The Power of Ownership

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Introduction

Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle of health frustration despite trying every trending diet, workout plan, or wellness hack? Many of us live our lives on autopilot, accepting fatigue, brain fog, and chronic stress as normal parts of modern life. We've been conditioned to believe that declining health is inevitable with age or that our genetics determine our destiny. But what if the problem isn't you—it's the system you're operating within? The truth is that optimal health isn't about perfection or following someone else's blueprint. It's about understanding your unique body and designing a personalized approach that works specifically for you. Throughout these pages, you'll discover how to break free from the "normal" that's keeping you stuck and embrace a different path—one where you take ownership of your health journey and create sustainable habits that align with your individual needs and circumstances. This isn't about quick fixes; it's about transforming your relationship with your body and reclaiming the energy, clarity, and vitality that should be your birthright.

Chapter 1: Recognize How Stress Impacts Your Body

Stress isn't just about feeling frazzled or overwhelmed—it's a physiological response that affects every system in your body. What many don't realize is that our bodies don't distinguish between different types of stress. Whether it's physical stress from intense exercise, mental stress from work deadlines, emotional stress from relationship challenges, or spiritual stress from questioning your purpose—your body processes it all through the same mechanisms. The story of Frank, an NHL team owner, illustrates this perfectly. Despite his tremendous success building multiple businesses and managing thousands of employees, Frank was experiencing rapid aging—looking twenty years older than his actual age. When he approached the author for help, Frank explained that despite doctors telling him he was "healthy for his age," he felt exhausted and unwell. What Frank didn't understand was that his body was drowning in chronic stress from multiple sources: poor sleep quality, irregular eating patterns, constant decision-making, and minimal recovery time. By measuring Frank's heart rate variability (HRV)—a key metric for understanding how the body adapts to stress—it became clear that his nervous system was stuck in a constant fight-or-flight state. His low HRV score of 21 indicated his body wasn't recovering properly between stress events. Frank's situation wasn't unique or inevitable; it was the result of living in what the author calls "default mode" rather than "design mode." The key to understanding stress lies in recognizing that your body has a stress capacity—like a cup that can only hold so much water. Every stressor adds water to your cup, while recovery practices poke holes in the cup, allowing water to drain. Frank needed to both reduce unnecessary stressors and increase his recovery practices to prevent his cup from constantly overflowing. Through implementing personalized habits around sleep timing, nutrition, physical movement, and deliberate recovery periods, Frank's HRV increased to 68 within six months. His cholesterol dropped by 50%, his blood sugar normalized, and—most importantly—he gained awareness of how specific behaviors were affecting his body's stress response. To apply this understanding to your own life, start by identifying your stress signals—disrupted sleep, digestive issues, frequent illness, or mood changes. Then, recognize which activities drain your cup versus those that help it release pressure. Remember, you don't have to accept chronic stress as normal. Your body is communicating with you constantly; learning to listen and respond is the first step toward taking ownership of your health.

Chapter 2: Measure Your Health Through Heart Rate Variability

Heart Rate Variability (HRV) is arguably the most powerful tool available for understanding how your body is adapting to stress and strain. Unlike other health metrics that focus on single aspects of wellness, HRV provides a holistic view of your nervous system's overall state and its ability to recover from all forms of stress—physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. When Justin first met with a successful 39-year-old business owner after one of his keynotes, the man was visibly frustrated. He had invested nearly $2,000 monthly in cutting-edge health technologies and supplements—cold plunges, sauna sessions, DNA testing, supplements, CrossFit classes, and a wearable device. Despite these investments, he felt worse than before: more frequent illness, constant fatigue, and growing confusion about his health. Looking at his wearable data, Justin immediately spotted the problem—his HRV averaged just 21, indicating chronic stress overload. The business owner had been viewing the colorful graphs and scores on his device without understanding what they meant. What he didn't realize was that his HRV data was telling a clear story: his body was in a constant state of fight-or-flight. When they correlated his calendar with the data, the pattern was unmistakable. His lowest HRV days coincided with travel, a sick child, a business crisis, and a marathon run—all different stressors that registered the same way in his body. For this man, the issue wasn't that he was doing the wrong things. The problem was that he was adding more stress (like extremely cold plunges at 34°F) to a system already overwhelmed. His late-night eating was disrupting his sleep quality, his intense workout schedule followed by three days of soreness was creating more stress, and his fasting window was too long for his current stress level. To apply HRV in your own life, understand that this measurement isn't about comparing yourself to others—it's about establishing your personal baseline and then tracking trends. A rising HRV over time indicates improved stress resilience and adaptation, while a declining trend signals your body is struggling to cope. The goal isn't a specific number but rather to understand how your daily habits affect your nervous system. You can measure HRV using chest straps or modern wearables like WHOOP or Oura rings. The key is consistency in measurement and tracking trends rather than daily fluctuations. By monitoring how specific behaviors impact your HRV—like alcohol consumption, late-night eating, meditation practice, or exercise timing—you gain personalized insight into what truly works for your unique body. Remember that HRV is typically highest during deep sleep and tends to decline naturally with age. However, by designing your lifestyle around stress management and recovery, you can maintain higher HRV levels than the average for your age group, potentially reflecting a younger biological age and greater longevity.

Chapter 3: Fuel Your Body with Personalized Nutrition

Nutrition isn't about following the latest diet trend or rigidly counting calories—it's about understanding how to fuel your unique body in a way that creates sustainable energy and minimizes unnecessary internal stress. What works beautifully for someone else might actually be harming you, which is why personalized nutrition is essential for optimal health. Take Cody, for example, who struggled for years with his nutrition despite seemingly doing "everything right." He was gluten-free, lactose-free, followed intermittent fasting protocols, and adhered to a paleo diet. Yet he constantly felt exhausted and was gaining weight. His HRV averaged a concerning 21, and his blood glucose levels swung wildly throughout the day. Looking deeper, it became clear that Cody's approach wasn't wrong—it just wasn't right for him. He was consuming many processed "paleo" convenience foods and restricted his eating to between 4-10 PM, creating a stress pattern his body couldn't handle. Working with Justin, Cody implemented a simpler approach focused on portion control and timing. Instead of following restrictive diet labels, he adopted what Justin calls the "3-2-1 rule": three meals daily with properly portioned protein, fats, carbs, and vegetables; two pieces of fruit with protein; and one large salad with protein. He shifted his eating window to 10 AM-6 PM and prioritized whole, unprocessed foods. Within eight weeks, Cody's HRV jumped to 49, his blood glucose stabilized, his energy returned, and the mental stress around food diminished dramatically. The key wasn't adding more complexity—it was finding simplicity that worked specifically for his body. The practical application of personalized nutrition involves several key principles. First, establish an eating window that supports your sleep quality by stopping meals three hours before bedtime. Second, focus on portion size using your hand as a guide—a palm-sized portion of protein, a thumb-sized portion of fats, a cupped hand of carbs, and a fist-sized portion of vegetables. Third, eat foods in a strategic order (vegetables first, then protein and fats, followed by carbohydrates) to regulate blood sugar. For deeper personalization, consider tools like continuous glucose monitors to understand your body's specific responses to foods, and cellular micronutrient testing to identify deficiencies at the cellular level. Your body may appear to have adequate nutrients in standard blood tests while actually suffering from functional deficiencies inside the cells, where it matters most. Remember that hydration is equally important—aim to drink half your body weight in ounces of water daily, with electrolytes added to maximize absorption. Most Americans are chronically dehydrated, creating unnecessary internal stress that impacts everything from cognitive function to recovery ability.

Chapter 4: Build Mental and Physical Resilience

Building resilience isn't just about physical strength or mental toughness—it's about developing the capacity to handle stress across all domains of life. This involves training both your body and mind intentionally, so you can withstand challenges and recover quickly from difficulties. Consider Tyler, an insurance and real estate business owner who was also pursuing his pilot's license while being a new father. Tyler viewed sleep as wasted time and proudly stayed up late working, believing this dedication was necessary for success. His wife, on the other hand, treated sleep as non-negotiable. Tyler's pattern led to a vicious cycle—chronic stress diminished his capacity to handle challenges, leading to breakdowns and illness every few months. He considered this normal until it culminated in a heart attack at age 43. Physical resilience begins with understanding that movement and training are distinct concepts. The author experienced this firsthand when transitioning from active coaching in the NHL to desk-based entrepreneurship. Despite maintaining his workout routine, he noticed his body feeling "off"—experiencing low back pain, hamstring tightness, and headaches. His HRV dropped from an average of 102 to 87. These were warning signals that his overall movement patterns had changed dramatically, even though he was still "exercising." The solution involved intentionally designing movement throughout his day—adding two 10-minute stretch sessions, taking walking meetings, and moving during previous sedentary periods. For building physical resilience, focusing on VO2 max (your body's oxygen utilization efficiency) provides tremendous benefits. Research shows that improving VO2 max correlates with higher HRV and lower mortality rates—potentially influencing longevity more than smoking cessation. Mental resilience requires equally intentional practice. Many successful people like Barry, a New York hedge fund CEO, mistakenly believe that mental toughness means pushing through stress without addressing it. However, true mental resilience comes from developing practices that help process and release stress effectively. Barry transformed his company culture by redesigning his office to include recovery spaces and changing client meetings from late-night dinners to wellness-focused activities. To build your own resilience, start with consistent habits: 30 minutes of focused, undistracted training daily; 90 minutes of zone 2 conditioning weekly (exercising at 60-70% of maximum heart rate); strength training three times weekly; and moving briefly every 90 minutes throughout your day. For mental resilience, dedicate 15 minutes daily to practices like meditation, breathwork, journaling, or reading growth-oriented material. Remember that resilience training is a stressor itself—it's normal to see temporary dips in HRV when increasing training intensity. The key is balancing challenge with adequate recovery through sleep, nutrition, and stress management techniques. This balance creates a stronger system that can handle greater stress in all areas of life.

Chapter 5: Design Your Environment for Optimal Recovery

Your environment shapes your behaviors far more than willpower ever could. From your physical spaces to the people you interact with, every aspect of your surroundings either supports or undermines your health. Recovery—the process of repairing and renewing your body and mind—requires intentionally designed environments that facilitate healing. Ava, a CEO who managed a business with operations in Japan, was on the verge of quitting her dream job because international travel was destroying her health. She had gained 30 pounds, took weeks to recover from time zone changes, and experienced mental breakdowns. After attending one of Justin's workshops, they built a personalized travel framework that included time zone adaptation strategies, supplementation protocols for flights, food timing recommendations, and a sleep kit with tools to make hotel rooms feel like home. A month later, Ava looked like a different person—energetic, lighter, and visibly happier. With tears in her eyes, she told Justin, "Thank you. What you did changed my life." The key wasn't that Justin did anything extraordinary—he simply helped Ava design a recovery-focused environment that worked specifically for her circumstances. Environmental design extends to social connections as well. Research shows that human touch and connection are crucial for reducing stress hormones. Something as simple as a 10-second hug releases oxytocin and dopamine while lowering cortisol levels. Studies suggest we need at least four hugs daily for survival, eight for maintenance, and twelve for growth. Justin and his wife implemented a habit of initiating two 10-second hugs for each other daily, ensuring both received the connection they needed regardless of busy schedules. Physical spaces profoundly impact recovery too. Even when we consciously stop noticing environmental stressors like construction noise or poor lighting, our bodies continue responding to them. Justin's wife transformed their Miami apartment by installing blackout curtains, setting up a temperature-regulating sleep system, using lavender spray on pillows, positioning his desk to maximize natural light, and creating easy access to movement spaces. For sleep environments specifically, focus on making spaces dark, quiet, cool, and comfortable. Use amber lighting in evenings, eliminate blue light from screens, and create a consistent wind-down routine. For workspaces, ensure access to natural light, minimize noise pollution, and arrange furniture to encourage movement breaks. The smallest environmental modifications can yield significant results. Barry, the hedge fund CEO mentioned earlier, completely transformed his company culture by replacing candy jars with fruit bowls and creating recovery spaces within the office. Client meetings moved from alcohol-centered dinners to wellness-focused activities, improving both health metrics and business relationships. To design your own recovery-optimized environment, start by assessing the spaces where you spend most of your time—home, car, and office. Identify one small change for each that would support better recovery, whether it's improving sleep quality, encouraging movement, or reducing unnecessary stress. Remember that environmental design isn't about perfection but intentionality.

Chapter 6: Create Habits That Work Specifically for You

Creating sustainable habits isn't about copying what works for others—it's about discovering what works specifically for you and building systems that make consistency inevitable. The journey to personalized habits requires experimentation, patience, and a willingness to trust your body's feedback over external advice. The story of a frustrated conference attendee illustrates this perfectly. After Justin's keynote, this successful 39-year-old business owner approached him, asking why despite trying everything Justin recommended—cold plunging, DNA testing, supplements, CrossFit, intermittent fasting, and wearing a health tracker—nothing seemed to work. The man was spending nearly $2,000 monthly on health interventions yet felt worse than before. The issue wasn't that he was doing the wrong things; it was that he was implementing habits without understanding how they affected his unique body. He was forcing himself into a cold plunge at 34°F because he heard it was healthy, without recognizing that his chronically stressed system (indicated by an HRV of 21) couldn't handle additional stressors. He was fasting until 3 PM and eating until bedtime, disrupting his sleep quality. He was pushing through intense CrossFit workouts then taking three days off due to soreness, creating an inconsistent stress pattern. After 30 minutes of education about his own data, the man's frustrated expression transformed into one of hope and clarity. "For the first time, I feel like I understand what I'm looking at and know what to do," he said. A month later, his feedback was just two words: "LIFE CHANGING." He'd lost 11 pounds, hadn't been sick despite an office flu outbreak, was sleeping better than ever, and finally felt in control of his health. To create habits that work specifically for you, start by understanding that habit formation typically takes about 66 days, not the commonly cited 21 days. The process moves through four phases: Plan, Routine, Rhythm, and Instinct. Most people get stuck in the Routine phase, where habits rely on specific times, places, or circumstances. The key to reaching the Rhythm and Instinct phases—where habits become automatic regardless of circumstances—is what Justin calls "accountable consistency." Three practical laws can help establish this consistency: The Never 2 Law (never miss two consecutive days of a habit), the 30 in 30 Law (dedicate 30 minutes daily to planning or executing your habit for 30 days), and the MVP Law (identify the Minimum Viable Progress you can make on disrupted days—even five minutes counts). Another powerful strategy is habit stacking—attaching new habits to existing ones. For example, if you already walk your dog daily, add 15 minutes of breathwork afterward. If family dinner is consistent, brush your teeth immediately after to prevent late-night eating. Remember that your body provides feedback through metrics like HRV. When you see your HRV improve after implementing certain habits, it creates a positive feedback loop that motivates continued consistency. This data-driven approach removes guesswork and allows you to design a truly personalized system based on what your body actually needs, not what someone else prescribes.

Chapter 7: Take Ownership of Your Health Journey

Taking ownership of your health journey means accepting full responsibility for your wellbeing while recognizing that you have the power to design a life that supports your unique needs. It's about moving from a passive approach where you simply follow others' advice to an active stance where you become the primary architect of your health. Justin shares his personal transformation from living in "default mode" to embracing a life by design. He describes waking up energized after using mouth tape to ensure nasal breathing throughout the night, stepping outside to capture the sunrise, completing his morning breathwork and spiritual practice, and welcoming a phlebotomist for his quarterly blood testing—all before heading to his workout with mental clarity and enthusiasm that had eluded him for years. "When you live a life by design," he writes, "everything you have been chasing suddenly turns around and begins chasing you." This transformation wasn't about perfection but about creating personalized systems aligned with his unique needs and values. The stories throughout the book demonstrate that this transformation is possible for anyone willing to take ownership. A 32-year-old entrepreneur who struggled with addiction and burnout increased her HRV from 14 to 111 and transformed her sleep from four hours nightly to nine. A 49-year-old executive with an HRV of just 20 implemented holistic changes that raised his score to 67 and completely renewed his leadership capacity. A 47-year-old real estate CEO reversed his path toward type 2 diabetes, improved his HRV by 24%, and reclaimed his vitality. The common thread among these success stories isn't genetic advantage or superhuman discipline—it's the decision to take ownership through personalized approaches. As Justin emphasizes, "You are not broken." The health challenges we face often stem not from internal failure but from living according to systems and expectations that don't align with our unique needs. To begin your ownership journey, start by examining your values and priorities. Create what Justin calls a "priority tree" that clarifies what matters most in your life, then ensure your calendar reflects those priorities. Identify which pillar of health needs your initial focus—Fuel, Build, Repair, or Renew—and implement one or two specific habits within that area. Remember that consistency trumps perfection. As John Maxwell told Justin, "Long-term consistency beats short-term intensity every single time." Your journey isn't about dramatic transformations but sustainable progress through habits that work specifically for you. Taking ownership means accepting that while you can't control everything in life, you can control your response, your habits, and your mindset. It's recognizing that health isn't something you achieve once but something you create daily through intentional choices. As Justin concludes, "You are more than capable, and it's already prepared for you. It is time to prepare yourself. Your new tomorrow starts today."

Summary

Throughout this journey, we've explored how taking ownership of your health requires breaking free from conventional wisdom and designing personalized approaches based on your unique body. From understanding how stress impacts your system to measuring your health through HRV, from fueling your body appropriately to creating environments that support recovery—each element works together to create a holistic approach to wellbeing. As Justin powerfully states, "You are not broken. You are perfect just the way you are, but you are too great to stay the same." The path forward begins with a single, transformative decision: to stop accepting what's normal and start embracing what's different. Choose one area from the book that resonated most deeply—whether it's improving sleep quality, implementing personalized nutrition, or designing recovery-optimized environments—and commit to consistent action in that domain. Remember that your body speaks a unique language, and learning to listen to its signals through metrics like HRV provides the guidance you need to create truly sustainable change. Your health transformation isn't about following someone else's blueprint but about designing a life that works specifically for you.

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Justin Roethlingshoefer

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