," "mental digestion," or simply "forgetting about it." Creative director Jack Foster explicitly names "Forget about it" as an essential phase in idea generation, recognizing that direct, continuous effort rarely produces innovative thinking. Instead, stepping away from a problem allows different mental processes to engage with it. This pattern exists because creativity requires access to what psychologist Guy Claxton calls the "undermind"—our slower, more associative thinking that operates largely below conscious awareness. While our analytical mind works well for logical problem-solving, it tends to follow established neural pathways. Creative breakthroughs require new connections between previously unrelated concepts, a process that happens most effectively when we're not consciously forcing it. Pause creates the conditions for these connections to form naturally, explaining why solutions often appear during showers, walks, or upon waking—moments when the analytical mind temporarily relaxes its grip. Pause supports creativity not just through mental incubation but by altering perception. Author Robert Poynton describes how his mountain walks had gradually become goal-oriented exercises in reaching the summit quickly, causing him to miss the views and experience. This narrowing of attention happens in creative work too—we become so focused on producing specific outcomes that we miss unexpected possibilities and connections. Regular pauses help maintain the open, receptive awareness essential for noticing unusual patterns or questions. As one retreat participant realized during contemplative time outdoors: "What if I think of my work, or career, as a field, not a path?" Such metaphorical shifts rarely emerge during focused productivity. For writers, artists, and other creative professionals, strategic pauses become essential technical tools. Writers often deliberately stop before completing a section, making a small start on the next before taking a break. This technique engages the undermind with the upcoming challenge while consciously attention is elsewhere. Musicians and performers similarly use pauses to create emotional dynamics, build tension, or allow for responsive connection. Far from being interruptions to creative work, these pauses are integral to its quality and impact, functioning as "a 'not doing' in order for something else to be done," as actor Phyllida Hancock describes it. Beyond specific techniques, establishing rhythms of engagement and disengagement creates sustainable creative practice. Designer Stefan Sagmeister takes a full year sabbatical every seven years, deliberately disconnecting from client work to explore new ideas without immediate application. He considers this both his best creative idea and best business decision, as the seeds planted during these pauses fundamentally redirect his studio's trajectory upon return. Others, like finance director Iain McIntosh, create shorter but more frequent pauses between projects. Both approaches recognize that creativity isn't sustained through constant production but through conscious alternation between different modes of engagement with ideas and materials.

Chapter 7: The Psychology of Time Perception

Our experience of time is remarkably subjective, varying dramatically based on our activities, emotions, and attention. As Einstein famously explained: "When you sit with a nice girl for two hours it seems like two minutes. When you sit on a hot oven for two minutes, it feels like two hours. That's relativity." This subjective variation isn't merely psychological illusion but reflects fundamental properties of time itself. Modern physics has demonstrated that time isn't the absolute, universal constant we intuitively assume—it's relative, local, and dependent on factors like velocity and gravitational fields. As physicist Carlo Rovelli puts it, "The single quantity 'time' melts into a spider-web of times." This scientific understanding liberates us from the tyranny of clock-time and the efficiency mindset it spawns. If time itself isn't uniform or absolute, why should we experience it as such? Instead of treating time as a scarce commodity to be managed, we can recognize it as an aspect of experience to be shaped and savored. This shift allows us to move from Benjamin Franklin's influential but limiting idea that "time is money" toward a more nuanced understanding that acknowledges different qualities and textures of time. Not all moments are created equal—some carry disproportionate meaning, influence, or intensity relative to their duration. Our minds themselves operate at different temporal rhythms. Psychologists have identified distinct cognitive systems that process information at different speeds and in different ways. Kahneman's "System 1" makes rapid, intuitive judgments while "System 2" engages in slower, more deliberative thinking. Author Iain McGilchrist similarly distinguishes between left-brain and right-brain modes of attention, each with its own temporal character. These different mental capacities experience and use time differently—some thrive on quick reactions while others require extended contemplation. Pausing allows us to access these varied cognitive modes, particularly those that operate outside our dominant, conscious awareness. McGilchrist describes the logical, sequential left brain as "the Berlusconi of the brain" because "it controls the media"—it dominates our conscious experience and is "vocal on its own behalf." Without deliberate pauses, this voice crowds out other mental capacities that might offer different perspectives or solutions. Pause creates bridges between these different minds, allowing us to experience the full range of our cognitive abilities rather than remaining stuck in one mode. The practical implication is that we can cultivate a more varied and textured relationship with time. Instead of frantically trying to cram more into each day, we can focus on getting more out of our experience by allowing ourselves to pause and move between different qualities of time. This creates what author Stefan Klein calls "a new culture of time" where "by giving more life to our time, we give more time to our life." We shift from managing time as an external commodity to finding our own internal rhythms, making time rather than being governed by it. This psychological reorientation doesn't eliminate life's demands but transforms our relationship with them, creating space for choice and agency within even the busiest schedules.

Summary

At its heart, the practice of pause offers a profound alternative to our culture's obsession with constant productivity and efficiency. Rather than attempting to squeeze more activities into each day—a strategy with diminishing returns and significant costs to wellbeing—pause invites us to develop a more nuanced relationship with time itself. It functions not as another task on our to-do list but as a portal between different modes of experience, allowing access to mental capacities that remain dormant during continuous activity. The richness of human experience emerges not from relentless forward motion but from the counterpoint between engagement and reflection, between doing and being. This shift represents a fundamental reframing of how we understand time and ourselves. Time isn't merely a scarce resource to be managed but a multidimensional medium to be experienced in various ways. Similarly, our minds aren't single, uniform processors but complex ecosystems with different modes of operation, each valuable in its own right. By pausing—whether for seconds between breaths, hours during a thoughtful walk, or days during a retreat—we access this fuller range of our cognitive and emotional capacities, expanding what's possible in our work, relationships, and inner lives. The question worth exploring isn't whether you can afford to pause, but whether you can afford not to. What dimensions of experience might you be missing in the rush from one task to the next? What insights, connections, or moments of beauty await in the spaces between your actions?

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Robert Poynton

I live off grid in rural Spain, 3km outside a small town that no-one has heard of. My most recent book, 'Do - Pause', was shaped by this place and its rhythms - both natural and human. I continue to write about pause. I think we need constant reminding that our best ideas and best selves come from variation, not from being 'always on'. 'Do - Pause' received so much attention when it was published last year, that I also decided to create The Pause Project (for more information see: www.pauseproject.space).'Do - Improvise' and 'Everything's an Offer', my two previous books, are both about improv and how the ideas and practices it rests on can help us in every day life and work. I believe that creating the conditions where good things can happen is more powerful than trying to control events or people. It is amazing to me that a body of ideas I first encountered nearly thirty years ago continue to be so helpful and so relevant.

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